Activities?

@redurnet (1330)
United Kingdom
February 16, 2017 4:29am CST
I am a singleton and don't have many friends who like to do anything other than go for a coffee. I really want to do some exciting things this year after going through some bereavements and realizing that life is too short to not enjoy it to the full. Part of me is a bit worried that if I go out and do things on my own that people will think I'm odd, though. Are there any My Lotters who do things alone or do you have any advice about what sort of things I can do?
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@JolietJake (49799)
• United States
16 Feb 17
I have to question the sanity of those that 'go out' for coffee. I guess they don't understand they are placing their life...and their taste buds...in the hands of people that may not be properly trained. I do all my coffee at home where I know how it will taste. While I can't give you any examples of what to do on your own, I say go for it. And if people think you are odd? I would be more concerned if people didn't think I was odd. Nothing a bit wrong with odd.
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@tzwrites (4584)
• Romania
16 Feb 17
I prefer having coffee out, just drinking coffee at home is so boring.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
16 Feb 17
@tzwrites @JolietJake I can't bear the thought of going out for coffee. The coffee is always awful mainly because I just like instant and to pay a small fortune to set in a cafe doesn't thrill me at all. I think I'm becoming a dinosaur.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 17
@JudyEv To be honest I don't mind the coffee but I find the sitting around to be a bit boring. We have the same conversations every time.
• Bournemouth, England
19 Mar 17
I have spent a lot of time going for very long walks (many miles each time) in the countryside around my home. It's a great way to be alone with my thoughts but in a totally different environment.There is always something new to see and appreciate.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 17
I have started to walk different places now. I take my dog with me and I've discovered places that I didn't know where there just five minutes away from where I live!
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• Bournemouth, England
20 Mar 17
@redurnet It's sometimes remarkable what's on our doorsteps.
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@Jlyn10 (10576)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 17
I sometimes eat alone at coffee shops, I think it's a normal thing. You could always get yourself involved in some activities so you can meet people and make more friends. Like me, I go for zumba class and Bible class, made some great friends. And we also have this hangout place where we would meet up on Friday night and anyone (be it family or friends) is free to come and talk and laugh.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 17
I've always thought zumba looks like a lot of fun.
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@Jlyn10 (10576)
• Malaysia
22 Feb 17
@redurnet It is, you should try it. I just love it when I sweat a lot.
@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
16 Feb 17
Go for it - on your own if needs be. But what about joining an interest group of some sort that might do things you like but as a group? Might that be an option?
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@MALUSE (37800)
• Germany
16 Feb 17
@redurnet @JudyEv I wanted to suggest the same. Sports clubs, groups which share a common hobby. There are many possibilities if you live in a town.
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@KrauseHome (34982)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Taking the time to go and do things either in a group or alone is a great thing to do as it gives you time to gain a new perspective, and often gives you ideas on the next new thing to write about. Just go somewhere where you can get out and spend some time walking and exploring and people watch. You might even make a New friend in the process.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 17
thank you for this advice x
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
20 Feb 17
I would enjoy having some friends that just want to meet for coffee! I assume you have Facebook as most people do. Perhaps if there's an event that interests you, plan to go alone, but post on Facebook that you're interested in going and see if any of your friends might be interested as well.. you never know!
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 17
Good idea, thanks.
• Philippines
16 Feb 17
I always do things alone. You can always have someone to do things with you. And besides how can you enjoy things to the fullest if you don't know how to enjoy it yourself. Having fun is not about thinking of other people might look at you.... But as long you don't hurt anyone and you are not putting God's name to shame you can go to where you can have fun with your heart content lol!
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 17
This is true!
@josie_ (6365)
• Philippines
16 Feb 17
I'm comfortable in a crowd or being by myself. It would depend on my mood and I am not overly concern with what people might think of me. As Popeye said "I am what I am and that's all that I am" AND they can go take a flying leap out of the window for all I care.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 17
Nice quote!
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@tzwrites (4584)
• Romania
16 Feb 17
I like going out alone, just walking around or taking short day trips to nearby places.
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@redurnet (1330)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 17
That is nice, I like the sound of leisurely walks and day trips.
• United States
1 Mar 17
I used to go out and do things alone. I have never been fond of doing things by myself, but I also didn't like sitting home bored and missing out on things. After the first few times of going by myself, I stopped being so nervous and found that I enjoyed myself. I went to outdoor concerts, public events and to shoot pool. I also found that no matter where I went, someone was always willing to talk with me, so I wasn't really alone the whole time.
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6 Mar 17
I think you should embrace your time alone. I was always scared to be alone when I was younger. Now? I regret it. I wish I had been more adventuresome. Go for it! Do the things you wish to do while you can do them.
@minx267 (12429)
• Hartford, Connecticut
2 Mar 17
I actually enjoy going to parks and photographing things like flowers and wildlife. There are hiking trails often you can walk in the parks. But since I started taking pictures.. I really enjoy it.. I use the pictures I take to create things online and make myself some extra cash that I use to spoil myself or the pets with. :)