Have you ever felt like you needed new friends?

United States
March 14, 2013 12:03pm CST
I think I really need to grow my circle of friends and perhaps even make complete new ones. I think that some of the friends I have just tend to think that they are better than others. And they don't seem to have empathy for others they just tend to judge when their life isn't at all the same as mine. That is getting old as well as I need to make friends separate from my husband as we have problems and I really can't talk with those individuals about it because they are friends with him as well.
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@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I think I need new friends now, because I just moved here. I left my friends back home, but that doesn't mean we are no longer friends. We still talk and share secrets, but I can no longer hang out with them and do stuff. Aside from the distance, there is also the time zone to consider. I have been here for 2 months now, and I miss spending some time with friends.
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@violann (437)
• United States
14 Mar 13
If you think it's time to get new friends, then it's time. You'll know which ones to keep and which to leave behind. Truely true friends are hard to find and a rarity. Friendship as any relationship are difficult however a true friend will always be there for you, so figure out who you true friends are and forget the rest.
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• India
14 Mar 13
i really never felt like that that i am in need of a new friend , all my friends are very helpful but your situation sound like love problem. Well its all your decision.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 13
I sometimes feel this way too. But being a loner all my life I don't keep much friends as I need to. A lot of acquaintances, yes, but friends for keeps, not much. This is because of a bad experience when I was in sixth grade. I had this friend whom I helped prep up for an acting contest. I did everything for her, aid her practice, lend her my new clothes and acted like a stage mother (literally) when she was performing on stage. She did get the first prize but I didn't feel appreciated. After the contest she had a mini celebration with her "friends" and wore a pretty cool top and skirt. I was like, "what the heck?" Since then I did not try to be close to anyone (outside my family circle) other than my boyfriend. I may sound bitter but I feel that most people don't deserve my sincere friendship.
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• United States
14 Mar 13
I would also agree if I were in this situation. I needed new friends because the ones I dropped were using me for what they could get from me. I wish you luck because there are some really nice people out there. and just so you know my friend bj is a very nice person and she does not judge people. you will see her around the site. I think her user name is bjc something lol. take care.
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@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
15 Mar 13
In fact in the last 1-2 weeks, I was seriously thinking of the lack of few nice friends and I don't think I will get any one in this city as good or nice friend, that I had earlier in my childhood.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
15 Mar 13
ya for sure when my friends were in different places,i felt the burning urge and desire for them and needed them badly by my side
• United States
15 Mar 13
Through the years I have learned that no one is a true friend except for family and pets, It took me so long to figure them out and I hated that it had to be that way but it is nice to let go of old friends who truly all along not really your friend in the first place.
@krizzay (22)
15 Mar 13
Yes. When they become too judgmental to you. As if they don't know you anymore. :( I wanna find true friends who knows all your weaknesses and strengths,knows every good and bad side of you but still loves you and accepts you for who you are.
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
15 Mar 13
I've never had a circle of friends.. I have one or two at a time, but usually once I get to know them well I find things I don't like, so I stop considering them a friend and stop talking to them.
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
15 Mar 13
I have joined an online book club Goodreads and its for readers and authors alike. Its great because I get to write a review on books I've read that goodreads authors have written and they are many other groups and contests and fun things on the site. Also I , myself just published my first children's book. I've had a review from a goodreads friend and it wasn't too bad for my first book. If you enjoy reading or something else you should join a group and make friends with people you have something in common with ,that's my suggestion. Good luck!
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
15 Mar 13
I have think about it, but at the same moment I think I am glad with my few friends which are really good and always will help in hard life situations. You know that it is always nice to get new friends. What I have experienced you can get nice friends from your relative friends or you can find some friend at mylot. It all depends what type of friend you want.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
15 Mar 13
As a friend, I think I could be very loyal. So, I tend to stick it out with whomever I got. Specially if we've built a history together. But I agree with you that there are just times when I would think that I might need a new set. Like ones that are into being healthy, or a set of friends who prioritizes helping others, etc.
• India
15 Mar 13
I usually have no friends at the time. I have two old friends from childhood but as far as living in my husband country, I am not permitted to have any friends and I really feel that empty side in my heart.
@slovenc1 (2092)
• Slovenia
15 Mar 13
Hi, like your picture Yeah I feel the same. My friends don't just think they are smart, everyone has it's moments and character and I do appreciate them. But I only have 4 close friends and they're good for coffe break , but I can't say they'll keep their word if I ask them for something, planning something with them usually doesn't work out. One particular problem I'd point out is for example I've known one of my friends for about 15 years and I know almost everything so if we don't see each other for 3 months we have a few things to chat about but otherwise there's almost nothing new. I'm jung and wish for more friends but I got a job lately and co workers are all older and not really my cup of tea. So yeah I can relate to you. About the husband I'd say he should be your friend and the one you should say anything to. I know it's hard but that's what I'd do. For example I politely tell my gf if her breath stinks and explain I don't want to hurt her feelings and it's nothing to be ashamed of and I'm sure she isn't happy about it. But is it better to pretend everyhitng is ok and compile the little things? Have a great day, oh and maybe try some online "dating" sort of sites like Tagged, not to search for dates but you can find friends there and really talk about annything with a total stranger that could be completely honest since he doesn't really know you. Met one girl that way and we had very honest chats and it feels great to open up to a person without any consecuenses. It's not a friend you can touch, but still it's great to get a second opinion on things. Have a great day
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I never felt the need to look for other friends. Although keeping my old friends was hard enough coz I barely have time to go out with them, I still feel that they are the best people that I can only be with. We all grew up together. Some of them were my classmates since 3rd Grade and so we were like real sisters. It is just having time with them that I need. My husband knew them but they really never had the time to sit down and chat.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
15 Mar 13
I happened to have that thought before and it's so good and fresh to tell and share about you two guys' thoughts and secrets.But old friends also know me and stand by me no matter what decisions i've made.I respect them and feel lucky to have them in my life.But finding the right person to be friends is not easy.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I have felt this, actually more so recently because I have been feeling that i have lost a few friends along the way. Not that I dropped them intentionally but we have just had different interests, and they no longer seemed to fit my lifestyle ( i try to not always go out, i hate spending too much on bars, and luxuries that are not important). I think I do need to find new friends i can relate to, there are some here at work and well... I think it might work out at least for a while. but they seemed off these days, always going out every night for a drink(and i don't drink). I guess its really just so hard to understand people these days. We all have our own things that we want.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Mar 13
I have had to end friendships before but not for the same reasons. One woman was judgemental as well and she used me to have a free babysitter. But another friend I had I got along with really well but she had terrible kids, her kids would constantly hurt my oldest daughter. They would hit her, throw toys at her, they threw sand in her eyes, would not share with her, etc... Their mother would not do anything about their behavior so I finally told her we could not be friends anymore...I hated losing the friendship but I hated how my daughter was being treated more. Sometimes people change and grow apart from others...Its normal and nothing wrong with it. I hope you find a good group of friends soon. =)