Is being a gay a lifestyle choice? or genetically influenced?
By jcjonuel16
@jcjonuel16 (36)
Philippines
April 30, 2013 2:02am CST
I've reached an adult stage and I fully understand and I knew that I am Gay.I think from childhood I was aware that I am gay because most of the people surrounded me always told me "hey you are gay".I felt shy of myself and embarrassed whenever I was with other people and shouted that "I am gay".Sometimes, I questioned myself why,why &why?I also asked my parents they told me whenever they were gone for work, they left me in our neighborhood and they were the one cared for me.Child rearing and parenting were not fully observed by my parents instead by other people.My neighbor always wore me like a baby girl then they would laugh on me 'till probably i developed my effeminate feelings.Then my parents just noticed that the way I walked, talked and moved like a girl..To whom should I blamed?my parents, myself or my neighbor?
To the parents out there explain to the child the consequences of being a gay, so that the child can think.
What is wrong with with some parents is encouraging the behavior,it's like when parent says "what God has given, we must accept"Should parents be alarmed and arrest the situation?or encouraged it?
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9 responses
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
30 Apr 13
the woman's egg is always X. the male sperm that pairs with the egg has either an X or a Y. if the pair is XX, then it is a girl. if the pair is XY, then it is a boy. there are other variations to this but this is the main factor that determines the gender of the baby.
if there is a genetic code embedded in the person's DNA that gives him/her a tendency to be gay/lesbian, it hasn't been discovered yet.
in my opinion, that being gay is not based on genetics but rather on the parents' ubringing of the child and the influence of the community. we act the way we do because of our experiences and beliefs in life. these are the major factors that shape our characters.
@jcjonuel16 (36)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Yes, I do believe with your latter explanation..Thanks for your comments..
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Apr 13
@dagami - I think that a genetic link has now been discovered by scientists, but will have to check this out
@cherrypye (39)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
hi...i have a lot of friends gay infact i have uncle gay,..i ask them why thy become gay but no one can answer them or can pin point what the reason..but for them they are happy ehat they are now in your self are you happy of what you are
r now??.for me you should stop finding or pointing why you become gay...
@jcjonuel16 (36)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Yes I am happy there's no other choice but to continue and fulfill life in this world.We are all children of God, and in the end regardless of gender.it is God will judge us..If i will stop then they have to stop criticizing too...
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Apr 13
I think it in your case, your parents wanted a girl, so looked for any effeminate or what is called effeminate in your personality, so any forms of agressiveness was discouraged and only the parts where you are considerate of others. So I would bet they never wanted you to fight with other boys. I am a woman and was a bit of a tomboy, but my parents discouraged that habit.
I would say your parents for much of what you are, because they mistook kindness and sensitivity for genetic preference.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
1 May 13
I don't think any of us could truly explain why a person becomes or is gay. There are many debates about it but many of my gay friends just say that they were born that way.
I think we should understand that there are a lot of things we cannot fully explain. A friend of mine only realized he was gay when he was already in his 20s. He always thought of himself as a man but knowing him before he realized it, I already knew he was gay.
As for blaming your parents, neighbor or you yourself, neither should be done because there are a lot of people who were brought up by a single mom or surrounded with females or gays but still turned out straight.
This phenomenon isn't something that we could explain for now. What's important is that you don't blame yourself or anyone. Just live life as who you are ~ a normal person.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
30 Apr 13
I don't know about that . I'm bi gendered and asexual. Sure I was raised under what people might call outside influences ie. parents who didn't completely abide by gender roles when raising us, the fact that I do not look completely female and other people even say so and then theres the whole being molested thing, but I have a feeling that I'd still be those things even if I had lived a different life. I mean, there are people raised up in strict religious families and told its wrong to be gay and yet they still come out gay, so..
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
30 Apr 13
First of all being gay is not a disease, although some seam to consider it as such. It is a way of life and I don't blame people who are gay or lesbian. The only thing that can bother me is when someone forces another person into the act, no matter if that person is straight or gay.
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
30 Apr 13
It doesn't matter to me.I don't think it's a choice,but even if it were,why does it bother anyone that someone else made that choice?
