Confused About My Child Support

United States
April 3, 2013 2:00pm CST
I'm going to try and make this as easy to understand as possible but if it gets confusing, feel free to ask me what I'm talking about. Lol I filed for child support in February of this year. I got my first check on March 5th, the second check on March 11th and I haven't got one since then so he is currently three weeks behind. They take the support straight from his paycheck, it goes through the system and then it comes to me. He has to send his first child's mom her money through a money order (instead of them taking it from his check) because she lives in a different state. He and I are in Indiana, she lives in Illinois. I called the Child Support Administrator and told her that he was behind. She said she would try to get a hold of him and see what's going on. She never called me back so I called her a few days later. She said every time she calls him at work, they say he's not there and no one answers his dad's cellphone. Those are the only two ways to get a hold of him other than Facebook. So I said something to him about it on Facebook and he told me that he took a few sick days and then their house caught on fire so he had to get new work clothes. He didn't say he took time off because of the fire or anything and he said he is still employed. So I still don't see why I'm not getting my money. He claims he sent a payment yesterday, but if it comes straight from his paycheck he has no say so on when it gets sent so I'm also confused about that. I think he's lying about sending the payment or he's lying about still being employed.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Apr 13
I'm guessing that his work skipped a week in garnishing his check because of the fire and extra expenses. If they'd pulled child support as well, he'd have been really hurting...no money??? I'm just guessing. If that is the case then you will get some larger checks to make up for it. I'd let it ride for a week or two and see what happens. That whole child-support thing sucks. I learned to just not count on it and found ways to support the kids on my own. In fact, I had the order dropped. It wasn't worth the battle.
• United States
4 Apr 13
He quit his job. I just found out today. He's supposed to pay $43 a week and he sent me a check for $10!! He must think he's funny or something. But it's alright, we'll go to court and he'll end up in jail again.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Apr 13
I hope he isn't playing that game that some of them do to get out of paying. They work under the table for cash so that they only get ordered to pay a small amount...like 25.00 per month. At that rate it takes forever for it to build up to an amount that they would even bother taking them to court for or they pay just enough to keep them from going after him. Hope that isn't what he is up to. Good luck, Cosmo.
• United States
15 Apr 13
Well, he didn't quit his job. He just didn't sign the papers he was supposed to so the payments weren't coming out of his paycheck automatically. I spoke to the Child Support Administrator and she said he will HAVE to start paying me the full amount each week because he's still working full time so there's no reason for him to send me $10 here and there. He sent me the first two payments, no problem. Then I didn't get anything at all for a month. I told him I wouldn't hesitate to take him to court so he sent me $10 and then another $10 the next week. It ticks me off because his first baby's mom (Amber) claims that she's still getting her full amount each week. He's only paying her because he knows she'll have him arrested again. Does he think I won't?? Because I for sure will.
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
5 Apr 13
i guess he is just giving reasons,And even if it has happened whatever you wrote,shouldn't he be a responsible father first of his kid and send the money whichever way possible ? I really don't think he cares. Take CAre RAJ
• United States
15 Apr 13
No, he definitely doesn't care.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 13
It was lucky that you got to chat to your ex on Face Book. It was a shame he didn't speak on the mobile phone and he wasn't at work when you called. I think that he is still employed but had a hard time so took a few days off. I hope his payment for the child support comes through soon. I think in a couple of weeks things will seem more clear. Good luck.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
4 Apr 13
I live in Missouri, so things may be a bit different here. BUT...here they do not call the guy paying( or not in this case) support, but they call the employer and speak to someone in payroll about whether the person is still employed if they even attempt going that far. Here employers are only required to send the money into Child Support Enforcement ONCE a MONTH. They can take it weekly or bi-weekly out of his check, but they are allowed to hold onto it if they choose. I am putting my money on him quitting his job or getting fired, but it is possible that payroll or even child support enforcement is behind not him.
• United States
4 Apr 13
Well if they were still taking it from his paycheck, he wouldn't be behind. The child support administration doesn't have any of my checks, I've already asked. And I just found out today that he quit his job. So we will be going to court pretty soon. They only called him because no one was answering the phone at his place of work or they would say he wasn't there.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 Apr 13
Hope you are able to get your money soon. Not sure what all is happening with him but hopefully it will get worked out soon. Not sure if they are just paying him in cash or not. I guess it all depends on the type of work he is doing.
• United States
4 Apr 13
I just found out today that he quit his job. He tends to do that when he's trying to get out of paying child support. He used to do it to his first kid's mom all the time.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
4 Apr 13
Sorry to hear you are going through that with him. But give him a chance, as things like that cna happen. Hope you get the check soon there.
• South Africa
4 Apr 13
You lucky you get child support. Where I live its not so common