Another child?
By UpbeatRae
@carebear29 (31962)
Wausau, Wisconsin
May 13, 2016 1:24pm CST
So my husband keeps telling me over and over he wants another child. Our oldest 2 are adopted out but Dean is an only child at the moment in a way. I do want more children but I keep telling my husband he needs to straighten his crap out first (quit blaming me for sleeping with other men when I am clearly not,) stop his hoarding and a few other things. I told him, until then, there is no way I am having another child. I don't mind Dean (whom is 4) being a only child but for now I am satisfied. 
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
13 May 16
By oldest two adopted out mean you put them for adoption? I am not asking in a mean way or accusing you. I am just curious. Sorry if I did upset you. You don't have to answer if you don't want to. It's not a bother. I can understand.
Yeah I guess he needs to straighten his crap out before asking for another child.
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@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 May 16
@carebear29 Oh, that clears things up a bit. Because I got ill, my husband had to step up to the plate. His drinking subsided considerably but he couldn't give up the pot (35 year addict him 
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 May 16
I wouldn't either in your position since he goes off with other women and accuses you of doing something wrong. Plus, since you mentioned you lost other children to the state I definitely wouldn't want to bring more into the world and that maybe happening again. Can you get your children back?
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@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
13 May 16
No I can't get them back but I do get random pictures on Facebook of them from the adopted parents
@patgalca (18181)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 May 16
I wanted at least one more child after I had the two girls, but because I developed fibromyalgia after the second my husband said I couldn't handle another child and got snipped. I prayed I got pregnant before that appointment but it didn't happen. I still wish I had more children because my 2 girls are drifting away and it would be so much easier if there were still other kids at home. On the other hand, we've been struggling financially because I have been unable to work for the past 20 years so things probably worked out for the better. It's even harder, though, when there are so many babies being born around me.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
14 May 16
@carebear29
I think you really need to think about that long and hard.
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@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
13 May 16
I know. But I want Dean to have a playmate
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@melindataylor22 (959)
• Waltham, Massachusetts
16 May 16
I have 1 son and am divorced and my son's dad, my son, and I all have health issues and struggle financially. I won't be having anymore kids and I'm grateful for my son who is 11. I wish you the best in resolving this issue.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 May 16
@carebear29 hon yo u have done a yeomans job b ut he has not changed I still think you deserve to love and be loved b y a man who will treatyo u like
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ou should be treated with love and kindness
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@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
15 May 16
It also takes money to raise children lol
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 May 16
yes you need to havehim straighten out his do ings before youtwo hav another child an as kids pick up the unhappy vibes between parents for sure.. thats awful that he stills blames you for somethingyou do not do.youmight want to check him as men who continually tell their wives that their wives are playing around are instead coveringup
their own cheating.reallyh what you should do finally believer in you and get that divorce because he is not changing. think about it at least.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
15 May 16
Yes, fixing the issues now. Another child will not help the relationship any.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
15 May 16
@carebear29 How old is he?. He sounds very immature and childish. If you've told him the issues and he's not willing to work on it then maybe finding someone else.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49217)
• United States
13 May 16
It sounds like it is best not to have more with him, at least for now.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 May 16
@carebear29 , That is so sad.
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