I Got Idea Why My Fiancee Not A Marrying Type

Me and my cousin
@cacay1 (83220)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
November 10, 2016 3:51am CST
This is a sad reality. I got idea now why my fiancee does not advocate marriage.This day, I learned from him that he does not have religion and only believes that God existed.My Lord, I am A Roman faith defender, and I love God so much with all my heart and soul and here comes the man I learned to love no religion and do not completely believe God.. Though he is a very nice man, but I dreamed of a man to be with me every time I go to church.That is why last Sunday when he drove me to church, he did not enter.I told him to get inside, but he said "no". Life is nothing without God, so this is my greatest fear of my disappointment. I cannot make it final this time.Only time and God knows. The feeling is different of both of you kneel together and pray. Thank you friends, have a good evening from Auckland with love.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
Religion could not be a hindrance if both of you respect each other's beliefs, or if you love each other so much. Anyway, it is you who could decide best. Good luck!
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@acelawrites, the feeling is bad, me inside the church, while he in his car waiting for more than an hour.Sometimes he roams around the church maybe observing.I told him to get inside and invited him to talk to the priest but he refused.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@AkoPinay hahahaaha you are the best my dear.
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
IT IS! I was an active INC and we are not allowed to marry non members of the church. I had a suitor who wanted me to convert in SDA and I had to say sorry bye
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
maybe you are not really meant for each other
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@Lucky15 , That's it sis, God knows what is best for us.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
Maybe you show him or tell him how good it is to believe in a God . But do it lovingly .
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@SIMPLYD , it will never happen my dear, They are different from us could be convinced but foreigners have strong decision,m cannot be waved , unlike us soft heart in term f decision-making.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Nov 16
@cacay1 then keep praying that somehow he will see in you how good it is to believe in God .
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@SIMPLYD , That is his belief, we cannot convert it. In fact every time we eat, he sees me praying first and mention God. I also want to give him a Holy Bible the next time I come back there hehehe. I do not know if he won't be mad at me.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
He is probably afraid that he will melt and turn to ashes if he enters the church just joking my friend and trying hard to cheer you up
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@louievill , hehehehe, Dennis is a Yoga member from India. he stayed there for 2 years just to acquire that talent,LOL
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• United States
10 Nov 16
religion 'n politics 'll sure destroy a relationship. he'll not change to please ya, hon. perhaps 'tis best if'n ya take some time 'n put this relationship 'nto perspective? might be that he aint 'the one' 'n yer fella 'tis out there somewhere.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@crazyhorseladycx ,very well said my dear.I am until this time disturbed. Thanks for your nice thoughs.
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• Philippines
10 Nov 16
Maybe that's your mission friend, to introduce your Fiancé to a religion.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@rachz_kisses , He cannot be convinced, he strongly disagree.That rooted from his family who also has no religion and God.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 16
Looks like you are torn between faith and love. This can be quite a sticky issue to deal with. For me when i can't find answers to my problems i'll go down to my knees and pray for guidance. I believe in prayers as many times my problems are lifted through the power of prayers.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 Just go with the flow, who knows one day the holy spirit will open up his heart to embrace into your faith. Say nothing to him about religious matters but continue praying for him. I'm pretty sure he will concede one day.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@zandi458 , Thanks friend, very thought provoking suggestion, yes we never talk about religion. We respect each others belief.
@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@zandi458 , very true, I already got God's answer to my prayer, to accept my fate having a man who has no God and religion. I will never force him to marry me for I love God.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
10 Nov 16
You have fallen in love with him and he became your fiancee but why did it take you so long to find out his religious views?
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@1hopefulman,I only spent 2 weeks vacation in my cousins' home every summer vacation, and he was not the one who drove me to church so ofetnly but my counsins. Dennis seldom. This time, I got this info when I was convinced to stay in his house to taake care of him and to finalize our plan.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 I see! You have much to think about. All the best with your decisions.
@skysnap (20154)
10 Nov 16
I dont think that would be the case. I think the reason could be something different. You know people believe in god yet do the same things. There must be some reason that is in between you and him, and you have to find that one out. Have a good day ahead.
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@skysnap (20154)
10 Nov 16
@cacay1 that looks like a no-no guy in that case.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Nov 16
@skysnap I already had found out, the first main reason is he is sickly man , cannot anymore make me happy on bed,frankly, and he already had 7 operations.In short, he feels insecure.Plus, no religion and no God.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Nov 16
@skysnap, he has Parkinson's disease and to be operated twice with his urethra.he will fly to Australia on Saturday and me to fly back home.Get me?
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@DianneN (247219)
• United States
10 Nov 16
He seems to be a kind and caring man, although he has many health issues. Religious beliefs shouldn't matter if you love someone, although it would be nice. Only you know what is best for you.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@DianneN , yes friend, you are super right, he is a very good, caring, thoughtful and nice man, yet so sickly. He almost cannot stand right away,It takes minutes to rise from his seat, and that is due to his Parkinson's.I always on my deep thinking about this problem.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
Oh that's unfortunate that your fiancee is the person he is. Is that your cousin with you on the photo? And don't you miss "puto" and "tsokolate"? Hehehe!
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Nov 16
@sunrisefan, That is right. I want a man who prays and believes God as the only Savior. Yes, Nenen Zoryne Montano in photo with me , my cousin .They migrated here 5 years ago.They have 2 sons and daughter.Her husband and Engineer, and she, teacher.She drove me to shop to buy some stuffs.They have 3 cars now, so ice life here, cool.Maybe Ph now is so hot.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
@cacay1 Is your cousin related to Cesar Montano, the actor? Hehehe! Is she the cousin you're living with in NZ?
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
10 Nov 16
well everyone has different beliefs...Even within my family we all believe in diffrent things....but beliefs don't impact how much you love someone. We just need to be able to respect each others choices....then life gets less complicated.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@ms1864 ,That is true because despite having no religion, but Dennis has a high heart to brng me to church everyt Sunday.@ms1864 ,
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
10 Nov 16
If it is important to you then that is something you should have. It would be nice to have somebody who goes to church with you and prays with you since that is something you want in a relationship.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@Happy2BeMe, yes friend, the feeling is so nice and proud if the two of you kneel and pray together to God.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@Happy2BeMe I hope he is not late to meet and know God in his life now that he is old, the more he should seek God's mercy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 I hope you have that some day
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@toaqua (707)
10 Nov 16
He wouldn't propose if marriage is not on his mind. You might have different beliefs but you need to talk to each to settle your differences.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@toaqua , We already had talked and resolved everything, and that is , he must not stop me if find someone having the same beliefs as mine. he has no strong control and holding power on me.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@toaqua , I hope , thank you dear.
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@toaqua (707)
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 I guess it all worked out fine between you two. I hope for your relationship to be stronger!
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@LeaPea2417 (36514)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov 16
That is sad. I know someone who is a Christian and her husband is a Christian but the husband had a bad experience with a Church he went to many years ago and as a result , he will not go to any Church. He does believe in Jesus, though. But, it really hurts the wife because she would have loved for him to go with her to Church. She still prays he will one day want to go with her. I wish you both well.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@LeaPea2417 , Though it is true that religion cannot save man's soul, but the feeling is nice and proud to have both of you lovingly pray inside the church.
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
10 Nov 16
I can understand your fiancee.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@MALUSE , yeah, he is too old to look at now that he is very sick, but that does not change my feeling for him.
@paigea (35754)
• Canada
11 Nov 16
I am sorry things are not working out as you hoped. Take care.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@paigea Thanks dear, I am so sad.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@paigea yes, you are right, I am so sad. I also miss him and Auckland. I told him I want to live in Auckland and he is the only person who could help me. I hope he understands that if marry me, I would automatically become a resident in NZ. How I like and pray.
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@paigea (35754)
• Canada
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 I am sure you are sad. Best to do make careful decisions though
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
11 Nov 16
That's life. We only need to be strong. Just enjoy the trip.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@AkoPinay , yes, that is what I like in you, always a happy lass, nice , accept it
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
12 Nov 16
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
11 Nov 16
I wish you the best, as this is a personal decision.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@responsiveme , yeah friend, perfect answer.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
11 Nov 16
Dont worry everything will be ok
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Nov 16
@amandajay , Thanks, yes already resolved and feeling okay now
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 16
@amandajay Thanks dear.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
12 Nov 16
@cacay1 thats great... God bless you both
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