A Romantic Proposal.

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By Jabo
@jaboUK (64361)
United Kingdom
November 4, 2015 10:52am CST
My grandfather was a soldier, and his dress uniform was bright scarlet, as opposed to the drab khaki of his everyday uniform. When he decided to propose to my grandmother he donned his dress uniform, twisted some flowers into his horse's mane, and rode up to the house where my grandmother was working. She was a servant in a large house, so of course he had to go to the tradesmen's entrance. He thought she'd be impressed by having a red-clad soldier on a beautiful horse ride up to ask her to marry him. Wrong - she was embarrassed by his ostentation and sent him away, telling him to come back later when he was more soberly dressed, and without the horse. Grandad was rather crestfallen, but did as she said, and Granny accepted his much more mundane proposal. My own proposal was my husband saying ''What about it?'' Not much romance there! What about you - did you get/give the full romantic treatment?
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@LadyDuck (459180)
• Switzerland
4 Nov 15
Oh my goodness, I do not remember how my husband asked me to merry him! We both lived in Milan (Italy) at that time. I think to remember we had a meeting here in Switzerland and it ended late in the evening, we were tired, but he had to bring me back to my home, if I remember well he said "we should get married, so the next time we can sleep here". Not very romantic, but practical.
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@LadyDuck (459180)
• Switzerland
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK Yes Janet, it is lasting from 41 years and I hope it will last forever.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@LadyDuck Oh yes, practical, but it's lasted for you, hasn't it?
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
@LadyDuck wow, 41 years. I wish we will last that long too.
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@LeaPea2417 (36504)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 Nov 15
My husband to be was romantic. He took me out to eat then we went to our local park and stood looking over a bridge at a water fall, and that is where he asked me to marry him and presented me with an engagement ring.
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• Greece
4 Nov 15
He had given the matter a great deal of thought including the kind of ring you would like.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@Leapea2417 Oh, that sounds lovely. He must have pretty sure that you'd say yes if he'd already bought the ring
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
How sweet of the husband to be
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Nov 15
We didn't really have a proposal moment, we just knew that we would get married, it was the most natural thing in the world.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@Rollo1 that's great that you never had any doubts, and you were obviously right
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@jstory07 (134622)
• Roseburg, Oregon
4 Nov 15
My husband got on his hands and knees when he asked me to marry him.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
Oh that must have been lovely to get a traditonal proposal like that. I wondered if that only happened in story books
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@Juliaacv (48538)
• Canada
4 Nov 15
My husband is very very old fashioned and romantic. He asked my Dad if he could marry me, and my Dad called me into the living room for a conversation between the 3 of us. That was on a Monday, and on Friday night he took me out for a fancy supper, and then we went back to his mother's house, and he asked me to sit in a chair and close my eyes. When I opened them, he was on 1 knee with a bouquet of roses and a ring in the other hand. He slipped the ring on my finger and asked me if I'd marry him. It was very elaborate, and I appreciated it. That is just his way. We went to the bowling alley to see some friends, and 1 of them knew what he was doing that night, and as we entered the bar area of the alley, he stood up and raised his glass and toasted us as we walked thru the door. It was a fun night.
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@Juliaacv (48538)
• Canada
4 Nov 15
@jaboUK But sometimes he is so sweet and sincere that it gives me the giggles. I'm lucky that I'm married to my best friend, and there are times that frighten myself thinking what if he goes before me. I try not to think of that because I have no control over it and I don't want to worry my life away.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@Juliaacv The sad fact is that one half of a couple will be left on their own, but as you say, it's no good dwelling on it.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
Oh weren't you lucky! The whole works, and the marriage has obviously worked out well too.
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
4 Nov 15
No romance here, that's for sure. I met him in college and married him around 5 years later. I had just visited him in Minnesota where he worked (I was in New York) and I got a phone call and he was moving to Kansas in a month and he wanted to get married before we went to Kansas because his parents and mine lived nearby. So he asked will you marry me and I said .....of course. We planned a church wedding and reception at my parents home Got married and left for Kansas...it was a whirl wind that blew up together.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@PainsOnSlate It just goes to show that a romantic proposal isn't necessary for a happy marriage. Glad it worked out so well for you, as it has for me.
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• Canada
4 Nov 15
I love the story of your grandparents...
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 15
hi@41combedale no romance in mine either myhubby to be turned to me" well we o ught to get marrked Pattytricia"? that was his nickname for me. and I said yes of course 33 years so we must have done something right im widowed now for a long time.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@hatley It's what comes after the marriage that's important, isn't it?
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
5 Nov 15
Wonderful story, I've asked two ladies to marry me. One being my ex-wife and the other was my last partner. I asked them both in the same way with a dozen red roses and a card asking them if they would marry me. Both said yes.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK Yes I'm a very romantic person, love romance.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@kevin1877uk You do sound romantic Kevin - I bet if there had been a white horse available you would have jumped on too! Sorry that things didn't workout for you though.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
Your mother seems a simple woman . She likes just a simple proposal with no grand things like your father did . For me and my husband , it was a simple one only , only us to hear it .
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
SIMPLYD Yes, my grandmother was quite shy. You and your husband preferred your privacy too.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 Nov 15
No proposal at all, Al asked me if i would like to go to the jewelry store and then took me to the engagement rings. I guess he was pretty sure the answer would be yes!! lol
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK He is man of few words but has been an excellent husband and father. lol romance is not his forte.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@BelleStarr That was one way of doing it!
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@BelleStarr That sounds similar to the way my husband is.
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@sofssu (23662)
5 Nov 15
Nah, mine was in the middle of the road.. just as we were running across a road avoiding traffic.. He just blurted it out and I thought I heard him wrong and didn't respond. It took another five days for my husband to say it again in a cafe. He was way too shy then.
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@sofssu (23662)
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK Yeah ... after five days.. I was surprised he did.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@sofs Lol- in the middle of the road? Good job he got his courage up to ask you again
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@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
5 Nov 15
In the Philippines during my time (70's), the trend was TO ELOPE instead of proposing and taking long engagement after. I did not tell my wife - - will you marry me . . . I told her - - let us elope . . what do you think? And she said - yes!
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@delyaj30 (613)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 Nov 15
my husband forced me to go with him in an inn, I hesitate because i am not ready to get married yet, and since i am not ready, nothing happened to us,
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@antonbunot So you eloped and got married far from your home? It worked for you anyway.
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• United States
4 Nov 15
I think your grandfathers proposal was indeed romantic and I would have swooned if my beloved showed up on a horse. I didn't get a romantic proposal either and it was similar to yours. Actually my granddaughter is looking for romantic proposal stories so I'll have to share your post with her
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
Grandad was a real romantic - it's a pity that Granny was such a shy girl and didn't accept him straight away. I thought that putting flowers in his horse's mane was really sweet.
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• United States
5 Nov 15
I have been proposed to more than once, by different men. The second and third were very romantic. I accepted the third.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
I only had two proposals, and the first one wasn't romantic either. I was in the process of dumping him and he said ''I'll even marry you if that's what it takes''. Sheesh!
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• United States
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK It is great when a jerk tells you that he is one before you make anything permanent. I wish they would tell people even sooner, so less time would be wasted.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
5 Nov 15
I am more like you grandmother, I prefer simple proposal just as my husband did. T'was his sincerity that mattered most to me.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
@jaboUK I've seen lavished proposals mostly from celebrities unfortunately the marriage did not last for long.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@salonga I agree, as long as the proposal is sincere, that's what matters.
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@allknowing (130117)
• India
5 Nov 15
We were both working around the same area and apparently he had seen me a million times and was hell bent on getting me. Got hold of a common friend,arranged a meeting...............
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@allknowing Your husband was determined to get you, and found a way to meet you. Great.
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Nov 15
We are in restaurant and this man just blurted out "I am done with this! I do not want you as my girlfriend!" My jaw almost dropped to the floor and then a ring presented in front of me.
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
7 Nov 15
No @jaboUK! I am angry, as if he is breaking up with me! haha! I want to punch him you know.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@wiLLmaH That seems as if it was a nice surprise
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
7 Nov 15
@wiLLmaH Yes, but after your initial reaction you must have been pleased?
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@amnabas (13742)
• Karachi, Pakistan
4 Nov 15
No not really we had anbarranged one.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
I always wondered what it would be like to have an arranged marriage. I hope it worked out well for you.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@PainsOnSlate You can't imagine grown men being told who to marry by their grandmother, can you?
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• Greece
4 Nov 15
The marriage itself must have been something to remember if it is like the ones in films. I hope romance came along a little later.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
Arr that would have mortified the poor man going to all that effort. You have got to laugh at their practicalities of those days! I hope you replied what about what?
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 15
@garymarsh6 Yes, poor Grandad was very cresffallen, but at least he tried again Lol - I did have an idea what my husband was talking about. I think my response was ''Oh, ok then''!
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• Manila, Philippines
5 Nov 15
Sadly that your grandmother didn't appreciate your grandfather's amazing proposal? She felt embarrassed instead of being happy. But I understand why, maybe she would like her husband to propose for her as simple. Maybe proposing for her was like a simple paper, you don't need to write, draw, or color the paper to make it beautiful because a simple paper is a beautiful art. A proposal doesn't need those things because a simple proposal is very romantic.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
You've got right to the heart of the matter. My grandmother was very shy and didn't appreciate the flamboyance.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 15
@ChaelMlrps No it's not sad at all - it had a happy ending - he got the girl
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• Manila, Philippines
5 Nov 15
@jaboUK It's an amazing but sad story.
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