Love over hatred

@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
November 18, 2015 10:58am CST
People seems to fall out of love as fast as they fall in love . I wonder why people leave relationships. When it becomes impossible to 'be with' a certain personality trait or characteristic, when belief systems clash, when the person you 'have to' get away from reflects back at you your worse fears , your gross-est self. I've come to realize that it's not about the other person at all. When we judge others, it's about us. When we defend and justify, it's about us. Wise men say, the need to defend the hardest is a signal when our fear is worst.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Nov 15
I don't know why some people end relationships, I think there are many different reasons. My husband and I have chose to stick things out together no matter what. We have been through so much but we are still so in love.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 15
@LovingMyBabies people lack patience and will quickly rush to the exit door when confronted with slight problem in their relationship.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Nov 15
@zandi458 yes indeed and i think thats why so many now choose to live together so that at the first litttle bump in their relation ship they can bail out quickly. No committment
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 15
@Hatley Living together before marriage has become a popular trend now but this kind of alliance is frown upon in our conservative society in where I live. .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Nov 16
Sometimes it's a matter of pride that makes the relationship not work . There comes a point when one would not bow down to the other's wish .
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
26 Apr 18
We live in an instant world..so most people don't know how to behave differently..and in most countries the divorce rate is high..so the young generation..do not have an example of the relationships you talking about. :(
• Philippines
11 Nov 16
Because it's just easy to judge when you don't know the person or what ever they are going through.
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@DianneN (246906)
• United States
10 Nov 16
When people don't take the time to know someone, relationships can fail. I've been happily married since I was 22 years old.
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@just4him (306386)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Nov 16
Good point.