Embarrassing Situations

United States
September 17, 2015 3:50pm CST
Ok, let's find out exactly what type of person you truly are. Have you ever been in a group of people (friends) and notice something along the lines of one of them has a booger visible or they have something large stuck on or in their teeth? Would you try and get their attention/pull them off to the side and let them know? Or would just just blurt something out; 'Hey so and so you have a big booger hanging out your nose'? As out spoken as I am, I am not into embarrassing people (unless it's to get even with them for something). I would pull them to the side and let them know. So they can deal with the situation. It's beside the point that it was grossing me out.
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@PhredWreck (6051)
17 Sep 15
I'd just say something...probably something inappropriate, knowing me
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• United States
17 Sep 15
Yes, I could clearly see that about you. Then the whole flock would follow suit.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
@TexanTornado I would never even think of saying anything inappropriate, even if Lambie did start it.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
@purplealabaster Looks over at you.. Hmmm why do I seriously doubt that??
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• United States
17 Sep 15
As much as I joke around on here, I would pull the person aside and do it in private. It would be embarrassing enough for the person to be told, even in private, so why would I add to that by doing it in public?
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• United States
17 Sep 15
That is the truth of the matter. I also stop to think, what if it was me. I would be beet red and embarrassed beyond believe. I would hope someone would pull me aside to let me know. Then of course I would be a magician after that, for I would disappear.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
@TexanTornado I do the same thing ... I think about how I would feel in any given situation and try to treat the other person the way that I would want to be treated.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
@purplealabaster Yes, I am a firm believer in the 'Golden Rule'. Also, I think of the other saying about pay backs. So I try to keep that in mind too.
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@topffer (36370)
• Djibouti, Djibouti
17 Sep 15
I would probably not tell anything. It is embarrassing to tell it and the earth will not stop if it is me and I don't notice it.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
No, the world wouldn't stop if you didn't notice it. But if you got home and noticed it, wouldn't you wonder, How long have I been walking around like this? Who have I interacted with, looking like this? Why didn't someone tell me?
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• United States
18 Sep 15
You have a point about it not mattering if it is only you and you didn't notice. However, in a group setting there is at least one or two people that are bound to notice so not saying anything if you did notice would also be embarrassing.
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@hora_fugit (5432)
• India
17 Sep 15
Nah, I may end up telling right there! Problem is I never hang out in a group, it's always me and someone else; so difficult to predict....
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• United States
17 Sep 15
Yes, it's hard to predict if you never in a group setting. It might also be different if it was just all guys hanging out.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
I think it is much easier to handle if it is just you and another person rather than an entire group.
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@allknowing (70742)
• India
18 Sep 15
Ofcourse I will pull the person aside and bring it to her notice. There used to be a colleague of mine who did not smell good. As you know we do not get our own smell. I mentioned that to her when no one was around. She was grateful to me. Constructive criticism is rarely seen these days.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
That is all so very true. We don't really smell ourselves, because we grow accustomed to our scent. I'm so subconscious about that very thing. It was sweet of you to let her know. Yes, I agree with you. So many would take it as an insult.
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@Rollo1 (16685)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Sep 15
I wouldn't cause an embarrassing scene. That's just not me.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
No, I couldn't see you embarrassing anyone. You are too kind hearted, and thoughtful.
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@softbabe44 (5899)
• Vancouver, Washington
18 Sep 15
i think i would have to pull the person aside and bring it up that way so their not wondering whyent you want to talk better then embararesting their selfs
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• United States
18 Sep 15
Yes, I have to agree. You were don't want to embarrass them, but don't want them t be more horrified when they do find out and no one told them.
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• Vancouver, Washington
24 Sep 15
@TexanTornado you surely don't want to embarris them just pull them aside
• United States
24 Sep 15
@softbabe44 Yes, I have to agree with you there.
@sprite1950 (14496)
• Corsham, England
18 Sep 15
Haha yes we've all been there! If I know a person well I will just come right and say it, although not in front of others, but if I don't I probably won't mention it. I remember once a work colleague told me I had 'icing' on my nose, I took it literally and couldn't think how I had got icing on it but she meant a booger! In the end she had to tell me outright!
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• United States
18 Sep 15
I think we have at some time or another in our lives. OMG!! That is too funny. How embarrassed were you when you finally was told? I think I would have wanted the floor to open and swallow me up.
@sprite1950 (14496)
• Corsham, England
18 Sep 15
@TexanTornado well I kind of found it funny afterwards but at the time I rushed off to the toilet to have a look in the mirror!
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• United States
18 Sep 15
@sprite1950 Yeah, I am sure after the fact and you was all cleaned up it was funny. I'm sure you will take heed next time someone tells you, you have icing on your nose.
@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 15
Guilty on many counts The very recent one - at the mall a few buildings away, there was a cute kid (maybe around 10-11) with his parents. He was quite active and we started smiling at each other. I realized, he was wearing his tee inside out (I dont know how to describe this, sorry). And he was all like look at my new tee, looks great isnt it. I signaled him to look at his shoulder and he realized he was wearing it wrong. He walked up to his mom and told her about it. She said, okay take it off and wear it the right way and that was more "embarrassing" for him. After a while, I walked up to him and took him to an empty corner where he fixed the problem. I have been told by many that it should not be my business but then, I do find it difficult to avoid.... I am tempted to do that
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• United States
18 Sep 15
Oh yes, I could see where a boy that age would be embarrassed by that, especially in a packed mall. That was very kind of you to try and make it less embarrassing for him. I know what you mean. Sometimes it can be uncertain if we should say something, or just let it go. That is why I always try to stop and think what if it was me.
@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 15
@TexanTornado Yes, I have learned not to interfere much today. This kid was cute and I felt to help him. Later when he started feeling embarrassed about me pointing it out to him, I realized that it is unfair of me to have started that. So I helped him out.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
@thesids Oh I understand completely. I hate when things are a catch 22, cause then darn if you do, and darn if you don't.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
hmm, i aint ne'er been in a situation such 's described. apologies, i've no way to respond honestly.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
oh wow.. I think I been in situations stated above many of times. Especially with food stuck in their teeth.
• United States
18 Sep 15
@TexanTornado reckon i ought to get more, eh? nah, i'll pass, lol. 'course, that aint entirely true. i've had a few conversations with the horses 'n cows through the years 'bout schtuff stuck betwixt their teeth...'mong other schtuff.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
@crazyhorseladycx Oh I am sure they were embarrassed beyond belief when you told them too. Those poor things, I feel so bad for them.
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@jaboUK (55201)
• United Kingdom
17 Sep 15
I would do the same as you, it's no good embarrassing anyone unnecessarily
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• United States
17 Sep 15
I agree with you. For I believe in the 'Golden Rule', and always try to think if the circumstances were reversed.
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@jaboUK (55201)
• United Kingdom
17 Sep 15
@TexanTornado That's an excellent way to look at things.
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• United States
17 Sep 15
@jaboUK Thank you.
@bluesa (15203)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
18 Sep 15
I would pull them to the side and tell them, and hope that one day if it is ever necessary, they would do the same for me. Or I would be just mortified.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
I agree with you 100%. That is also my way of thinking about it.
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@sharon6345 (142173)
• United States
18 Sep 15
My sweet friend must have felt me moving away from her. She asked me if her breath stink and it smelled just like Shitt. I could not hurt her so,I said,no. I kept moving back for fresh air and I think she got it. She keeps coming in my face and It pisses me off.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
Oh no. Now that is bad, but at least you were trying to be subtle about it. She should have taken the hint and got a mint or something.
@SIMPLYD (84681)
• Philippines
18 Sep 15
If i am close to that person , i would pull a tissue and give it to her and point at were she should use it , lovingly.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
Oh that is kind of you. It's nice and subtle and prevents from embarrassing the person too much.
@sofssu (14784)
18 Sep 15
Nope neither would I embarrass someone. I generally draw them aside and whisper stuff. Once While I was at a meeting I had to send a note across table to tell a guy to zip up.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
OMG!! I bet he was quite embarrassed even if no one else noticed. Just to know someone did. Hopefully he didn't start scuffling to get it zipped up, making everyone aware that his fly was down.
@shaggin (38507)
• United States
18 Sep 15
Hmm reading this I think I might need to be a little more tactful as to not embarrass them. I would definitely tell someone if they have food in their teeth, or their zipper is down, or they have a booger hanging out of their nose. I will make sure next time I tell them that I take extra care to take them aside and let them know quietly as I cannot remember if I do that for sure or not. I think I just try to tell them as soon as possible so no one else will notice it.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
I understand what you are saying, you want to address the matter as quickly as possible. I guess it all depends on the factors too. If just hanging out with people at home watching a 'ball game' or something, it probably wouldn't be a big deal just to blurt it out to them. However out in a nice cozy restaurant or something like that, with strangers all around probably would need to done a bit more on the down low. (Just my opinion of course)
@IvySaysHi (4342)
• United States
18 Sep 15
I would pull em off to the side. Embarrassment is awful.
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• United States
18 Sep 15
Oh I agree with you, especially if out in public. Out in public would be 10 times worst, then just hanging out at home with friends or at a friend's house with a group.