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Why Does No One Care that "It Is Not Good" for Me?
@mythociate (21437)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
April 27, 2013 3:25pm CST
(Oh, they 'care' in the sense that 'they'll say something nice to encourage me if I tell `em how bad it is'; but that doesn't change the fact that THERE'S NO ONE FOR ME AT HOME!)
I think the reason no one cares is because I'm 'happy' (I mean--though I AM sad that 'it is not good'--"I've got that joy-joy-joy-joy down in my heart" or something.
And ideally, marriage wouldn't change my life much---I'd still be sitting here all day myLotting (& Facebooking & emailing & RPG-ing & TV-watching & neighborhood-erranding & Bible-studying & Fellowship-fellowshipping etc.)
And if I were sad ... well, no one would care then either & I'd just be more-depressed. (So it's obviously NOT because I'm happy 
) It's because I'm not very-involved in others' lives. And--as a 'brain-injury conqueror'--I'm usually filtered into the 'damaged goods'-category in people's minds ... the same place they put 'the litter that they don't want to waste time picking-up.'
(Although SOME litter is 'worth' picking up---like a $20-bill my friend told the Fellowship he found in the parking-lot one day, like I hope I can be to a 'damaged goods'-conscious girl who finds me someday 
)
But why can't people (especially Christians, whom I keep on hoping will open their eyes one day) see that I'm not so much 'damaged' as I am "incomplete"?
) It's because I'm not very-involved in others' lives. And--as a 'brain-injury conqueror'--I'm usually filtered into the 'damaged goods'-category in people's minds ... the same place they put 'the litter that they don't want to waste time picking-up.'
(Although SOME litter is 'worth' picking up---like a $20-bill my friend told the Fellowship he found in the parking-lot one day, like I hope I can be to a 'damaged goods'-conscious girl who finds me someday )
But why can't people (especially Christians, whom I keep on hoping will open their eyes one day) see that I'm not so much 'damaged' as I am "incomplete"?1 person likes this
10 responses
@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Actually for me you are not damage, its just there are some people who can not understand you, and we can't do nothing about it because its their personality or attitude, but there are some people also who understand you. Just think positive and don't loss hope. We must keep on living.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 13
mythociate You are not damaged goods as we all have something wrong with us., I am a diabetic with arthritis and diverticulitis but I am not damaged. We all have mental or physical problems.I firmly believe that for everyone of us somewhere nearby is that one person who will make us complete.One day you will meet that girl and she will fall
quickly in love with you as she is meant for you and you for her.I met that person right for me when I was 30 and we were married for 33 years so I know there is love at first 
sight.
sight.1 person likes this
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I agree with your first poster. I'm allergic to so many foods that it can be hard to shop and save money. My husband isn't always happy that certain places we no longer visit together because of my allergies.
You will find that special person some of us find the person sooner than others. Best wishes.
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
28 Apr 13
Ask your friends to set you up on blind dates. Maybe there is somebody in their office that is perfect, as I met my husband on a blind date.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Apr 13
See? That tells me nothing!
What did you DO to find him?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Apr 13
You are not damaged goods! You are a imperfect work of art! The woman for you will see and Love you. And mister you won't be on facebook. You will have a partner who will Want you and often!You just have to get out and let her find you!I care that isn't good for you now but I have hope. Be hopeful and open. It will happen.
You just have to get out and let her find you!I care that isn't good for you now but I have hope. Be hopeful and open. It will happen.@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 May 13
Any tips on where I might find her?
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
3 May 13
@sarahruthbeth22 i wont deny the fact that i am facing this kind of difficulty as well. im in a foreign country and everything is new, i am alone and dont have anyone to share things with. meeting people is not my problem, meeting the right people is. 2 weeks ago, i met a few people in the pub who asked for my number but then again, thats not good as i know that when i go to a bar, i dont go there to look for romantic partners. i also meet people when i go out for a walk and they just ask my number or ask me out but its scary because im new here and what if something happens to me, there are a lot of pedophiles around and i dont look exactly age-appropriate (i look like a 12 year old girl i think) so yeah, thats not good.
@mythociate umm i dont know, school? work? friends of friends? fellowship? i asked my stepdad to find me a boyfriend he said he'd find me someone at church. :)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 May 13
@mythociate Just go out and do what you love to do, like Karaoke! Go out to enjoy yourself and look around and see if there is a woman you love enjoying it too. This way the ice is already broken, you both share a favorite pasttime.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
Maybe because, you do not disclose your feelings so much and that they think you are capable of handling things on your own. Maybe you do not reach out to them that much.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 May 13
But when I DO "disclose my feelings," it causes people to realize that a) they have no idea how to help me & b) they really don't care enough to think of one 
Oh, I'm sure somebody can/will help me, but--when the 99.9999999999% of the population that can't/won't help hear my woes--they get it into their heads that I'm just a whiner & (rather than think of a way to solve my problems) do what they can to keep me away from them.
Oh, I'm sure somebody can/will help me, but--when the 99.9999999999% of the population that can't/won't help hear my woes--they get it into their heads that I'm just a whiner & (rather than think of a way to solve my problems) do what they can to keep me away from them. @Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
3 May 13
dont be sad. as long as you know you are doing the best you can, there is no need to worry. sometimes, even though we want things if its not the time for it, it really wont come. we jut have to trust God that he knows what is best for us and he will provide them when we need it. its not you. timing is everything. :)
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 May 13
No, what 'grinds my gears' is seeing these 'lovers' in church sharing with each other LOVE LIKE I SHOULD BE SHARING (often seeing 
'someone else' with the girl I COULD have if women weren't so blinded by their lazyness 
so I feel that 'she' was STOLEN from me before we even met)!
Now I'm calling such in-church lovemaking "idolatry"---no-no-no, I'm not; because I know the lovers do it in appreciation of 'G*d's gift to them of each other' ... i.e. no matter how the love feels to them, the glory goes to G*d.
But (again) WHY MUST I BE CURSED TO REMAIN "ME"? Why can't I be 'G*d' and thus enjoy the glory as I should?
'someone else' with the girl I COULD have if women weren't so blinded by their lazyness so I feel that 'she' was STOLEN from me before we even met)!
Now I'm calling such in-church lovemaking "idolatry"---no-no-no, I'm not; because I know the lovers do it in appreciation of 'G*d's gift to them of each other' ... i.e. no matter how the love feels to them, the glory goes to G*d.
But (again) WHY MUST I BE CURSED TO REMAIN "ME"? Why can't I be 'G*d' and thus enjoy the glory as I should?
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
That means that they treated you now as a matured person who knows what is right and wrong. If they advice you to do this and to do that is no big deal for you so why advice you.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
27 Apr 13
if you hide and shy away from them, then those who are searching will have a hard time finding the treasure (you). get more involved and maybe you'll find the right one who'll appreciate you for what you are and will love you despite your quirks and imperfections. after all, who is perfect? we are all "damaged" or "incomplete" in one way or another...
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Apr 13
Yeah, but there's the temptation for me to focus more on her than -on 'what I'm doing there.' That's a problem, because I'm afraid that 'she' will run to the first guy with money if I don't tell her I need her sooner, but then I'm afraid that--if I do tell her--'what I'm doing there' will be exposed for the flimsy cover-story it is
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Apr 13
That's the 'don't really care, but don't want you to MAKE me care'-response; not that you should care, but--if you really did--you would tell me what ACTION to take 
