Would you love them still?

Philippines
March 29, 2013 8:06am CST
There are times that it becomes hard to love a person so close to you when all they do is rant, complain, drag you to argue on unnecessary matters just because they want to make a point, or those that love to get you out-of-control just to satisfy their invitation of war. Hard. Would you love them still? Say, your parent, sibling, or even spouse? Do you have this experience sometimes? I do. Do you?
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• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I argue with my brother a lot because he has a different perspective in so many things. He doesn't listen to anyone's advice, even to my parents. It really irritates me that he doesn't also accept mistakes. Sometimes I feel like I don't want to talk to him anymore since talking to him might just lead to a fight eventually because he argues even because of small stuff. I don't like his attitude but I still care for him because he is my brother so I still help him with things he needs.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
3 Apr 13
. That's why a family becomes more special because of those arguments. Everyone must voice their mind.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
29 Mar 13
Hey celleDJ, I totally understand what you mean. For examples my parents, i know they love me very much and i love too. But sometimes i feel like i don't really agree with my mum or sometimes i argue with my brother just because i cannot stand the way he behaves. But, since they are people that are close to us, we take them for granted. If this is our friend, when we can't stand our friend, mot probably we will not show them that we are angry in front of them. Therefore, I think sometimes we get frustrated with our family because we rant, complain and agrue with us, this is a part of life and we should be happy that we have someone to argue wtih becuase we know they will always be with us regardless.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Yes, no fear of rejection actually when arguments are within the family. Unlike with friends, sometimes we cannot show our inmost being.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
4 Apr 13
Hey Celle, Yes, indeed, we do not fear rejection when we have arguments with our family plus it's inevitable to have some form of arguments when all of us are staying together under one roof. However, this becomes an issues because sometimes we might become unappreciative of all these.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Yes, I think everyone does. I recently experienced this with my dad. He was pointing out a thought that he passionately believed in and it was really wrong and I got proof. hehehe.. I guess he insisted on his idea until there was a heated argument. But of course, we were both respectful. Before the day was done we weren't in speaking terms. But thankfully before the day was over, we talked once again ~ and the relationship is back how it was before. Whew! Have a great mylot experience ahead!
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Oh I can so much relate to this also! This would really take a lot of effort, but I'm sure it will be worth it! The Bible did say, "Do not let the sun go down in your anger". I do need to settle it before the day ends and maybe give it time to heal after so the relationship is preserved. A good space in between is also needed. Have a great myLot experience to you too!
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
3 Apr 13
. It is always nice to sleep when your heart is at peace.
@lil_toni (206)
29 Mar 13
Well, I have experience that with my sibling and until now whenever he would do bad things that would made my parents specially my mom stress, angry and frustrated. Sometimes, I can't control my temper and get mad at him but I also pity him when he's being scolded. But even if he's like that, my mother still understands him and loves him so much. And I can really say that the mother's love for their children is unconditional. No matter how bad their children are, even if they would repeat the same mistakes, our mother is always there for us and would never leave us no matter what.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I very much agree on your point, lil_toni! I hope you do not need to fight with your brother always! hahaha
@Mavic123456 (9704)
• Thailand
29 Mar 13
yes, and tiring.. but acceptance and laughing at it, makes it easier for everyone. No we are not ridiculing each other it is just we have fun on different ways.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
And those fun memories must be enough for us to keep them, right?
@SViswan (12072)
• India
29 Mar 13
I do. And though it's hard,I prefer staying away from such people. I cool down soon enough and then I want to go back. I still love them and I can't believe it myself. I've tried to talk to myself but it confuses me more and I end up going back to these same people and situations.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Yes...because you love them, that's why we can't really turn away from them for long :)
• India
29 Mar 13
Hi friend, some times we are in need to have arguments, fights and issues with our family members, but still they are our family members and care about us. This kind of issues and fight don't spoil the true love and affection. I too have quarrels with my friends, family members, but i don't give importance to this silly issues and keep the relationship bond in a good manner
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I agree with you! Thank you. And also, sometimes we are not afraid to have issues with them because we know that they will still accept us no matter what :)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
maybe this time, you can say it is hard to love someone who push you away as you can feel anger or sadness. Why don't you give them space and avoid them for sometime? First, love yourself. Avoid things that will make your hurt, because how can you love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Thanks, arahmae! I did felt I was being pushed away. It is sad. Yes, I do think we need space :) Happy myLotting!
@leateagee (3667)
• China
3 Apr 13
Yes, I would. These people are not perfect and I am not looking of a perfect one. Their imperfection is my way in to their lives. I complete the missing part in their lives. Definitely we will argue not because we want to hurt each other but because we want to exchange thoughts or opinions on something. In that argument I will play a great role of maybe opposing person which will help them think more of whatever the topic is. Or someone who would enlighten them after all the fiasco of their lives. When we love someone we don't justsaybyes to everything. We care so we try to bring out the best in them.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
When it's family, it is hard not to love them despite that. What we can do is avoid those kinds of interaction. If a partner of mine, like a husband or a boyfriend or a friend does that to me, I can simply choose to dump them. Because people who do that are irresponsible, annoying and problematic. It's best to remove those kind of people out of our lives by blocking them.
• United States
30 Mar 13
Yes I would still love them. I don't hold grudges for long so even if i was hurt because of a situation, eventually I would still love them no matter what.
@hushi22 (4941)
30 Mar 13
To be honest, I think that is pretty usual/normal in a relationship or maybe I am underestimating the rant, complain, arguing, etc from your context. But based on my experiences, yes, I do still love them. Recently, I had a massive argument with my older sibling and we just stayed calm for a few days/weeks then we got on really well again. My mum advised us to do so as well. She told us that shouldn't break our relationship.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
30 Mar 13
It depends, If I have really good memories with them, and they've done really big things for me, and they love me, I would not probably use my love for them, just be annoyed... the same was with my grandma. As I got older (I mean, from kids to teens), I realized that she didn't love anyone other than me and my brother, not even my mom who is her own daughter... and she was really vindictive towards everyone... and of course, it was a bad feeling for me, because she was telling me about how she hated whom, but those feelings that I received from her as a kid, when all I saw was she loved me, treated me as a thinking person, that she always came to play with me, these can't really be taken away from me. But if I haven't received enough love from them, I would not love them, I guess.