Too Fat To Look Good?

Same here.I have seen many big women looking good.They should not feel uncomfortable by their weight. Then like you said.Seen some very sloppy one.Meaning that they do not give a damn what they look like. What kind of exercise are those there ?

wait a sec, they've got fitness equipment there'n the beach?? mercy, i need to get out more, lol. 's fer that gal, she no doubt suffers from poor self-esteem. i'm prone to holy shirts/jeans 'round here, but when we used to go out, i'd dress to the nine, lol. not fer myself, but the hubs. sounds like this gal needed a good scrubbin' 'n some proper fittin' clothin'. i know many who're 'heavy' 'n look simply divine when they go out'n public. some'f that's got to do with self-confidence i'm thinkin'.

@jabouk making a bit of an effort usually gives people a bit of self esteem so long as they realise they'll never be Sophia Loren, and they don't need to look like her. Some people just give up too easily and need to give themselves a good talking to.

Pity that one can't talk frankly to people one doesn't know. Maybe an honest conversation is just what she'd need.

It's sad that she feels that way.

Yes there are very nice clothes for extra large people.

Size shouldn't matter at all, I do agree with you. It seems that this woman has let herself believe that no matter what she does, because of her size, she won't look good. She may have given up on herself. Sad really.

It is much better today than it used to be to find clothes that look good on heavier people. My sister was over-weight much of her life, and she found it very difficult to find nice clothes that were attractive on her. The problem was not her, though, it was the people making the clothes and the stores selling them. She could find pretty clothes that fit her well and looked beautiful at the high-end stores tailored for larger women, but she could not afford to buy them. Many of the clothes at the regular stores did not even look good on the hangers let alone once you actually put them on, but they were relatively affordable and you do what you can with what you have. Fortunately, nowadays there is a wider variety of clothes for larger people, even at the regular retail stores. This makes it easier for people to afford to look nice. However, if she was used to the "old way", then she might have just given up on trying to look nice. Yes, this might be a defeatist attitude, but then again there are only so many times you can look in the mirror at clothes that are extremely unflattering on you before you tend to want to avoid the humiliation and just go with whatever is comfortable.

You are living in the lap of luxury with fitness equipment all laid up for you and that too on a beach. I truly believe in dressing up even at home. I am ready even to step out if the need arises and to welcome unexpected visitors. No. There is no make up though.

Those aren't good thoughts. We should feel good about ourselves and it doesn't matter how much we weigh. When one is confident. They're just confident big or small. Have a wonderful day.

@jaboUK First we must love ourselves and have a good opinion about us.And all the rest will follow..Well,I do not much care for my appearance at home.But when I go out I try not to look shabby.

She would need a friend to boost her self esteem.

I agree! It's a shame to see anyone let themselves go, no matter what the reason. I've seen many heavyset women look clean, well dressed, and put together with a touch of makeup and flattering hairstyle. No excuse in my book.

Sounds like she might need a boost of self esteem, from someone or something.

Nice "gym" for sure no one would get hurt if the fell in the sand. You don't look very heavy to me.

It sounds like she has really low self esteem to make such a comment. I love those outdoor exercise machines, we have them in the parks up here.

I sure wouldn't say anything like that out loud about myself! Most of the people in this state are overweight, I think we're the second fattest state in the union and a lot of them look like the woman you described.

My sister, who weighs 240 and is 5'7" would never dream of leaving the house without make-up on, hair fixed and nice clothes @jaboUK . And that's just to walk to the mailbox. When her kidney ruptured and she was waiting for the ambulance, she took a shower, applied make-up and was deciding what to wear.

Sometimes thier confidence can make them feel...not good. I have hone bigger but istill look good (our mother assured me that,lol)

There is no excuse for anyone going out looking worse for wear,especially when on vacation.