Would you ever consider letting an elderly parent or other relative live with you?

@snowy22315 (31221)
United States
February 25, 2016 12:53pm CST
My parents are getting up there in years, my dad is nearing 80 and my mother is not far behind. They both have some health issues. I dread the day when one of them isn't around anymore. I think honestly, the other one probably wouldn't live too long after the death of the other one but, there is a possibility they could..Neither of them are very social, and both would need help without the other one...I could see living with my mother in this area..but my father I think would probably be unable or unwilling to move. I am not sure what would happen in that case but my sister is much closer to them than I.
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@1wldngl (3996)
• United States
25 Feb 16
We have grown so far from where we were, as a culture, haven't we? It was the norm for the elderly to stay with family not that many years ago. Now..it's not the norm at all. My father passed when I was 8 and my mother lives with my brother. We have a tiny home and only two bedrooms. I don't even have a living room. LOL
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@GardenGerty (88785)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Feb 16
I have the space but no one wants to live in this little town with us.
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@1wldngl (3996)
• United States
25 Feb 16
@GardenGerty Little towns are the best, especially after you have kids and can appreciate the safety, comradery and convenience of being able to walk the streets.
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@jaboUK (48994)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 16
It would depend on individual circumstances, but I'd hate a relative of mine to be put in an old people's home. On the other hand you'd have to consider how it would affect the rest of the family that were living with you already, especially your spouse.
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@GardenGerty (88785)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Feb 16
I had my sister who is 70 move in with me for a year. When hubby and I moved to another town she refused to go, but in that year I got her set up with good medical care and some issues taken care of. She has never been on her own in her life, and I am proud of how she is doing now, for the most part.
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@irishidid (8115)
• United States
25 Feb 16
I only knew one parent growing up and she's passed on. My mom was one of those people who it was nice to have them visit but you couldn't wait until they were gone. LOL
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@snowy22315 (31221)
• United States
25 Feb 16
yes, my dad is a little bit like that.
• United States
25 Feb 16
yepperz 'n i've e'en done such. 'tis a blessin' to have 'em, but i certainly understand some bein' most stubborn.
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@sharon6345 (101081)
• United States
25 Feb 16
My mother lives alone and wants it that way for right now. she has loads of pain and still wants to clean her own home. If the day came that I needed to take her in it would be my pleasure.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
25 Feb 16
I would gladly take in my Mother who is elderly or my Father but he is now passed rip. But my circumstances at present would make it difficult. My Mother is very proud though and as long as she can move, she wouldn't live with any one of us. lolz Good your parents are both alive still.
@snowy22315 (31221)
• United States
25 Feb 16
Yes, it is good to have them around.
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@MGjhaud (20822)
• Philippines
26 Feb 16
my parents are old too and feeling a lot of pain. my father drinks a lot of medicines everyday, it basically keeps him alive. but i had an accident few years back and they brought me back home. i was all alone in my house and they want to take care of me for now that im recovering. parents will always ne parents. i cant imagine my life without them. if im better and older and theyre still alive, i would rather live with them and be able to take care of them from time to time.