A very Simple and Straight Question

@thesids Thanks for clearing up my confusion. It is easier to say we will be generous, and forgiving and to communicate than it is to actually do it. My discussion to which you refer was not really about not writing long posts but was in appreciation for the post of only twelve words that I found. I think we get busy picking on people for too long or too short a post and are not patient to actually read the content.

Yes, I had mentioned you here on the discussion and had stated that I have kept the discussion to barely two lines of text only because someone had questioned my long discussions and also there was a post from you wherein I realized that discussions can be smaller in length too. But eventually, as you can see on the responses, they started replying to that part instead of the question. So I edited that section out. Knowing you for over the years, I do understand you completely when you say - the fear of being rejected. It is sad that even after so many years, we still feel that way (me included). I wished I could tell myself to be generous and that could help because most of the time, I do feel I have been extra forgiving and extra generous to some who matter... but I am always wrongly interpreted.

We are on the same page in this regard Heather.

@thesids Walking around nekkid might be fun when you are alone, but it certainly will not get the attention of the other person as they are not there. That is why you have to walk around nekkid in front of them to get their attention.

@purplealabaster I am scared... she might call up cops or worst even my Momma

I wished I could do that anytime now, here I did try that some years ago, but it was when I was all alone - wifey was at another city. And I also did this decades ago, when I had a room all for me, and no one would dare enter it. I love remaining nekkid after the bath, until I dry up.

True. That is the goodness of this website. As you know, somehow, I never have started out discussions with such short content. So I thought would be all good to experiment.

Sounds fair enough... When the time comes, I will surely take some suggestions and might even rent out some of that sweet wickedness...

@toniganzon

@thesids I'll lease them to you for free.

I like that idea of getting into a discussion. Clears out the airs on many things. But then, at times, things revert back to ground zero a day or two after discussion. Should that happen, do you think it would be wiser to restart the discussion and go through it all over again?

@thesids Yes absolutely. As Latin said "repetita ivant", that means repeating does good.

@thesids No, I wouldn't have that much patience for that person then. I will then assume that it's his / her habit so I will resign myself to it. But emotionally, a wall will go up and that person will lose his / her respect in a way. That person will go to unreliable list of people in my mind. The warmth and the care would still be there but less than it previously was.

Okay now I understand why I have seen you like my posts and responses but never respond to them. Normally, I dont post that frequently so I vent out a lot, I guess

@thesids Yeah nothing bad by it but when I see 4 paragraphs I find it hard to read the entire thing ect sorry

@BACONSTRIPSXXX In that case, you will find most of my discussions difficult to read. But trust me on most of them, there is nothing too complicated served. I tried this one for the first time in 6+ years of being here. And even most of my responses are longer than what content I have up on this discussion

@thesids You'd better not...you'd have two irate women scheming to trouble you.

Me ill treating [/em] I cannot do that, I dont have that courage anyway

@changjiangzhibin89 Kids grow fast. My baby would be 5 months this 13th and it seems just like yesterday that we got her home from the hospital.

Hello my friend I am real happy seeing you after so many days. Hope you are doing all good. how is your granddaughter? Well, in my case, they do not do it deliberately, but now because they have got into a habit of it, I feel, they do it deliberately.

@thesids Thank you ! I am fine.How is your kid? My granddaughter is now a fourth grade primary school pupil.If so ,you may as well keep them at a distance .

It is good that you are able to bring all the problems to the Lord.and then take it up and decide. I think, somewhere down the line, some talking too could help, though.

@LovingMyBabies I loved this one - I won't beg anyone for their friendship! In my opinion too, it is not friendship when you or the other has to beg.

@thesids Well yeah, talking with them about it does help...sometimes. I just went through this with someone. Told her how I felt, she said she would change and I haven't heard from her since. I gave up. I won't beg anyone for their friendship!

True, specially when you are relatives or family, running away or cutting down is neither that easy nor always possible. Imight have tried attempting it if I was years younger. Age too becomes a factor.

Years back, when I was all alone, I would spend my time at the Old Age home and would get all the love and affection from them. Even the same at the Orphanage. I should not have forgotten about those sides of life. Your love for Mother Nature is immense and it is a real blessing to have met you here, not many love Mother Nature the way you do. I will consider returning back

@crazyhorseladycx Yes, somewhere, I have started feeling being neglected and ignored. I know the baby needs more of our attention and time, care etc. but still, I only need 5-10 minutes of togetherness. And somehow, it seems to be too much. I will be going for my health checkups next week, and when I return, I will try finding some place in this part of the town where I can visit. The Old Age Home and the Orphanage I used to visit is on the other end of the town and it might not be possible for me to commute in this harrowing insane traffic we have here. On the posts I have been from you, you seem to have an unselfish love for Mother Nature, and its creations - this is why (i feel), She never disappoints you. And that "unselfish love" makes you a dearheart to almost everyone around....me included

@thesids aw schucks! she's jest ne'er disappointed me, perhaps whilst i turn to her so oft. i'm wonderin' if'n perhaps yer jest not feelin' needed? 'tis't possible to go back to the elderly home'r orphanage'n possibly donate some'f yer time? the "reward" 'f feelin' needed 'n useful does wonders some times. keepin' ya'n my heart, my friend. big hugs comin' at'cha!

@thesids .. I also tried explaining that it feels insulting to be told ..adopt me or my kid......it feels like ridicule...but self-obsessed folks don't listen or bother about others feelings...SMH...it is then left for nature to highlight "like deserves like".

Loved it. I forget the expectation thing at times. I have cut down much of it but then, there are still times when I need them to care for me the way I want them to, not the way they do. I tried explaining, but almost always they have misinterpreted the explaining.

@thesids Though I never shortchange others I know many do when they get a chance. That is the reality of life we cannot wish away. Most are selfish but there are the few who show us what love and compassion are. I get bonuses all the way as I have zilch expectation. Then we always get help from unknown quarters and that re-enforces my belief in the creator - siva

@thesids ...we are all here...live the moment.

Pity party..lol. They say cancerians can drown the world with their pain...but ...we also know how to surface from that much...no other sign can withstand this much. :)

I am real scared of losing anyone more here.

This sounds logical. We should try to understand the scenario and then act accordingly. But still, do you think it takes a long time to accomplish that pepping up?

@vandana7 I see that you have a very good relationship with your dad and I am happy for you. But, I hate to say that your dad would not be able to keep you company for a very long time and I sure hope that you will be able to find someone to share your moments down the road. At the same time, I am sure you have many friends around who will be willing to lend you a listening ear too. So, don't forget this. We are all close by.

I feel at times I am like that...being a loner from childhood, I have moments when I just slip back into my loner mode...and that can make a person feel as if I don't care. Dad is also like that.. we are just two individuals...living under one roof...we watch games together cut jokes...have quality time...but we don't demand each other's attention or time...it has worked great for us...

Oh yes, for sure, there are ways to ignore and move on with life which is more important than sulking over for what you do not have.

@thesids it is because I am in need of more attention. I find that when someone is around that cares I always feel a bit better

@bunnybon7 I recalled this a little late - you response to my earlier discussion on Adoption wherein you mentioned that if someone adopts you s/he will also have to adopt your dog. Of course, we all start feeling better when we have someone around us to care for us specially when we are feeling low, maybe a little or more depressed.

I have been trying to reach out to organizations that help the disabled As a volunteer? or as one who is in need of help? your response definitely makes me think that I should start getting back to spending time with the Disabled or the Old age homes. Those people there do need some attention and in return, they have loads of love, care and affection to give. Apart from that it also adds to the healthy Karma.

Similarities with me...:) I am a loner. :) And actually feel crowded when it is more than a short time guest. :( Just what we grow up with...we can act the perfect host for a while...but asking us to reduce ourselves to 24/7, 365 days actresses is bit too much..lol. I can't do it. I need to live my way..lol. Yes, we find alternative hobbies alright. I for one don't know the meaning of the word "loneliness". Never felt it.

@much2say ... Exactly...some people by default are programmed into believing that they are lonely. If we have enough hobbies and things to keep us occupied, loneliness is an abstract word. I happened to lose my mother when I was five and a half. I used to be in hostel so yes, blending is feasible. But holidays meant spending time in garden, eating, listening to music, stitching, reading, and of course, sleeping. Dad often went for late night shifts around 7.30 or 8 pm, and returned in the mornings. I was alone even though I was only 7 years old. Locked inside with radio...no loneliness no fears...never heard of ghosts back then. lol

@vandana7 In my older childhood, I did feel lonely at times because I became aware of too many things. I so longed to be amongst the people and fit in. But then I blossomed during my college years and suddenly I got in the spot I had wanted to be in - I became a people person. However getting a taste of that, there were problems there too, possibly even bigger problems. Now I can fit into either mode . . . but I must say slipping into the loner mode is most easiest for me because that is me originally. I don't ever feel lonely because I don't need to . . . I can be perfectly fine in my own cave

So very true. I have done this before and I do have a great bunch of friends here who have stood by me, pepped me up and got me out of depression whenever I had a need.

@thesids online in real life whereever one can find them!

Yeah..I agree

Definitely. What happened to that cute baby avatar of yours? I had a difficult time when you initially changed it to this one.

@Lucky15 So you are you on your Avatar? I would love to get my own pic sometime when I am back on 25th.

@thesids i have to somehow show myself. That is my niece. Hhaha