Clingy Boyfriend
By MissBlack
@MissBlack (356)
United States
April 9, 2013 4:53pm CST
So I started a new relationship and in the beginning it was okay but a few days ago, I started to see where my new guy is kind of clingy. He stays 2-3 days and it really pushes my patience to the limit. He is sweet, my son likes him a lot, and he is a very good conversationalist but after a while he starts to become negative and weird. He will complain about everything from the part of town I live in to the way women are more likely to cheat. He has what looks like slob-like tendencies and just seems to be such a sad sack at certain times.
Does anybody have any advice? I mean, he is ok some of the time but the rest of the time he does get on my nerves..
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6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Try to assess things for the next 2 weeks. If you feel that most of the days he is just that "little monster", then maybe you should stop seeing him before he becomes a real big one.
@MissBlack (356)
• United States
13 Apr 13
I'm just trying to have patience enough to wait two weeks. So far, its been a week and I had to lie just to get some space. He won't go home where he belongs and it is working my nerves!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
You have two options: 1. to talk to him that you are somewhat losing your space because of hium to be constantly there.
2. just end the relationship coz if you allow this person to stick around without him changing his ways, you are more likely to suffer. He's turn out to be obsessive which would surely ruin your life.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Ask yourself if you can tolerate having him for the rest of your life. If your answer is no: don't waste your time. 
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Does he work? How 'new' is this new relationship? Coz if it's just about several months, I wouldn't like it when he stays in my home that quickly, you never know if he's a psycho or not (just yet).
Perhaps you could suggest things both of you could do with your kid whenever he starts being negative. A group game or perhaps doing something that doesn't require him to talk at all. hehe..
Things like that happen when someone is idle. Negative things would be discussed and I think he just needs to do something other than being with you. It's good to miss each other too.
Good luck! Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Apr 13
I'd run if I were you. I dated a guy like that and OMG...it only got worse and worse and worse. Then we broke up and it got crazy! My kids all liked him at the start but after a couple of months started seeing the weird control thing going on. If i just wanted to be home with my kids, he thought sure that I was meeting up with someone. He spied on my apt one time (that I know of..could of been more) and confronted me with some "guy with long blond hair coming to my apt." . That was about when I was ready to break it off anyway. That long haired guy was my brother!. The very final straw was when he hung out for an entire day when I had things to do. He finally left and then spied on me again and knew I ran out after he left. I had errands but let them slide and just ran to the store to get what I needed for the night. Somehow he put that together with the fact that I had a rag on the counter and one in my car and a can of shaving cream on the counter(hadn't been brought to the bathroom yet) to me going out for a "quickie". Oh and he also read my horoscope which said that I was going to have a hot date that day!! Ironically, I had been planning on inviting him for dinner but after that, I broke up with him. He was so passive/aggressive. I wouldn't deal with it if i were you..just my advice for what it's worth.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
10 Apr 13
the only thing i could say about it is to know more of his attitude then if there something you dont like about think of more before you decide to keep him or to push him away.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Your affection for each other will somehow get into you there. If you really love him with his entirety then I think you can bear with everything else but if it will not really work, then its better that you stay away from that guy.
