Some people baffle me???
By shelly
@shellyjaneo (1081)
United Kingdom
December 16, 2015 1:30pm CST
I don't know if I have mentioned this but I work in a prison. I am not sure how much I can say about it without getting in trouble so this story will be brief.
I had to confiscate a letter today because it was sent in by someone the prisoner was not allowed to contact. She had got a restraining order out on him and she was sending him letters. That just makes no sense at all in my head.
Why would you get a restraining order out on someone and then contact them ?
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@troyburns (1405)
• New Zealand
16 Dec 15
This sort of thing is sadly familiar. It doesn't matter whether the law is involved, it doesn't matter how smart those involved might be, it doesn't even really matter if they are male or female. Some part of us believes that people can always change for the better and another, more delusional part, thinks that we are the ones who can change them.
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
That is true I think it is human nature to think we can fix people and to try beyond all logic x
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@ElizabethWallace (12074)
• United States
17 Dec 15
Some people are gluttons for punishment. This person needs help.
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@ElizabethWallace (12074)
• United States
29 Dec 15
@shellyjaneo It would make sense if writing to your abuser like this put you on a list to receive free help from a shrink.
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
It is sad isn't, she must not have enough self worth to realise she can do better x
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
@ElizabethWallace That is a good point actually, I am not sure what will happen now as the letter just goes to security but maybe once I have been there a bit longer I can bring that up. I have loads of ideas of things I would like to change but don't want to get too big for my boots too soon x
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
17 Dec 15
Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why do they divorce and then remarry? Why do people do criminal things? Okay, I've said enough.
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If you like movies you might be interested in The Newton Boys (1998) a story of real people with a real appearence at the end. Strangely enough they never changed their viewpoint or outlook about what they did. Crazy! 
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
29 Dec 15
@shellyjaneo true and everyone is different with a different life but do you think there might be some basic reasons people freak out? Like unhappy. Or love starvation? Etc.
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 16
@Bluedoll I think there are a set of things that make people more likely to freak out and act crazy but it also depends on the persons nature. People can live the same life and end up totally different at the end of it x
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
Yes there are too many crazy things people do every day to start questioning them all x
@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
Yeah I am thinking I probably shouldn't have posted it at all but I think it is vague enough x
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
29 Dec 15
@shellyjaneo I don't think that the post gives away any privileged info.
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 16
It just makes me think there must be someone wrong with them it is crazy x
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@koopharper (7477)
• Canada
16 Dec 15
There are things from any employment situation which shouldn't be discussed publicly. I don't work in a prison but I'm sure I could get myself into plenty of hot water anyway. People do weird things and someone getting a restraining order and then trying to contact that person, while odd, I'm sure isn't unusual. I've seen similar behaviours from others.
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
No things like that get sent straight to security I don't think either of them will be told. If there was anything else concerning in the letter then they may chose to contact one or the other but it depends on the circumstances. If we confiscate items that come in the post or photos then we tell the prisoner though x
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@shellyjaneo (1081)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 15
We do read them for certain people and security would have read this one x
@Namelesss (3368)
• United States
16 Dec 15
There is no understanding the behaviour of some people. Some women really are crazy, they embarrass me. 
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