Who the heck are you?

Milwaukee, Wisconsin
December 8, 2015 8:52am CST
Why are the beginning of relationships full of so much fun? You do things that you wouldn't normally do because it's exciting, and it makes you want to know more about that person. But lets jumped into three months later. Holy Crapola! Who the heck are you, your not the same person i met three months ago. With that being said, here's my question. Why do people decide to get comfortable in relationships overtime and stop being who they were when you first met? Why do they feel as if all the fun and adventure is no longer needed?
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Mike
@Mike197602 (15490)
• United Kingdom
8 Dec 15
because you try harder when you get into something new. more or less human nature. as things get older many dont try as hard.
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Twinkle Mishra
@iamtwinkle (6)
• India
8 Dec 15
Short and precise. Pretty much what I wanted to say :)
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Twinkle Mishra
@iamtwinkle (6)
• India
8 Dec 15
Hey Saya, Firstly I do completely agree with you! But I think the fact is that when two people meet and start liking each other, they do their best to convince the other person that they really love them. However slowly with time, it becomes all boring and even if it is their true love, they start taking it for granted. I don't know how to be happy with someone forever because I have faced the same problem mentioned by you, so really don't know the solution.
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Mike
@Mike197602 (15490)
• United Kingdom
8 Dec 15
i dont necessarily think it becomes boring although you could say that!!! i prefer the word comfortable, comfortable is good until in becomes being taken for granted and then problems come in. im 39 now and have had a few girlfriends, ive lived with three of them but have never made it past three years in a relationship. ive now pretty much given up as i like my own company and having another person around would annoy me i think.
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maezee
@maezee (41997)
• United States
14 Jan 16
I think it's because they know they don't have to IMPRESS the person. Maybe they even just act like the more boring (and realistic) person they are after a while. I have not figured men out yet, though, this is just my guess!
Teep11
@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
8 Dec 15
In the beginning people feel that they have to make an impression but once they feel as if they've captured the person. They no longer feel the need to put in the work and that shouldn't be.
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Dec 15
thats the same in marriage thejn is when you start to put the fire b ack in your marriage. Hire bab ysitters or yo ur mom go out have a date and put the excitemen back in tour marriage comfortable is fine b ut taking one other forgranted kills a marriagve
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