Our Family is not Living Together

Photo is mine
Philippines
August 17, 2016 6:41pm CST
I am still happily married to my husband and we have a happy family, but we're not living together literally. I am living in my hometown, in a house I inherited from my parents for three years now. Living with me, are my eldest who just graduated from college, and my youngest who is in grade 9. My husband is left, living in our residential house in another town due to his job and to take care of our house there too. He will just visit me every weekend and when he has long vacations from his duty. My second daughter is also away from us for she is studying in another town. She goes home (in either of the 2 houses) during semestral breaks only. But we see to it that we all go home in our residential house during Christmas to celebrate the holiday seasons there. Any thoughts?
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@rina110383 (24066)
17 Aug 16
That's alright. You are still a happy family. My parents live under the same roof, in different rooms and different floors of the house. I don't live with them and so is my sister who is in New Zealand. My 2 other siblings live with them. Rarely do I go home even on holidays because I love working. Even on rare instances that we are all complete, we rarely see each other in the house because we are in our respective rooms working.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Really? I hope you will be together sometimes too. By the way, why don't you post any discussion yet here? I visited your profile to see your discussions but I could not find any. Just asking anyway. Have a nice day my friend.
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@rina110383 (24066)
18 Aug 16
@Macarrosel I don't have time to create and maintain discussions because of my job. I prefer responding to other's post. This is easier to manage.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@rina110383 Really? I hope you can find time to post a discussion for I want to read what you got to know more about you. I know many of us want to read more about you too. Just a simple discussion is fine. I'm sorry for being persistent about it hahaha.
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@hereandthere (33343)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
does you husband commute or drive to see you? how many hours? if the house was bequeathed to you, what did your siblings get?
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
When he drives our car it will take 2 hours drive but if he commutes it takes 4 hours. I only have one brother and one sister and they also inherit land properties and one house each.
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@magallon (18087)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
As long as there is love and understanding in each other, distance is not a factor. It's good that you are contented in that situation.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
You're right, and I agree with you 100%. So far, we are fine with the situation.
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@magallon (18087)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@Macarrosel I hope you will stay as happy as you are now.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@magallon thank you Cristy for the nice words.
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@SIMPLYD (86323)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Why can't you join your husband in your residential house ? Be warned , he might have a chick there .
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
I decided to live in my parents house, that I already owned, for some good reasons that my husband also agrees. Well, seems my husband is not a womanizer and I trusted him. I never experienced him having another woman eversince. Or maybe I am just over confident that he loves me very much hahaha.
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@SIMPLYD (86323)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@Macarrosel Don't be so overconfident . Maybe you should give him a surprise visit . Careful , ebcause you might be the one who will be surprised.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@SIMPLYD well, he is old enough to have a woman. If that happens, the woman won't be happy for sure hahaha.
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@Lucky15 (33669)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Can relate. ;(
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Really? Now I know that we have similar situation.
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@Lucky15 (33669)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
@Macarrosel i am.living solo. The only time i have company is when vacay time
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Aug 16
Why is that so? Why don't invite renters of your inheritance house? What if your husband gets sick.Is your other house very far from your residential home? What is your priority residences?
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Our residential house is in another town. A two-hour ride by his car and four-hour ride by a bus. Actually, we have a small business here in my hometown that's why we decided that I live here. We are also renovating it so I really need to stay here. With the graces of God my husband never got sick and I hope he won't be sick when I'm still here. He has his mother and sisters near our residential house to take care of him anyway. For now, Our priority residence is my house.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Aug 16
@Macarrosel ,Thank you friend,at least there are siblings of your hubby living near him.
@koopharper (6895)
• Canada
17 Aug 16
It's a bummer to be separated like that. Sometimes a family has to do what they have to do. Glad you can still view yourselves working together even though you can't always be physically together.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, and we're still happy with our situation.
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• Canada
18 Aug 16
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@acelawrites (12719)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
It could be lonely at times, but you'll get used to it. I had experienced it too, when my husband was assigned in different provinces; it was only me and my son and his nanny in our rented home in Manila; then my husband lived alone in our residential house in the province; he also fetches us on Friday nights then accompany us again to Manila on Sunday afternoons because I was working in an office in Makati City during that time.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, it was lonely at first but I am used to it as time goes by. By the way. Now that your husband is retired, so you're together again. That's nice.
@responsiveme (17990)
• India
18 Aug 16
Its tough and involves lots of travelling lovely photo
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, although my husband loves to travel always but my daughters are complaining for they don't want for far distance travel. They hate it for they get bored and headaches when they travel.
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@miniam (9228)
• Bern, Switzerland
18 Aug 16
It sure has advantages but im sure also disadvantages like paying utilities 2X and everything else.No l dont want to live in a different house with my husband.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, you're right but seems it's still fine. At first it's so hard but later on I'm used to it.
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@miniam (9228)
• Bern, Switzerland
19 Aug 16
@Macarrosel I would find a way to work around it so as not to pay everything 2 times.But if it works for you,well
@vickyrose (2031)
• Canberra, Australia
18 Aug 16
I think that such living arrangement is good when it's more convenient for both of you and you strongly trust each other.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, we really trust each other and were fine with the situation. Thanks rosyrose for dropping by here.
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@vickyrose (2031)
• Canberra, Australia
19 Aug 16
@Macarrosel my pleasure, missed you guys as I was busy offline.
@dodo19 (34280)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Aug 16
It can't be easy to live apart like that. So long as there's love, that's the important thing. It does seem as though you guys make it work.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, we both love each other and the situation still really works for us and we're both fine,
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@dodo19 (34280)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Aug 16
@Macarrosel if it works, then that's the important thing.
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@sol_cee (18421)
• Japan
18 Aug 16
Beautiful family.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Thank you @sol_cee
@hostessman (10261)
• Tucson, Arizona
18 Aug 16
sounds kind of crazy but as long as you remain a family thats what counts.. Christmas must be wonderful since youe all together
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, but we have to have such situation for some good reasons.
@ms1864 (6974)
• Bangalore, India
18 Aug 16
Firstly, I'd like to mention that is a beautiful family picture. And about living apart, that's normal i guess...in the world we live in. Many families here have their spouse or child working or studying abroad or in a different state. It's the requirement of the lifestyle and economy.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Thank you for nice comment about our picture. And I agree with you for you have a good point. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in my post.
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@wiLLmaH (8246)
• Singapore, Singapore
18 Aug 16
You are surely missing each other deeply! :)
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, but having smartphones nowadays plus Facebook that we can communicate anytime. So no more missing each other deeply, only slight one hahaha.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
I envy your daughters who became independent while studying but i guess I was a bit lucky because the transport from school to home was easy compare today.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, they're independent and I'm happy with that.
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• United States
18 Aug 16
Whatever works for your family is fine
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, it is really fine. Anyway, my husband loves to travel always.
@jaboUK (55158)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 16
This reminds me of another MyLotter @responsiveme as she only sees her husband at weekends too, She lives in India. You obviously have found that it suits you to live as you do. I didn't realise that you had 3 daughters, I thought you had only two.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes,I have three beautiful daughters whom others say they're beautiful like their mom hahaha. Well, I am still happy with the situation.
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@Happy2BeMe (75441)
• Canada
17 Aug 16
You have a very beautiful family. It must be difficult to live apart from each other and still keep your marriage working. It is good that it works for you. It is nice that you all get together for Christmas though.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 16
Yes, it works for us. Thanks God. My husband see to it that we have more quality time when he visited me here. My daughters are the ones wondering why we have to be this way. But I explain to them the reasons why.
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