My Dearest Dolly has Passed

United States
May 7, 2016 9:47pm CST
My heart was saddened tonight when I read that one of my favorites has passed. She was a delightful soul. Spent many hours with her when she was my client. When her health was failing, and she could no longer live on her own, she moved to an assisted living facility. It is the same facility that my mother lives in. She was reluctant to move there and I tried to ease her fears about the place. Moving out of a place you called your home is so difficult. I had to pack her up and go through her treasures. We talked about so many things. It was heartwarming to hear her stories. Because she had to share a room with another resident, space was an issue and she had to leave many of her things behind. Her family took her belongings with them. Other things were brought to the local landfill. Years of memories gone in a flash. I visited Dolly as often as I could. This of course was problematic due to my mother living in the same building. Jealous tension arose from both of them. I had to choose my mother over Dolly and I know that it was hard for her to accept. My last visit with her was one that I'll never forget. Saddened me to see her in such poor health. Her memory was failing. She had a hard time remembering me. She couldn't say my name. But, there were moments when I thought she remembered little things. At the end of the visit, I gave her a hug and kiss and went upstairs to visit my mother. Upon my departure, Dolly motioned for me to come over and sit and visit with her. She had forgotten that I had been there just a few minutes ago. Broke my heart. Gave her another kiss and hug and said I would be back. Sadly, that was the last time I saw this wonderful lady. I will miss her dearly.
11 people like this
12 responses
@AmbiePam (44521)
• United States
8 May 16
I know she's happier now, but I'm just so sorry you have to bear the grief. It says good about her that you will miss her.
3 people like this
• United States
8 May 16
I wish I could have spent more time with her. Family comes first though.
@LadyDuck (108430)
• Switzerland
8 May 16
I am so sorry you lost your dearest Dolly. She is possibly happier now.
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
She can walk, and dance, and hold her loved one again.
1 person likes this
@LadyDuck (108430)
• Switzerland
9 May 16
@ElusiveButterfly Absolutely, this is what we hope at least.
1 person likes this
• United States
9 May 16
@LadyDuck is it my sincerest hope that she is.
1 person likes this
@shaggin (23731)
• United States
8 May 16
I am so sorry to hear of her passing. I think at that age it is expected but it doesn't make it hurt any less. I worked at an elderly home when I was a teen and it was very hard getting attached to them and them dying. After two years of all the stress there I had a breakdown and had to quit. I have not worked outside the home since. That was back in 2003.
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
I couldn't work in a care home or in a nursing home. Just working with individuals who are elderly and losing them is hard enough. Also feeling the guilt of not being able to spend as much time with them as you'd like weighs heavily on your heart after they pass. My heart is heavy.
@shaggin (23731)
• United States
9 May 16
@ElusiveButterfly The nurses aides did all the care for their body needs. I did activities with them like played bingo and read to them and helped feed them etc. My job was the better of the two jobs but mine was a lot less money. I didn't mind. I am not strong to lift others and I'm tiny I didn't want to get hurt. Plus I do not want to change diapers or anything like that.
1 person likes this
• United States
10 May 16
@shaggin I am not a nurses aide, but have to perform similar duties, with less pay.
@Jessicalynnt (48172)
• Centralia, Missouri
8 May 16
sad when lovely lights leave us for wherever we go next
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
I know that she is in a better place. She was anxious the last time I saw her. I knew she was close. One of the last conversations I had with her was about the fact that she wouldn't celebrate another birthday. They always seem to have this hindsight.
1 person likes this
• Centralia, Missouri
8 May 16
@ElusiveButterfly some just know that is very true
1 person likes this
@mom210 (5815)
• Atlanta, Georgia
9 May 16
Oh no, I am so sorry to hear that. It is so hard to love those we care about.
1 person likes this
• United States
9 May 16
I wasn't surprised to hear the news. Even so, it was hard to hear.
1 person likes this
@marlina (56964)
• Canada
9 May 16
OMG! This is so sad. Sorry you lost her.
1 person likes this
• United States
9 May 16
Many of my former clients are elderly. Saying goodbye isn't an easy thing to do.
@TheHorse (48416)
• Pleasant Hill, California
9 May 16
I'm sure her life was better for the time you spent together.
1 person likes this
• United States
9 May 16
She was a sweetheart. Loved sitting with her and listening to her stories.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
8 May 16
I am sorry your friend passed. at least you was able to give her some comfort in her life before she passed.
1 person likes this
• United States
9 May 16
She enjoyed our visits. Even though I couldn't go as often as I once did, she was happy with what time I could spend with her.
@Susan2015 (17493)
• United States
8 May 16
Very sorry for your loss. She sounded like a very nice lady. It's hard when someone has to leave the home they have been in for a long time and go to assisted living.
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
She seemed to be okay with the move. The only thing she missed were her "things."
@jstory07 (57762)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 May 16
How sad that your friend is now gone,
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
I am sad, but happy that she is no longer suffering. Her breathing was becoming quite labored. She had heart problems.
@Tampa_girl7 (20958)
• United States
8 May 16
Sorry for your loss.
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
Thank you.
@TRBRocks420 (56882)
• Banks, Oregon
8 May 16
Sorry for your loss, just know she is in a better place now.
1 person likes this
• United States
8 May 16
She is in a much better place. Dancing with her long lost love.