Divorce after Kids?
@Kchitij2007 (445)
Pune, India
September 28, 2015 3:19am CST
Should divorcing after having kids be allowed ( except in cases of domestic violence )? Aren't couples supposed to be able to put aside their differences and look at the bigger picture? A fractured generation, is that what we deserve?
Is the law complicit in this by having made the whole process so easy ? Do we need to sensitize people more on this issue?
Thoughts?
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Oct 15
Ideally yes the couple should not think of divorcing after having children. But we see more and more cases of divorce taking place in India, some of them probably to experience the new found freedom! However, I feel that if a couple is having serious misunderstandings that is making them both miserable and the children in turn stressed and unhappy, it is better to separate . It is far more healthier for everyone concerned ..
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Oct 15
@Kchitij2007 Yes in a way it is sad but at times children have been the cause of rift, of course not their fault though ! They say marriage is a relationship where the couple grow together but in some cases they grow apart.This cannot be helped because we all change with time, age and maturity/experience and a separation is better than a bad marriage , I feel !
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Oct 15
@Kchitij2007 In many cases it may happen, couple may be able to sort out their differences and find a solution to their problems but there are a few cases where you find that the two are totally mismatched and a stage reaches when life becomes unbearable. I know of several such cases where husband and wife are not on talking terms although living in the same house, going out together to functions just to keep up appearances , what is the use of such a relationship , the children are unhappy and live their own lives ...I feel it is better for them to lead seperate lives instead !
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@Kchitij2007 (445)
• Pune, India
5 Oct 15
YEah i guess it depends on the situation. But most of them cannot swallow the concept of compromise relevant to marriage. It is sad really that children have to go through the kind of emotional stress that is involved. Sadly, maturity of thoughts has no bearing on age of men and women.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
28 Sep 15
I do think some couples divorce too quickly and easily, and over silly things too. I definitely think they should work hard at resolving their issues and only use divorce as a last resort when all other attempts have failed. They also need to take a long hard look at the decision they're making to be sure it truly is in everyone's best interest.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
28 Sep 15
Children should never be the sole reason that two people stay together. I am not saying that children should not be one of the factors considered when deciding whether or not a couple should stay together, because they absolutely should be a factor. However, they cannot be the sole factor unless the couple decides that they can amicably cohabitate and coparent until the children are grown and out of the house.
The best interests of all parties involved needs to be taken into consideration, and sometimes the parents just get along better when they do not live together. Then there are times when the parents just cannot get along at all, and it is not a good situation when children are raised in this sort of environment.
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@Kchitij2007 (445)
• Pune, India
29 Sep 15
Well that is true and quite right, what troubles me is the frequency of these things happening. Marriage was supposed to be a much holier institution in the East, but even in India now marriages are breaking apart at a rapid rate. Sometimes, i feel that people are just more impatient than before. What people today cite as '' irreconcilable differences '' were really just big hurdles three decades ago that could always have been overcome with a little more effort than the usual. It becomes worse when kids come into this equation and suffer psychological effects in the aftermath.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
29 Sep 15
We do not have divorce here in the country but there are people who want to push it for some personal reasons and I do respect it.
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