Empathy in a 3 year old
By dragon54u
@dragon54u (31636)
United States
February 28, 2017 10:49am CST
I'm having a bad morning. I'm so sick of being sick! I'm tired of struggling for breath, tired of not having the help I need because I'm uninsured and can't afford a specialist. So I went to my room and cried, which I do sometimes when I've had enough.
My little 3 year old granddaughter came in and climbed up on the bed and patted my hair. She told me it would all be okay and I needed to breathe deeply. She went and got me a glass of cold water that she said would make me feel better. Then she asked if I wanted to talk about what was making me sad. I briefly told her I was tired of being sick and she told me it would get better "eventully" (eventually). She offered to to play tiddlywinks with me to cheer me up.
That seems very unusual to me but even if it is not, I'm very proud of my granddaughter for being so sweet. It makes life worthwhile. 
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@GardenGerty (157562)
• United States
1 Mar 17
What she is showing is the response people give her when she has a problem. They listen and try to give comfort. They do what they can even if it is a reminder to breathe and a chance to enjoy a cup of cold water delivered in love. I would say she is a lucky girl to have that in her envirionment and you are a lucky grandma to be on the receiving end of the good parenting she has had. I am uninsured. I have been fortunate enough to find out about what is known as the direct model of care. That is the type of primary physician I have. She also finds ways to get labs, etc. at cost. If it interests you at all search for Iamdirectcare.com. I know in another state there is a small hospital run on similar principals.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Mar 17
That looks great but there appears to be no way to search for Direct Care providers. That's how health care used to be.
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@1creekgirl (40529)
• United States
28 Feb 17
What a wonderful sense of compassion for such a little one! You and her parents are to be commended. I know she blesses your heart. Trust God's mercy to heal and help you.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Feb 17
thanks creek girl for recommending this. yes my grand daughter has compassion at times. shes only 2. it is wonderful that this 3 yrs old has so much goodness of heart. perhaps she gets that from her grandma. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Feb 17
@1creekgirl oh i am but was speaking also of dragon being perhaps the source of a very good heart
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@1creekgirl (40529)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@bunnybon7 You have every right to be a proud grandma!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
28 Feb 17
You have a great grand daughter, sorry for your state right now. Sorry I do not mean to intrude or perhaps I was not able to follow but what ails you and what makes you sick if you don't mind?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Feb 17
@dragon54u i know. it seems strange that when we quit it some how gets worse. can you get SSI or on disability to help? you need some oxygen now and then available in your house. also, a nebulizer to get your lungs cleared out. a nebulizer is a small machine you put albuterol into and breath in a few minutes to ease your breathing. i am one been through it all with the breathing stuff.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@bunnybon7 I would love to have all that but unfortunately I can't afford the medications and my income is too much to get disability or SSI. I get spousal maintenance from a long marriage and it's enough that I can make ends meet unless big unexpected expenses come up--like big medical bills!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Feb 17
@dragon54u that does seem to be the way the middle folks like us get "screwed" if you pardon my expression. you need someone to help you look into disability. even with your payments. i have AARP, but then i am on social security and disability. proving the disability is the hardest. but as soon as the state sent me to the different places i had to go 3 different doctors which i could not pay for. maybe your ex or whatever that pays can be made to pay for them. i have no idea how i got the doctors paid maybe state, but the 3 rd doctor for mental concerning my depression etc. was the one i think got it for me. i was approved and now the health insurance helps me with most things. i do still have to pay copays but maybe get ex to pay that too. i am a widow so social security pays most of mine.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
10 Mar 17
how wonderful - she sounds bright and compassionate - she may have a great future in nursing and councelling
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
10 Mar 17
I was thinking the same. She is always wanting to look in our throats with the flashlight and giving the dogs biscuits that she calls medicine to help their tummies feel better! 
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
10 Mar 17
@dragon54u bet the dogs love her for the TLC and biscuits there
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
28 Feb 17
That is so sweet. We should all be surrounded by little ones with their solutions, shouldn't we?
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
24 May 17
what a sweet babe 'n i hope that she retains that compassion throughout her life. i'm saddened that yer ailin' 'n can relate to bein' uninsured. some 'f us folks jest can't afford those high premiums 'n monstrous deductibles :(
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
24 May 17
Wasn't that what the ACA was supposed to fix?! I swear, anytime the government gets involved in anything it turns to horse crap!
Wow, this discussion was 3 months ago and while she is still very empathetic she has begun to say no and even spit at her mom. Typical stubborn 3.5 year old! But still a sweet little treasure to me!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
24 May 17
@dragon54u yepperz, 'twas 'pposed to 'fix' yet caused many nightmares fer lots 'f folks. particularly those with chronic health issues fer some reason??
great to hear'n that wee one. stubborn 'tis a grand quality to go 'long with compassion. means she'll get schtuff done :)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Mar 17
Praying for you that you start feeling better soon. So sad things anymore with Health is always about $$. Glad your grandaughter is there to help try and cheer you up some.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
2 Mar 17
Thank you. Maybe I can get some insurance if the laws are changed and that would help enormously. I feel that it's in God's hands and I know a lot of people are in a similar situation of not being able to afford a doctor or medicine.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
6 Mar 17
It is the little moments in life that make us realize that life is worth living.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
6 Mar 17
Even if they are temporary--she's a little monster this morning!
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Mar 17
I'm 62. I think you have to be 65 to get Medicare. I have no retirement funds either and no pension funds. I'll be dependent on social security when I turn 65 which would be about $400 a month but since I was married 20 years I can get half of what my ex draws without affecting his benefits.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
9 Mar 17
She is a real comfort. My life is usually in turmoil thanks to her dad that no longer sees her. It's nice to see such a sweet little girl came from him.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
2 Mar 17
She is but she can also be a little terror!
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@jillybean1222 (6408)
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1 Mar 17
i'm so sorry that you aren't feeling well & that you can't go to the dr that you need. i hate the cost of medical care. it's not fair..
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Mar 17
If I could afford insurance it wouldn't be so bad. I lost my insurance in 2013 because of the new laws and could not afford the new prices. Hopefully, we will get the insurance mess straightened out and people like me will once again have affordable insurance. The cheapest I could find when I looked in December was $1800 a month!!
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@jillybean1222 (6408)
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1 Mar 17
@dragon54u wow, that is insane. and very sad. i really do like the concept of having healthcare like some of the other nations, but this was never going to be that... it was messed up before obamacare. and it was messed up after obamacare. and it will probably still be messed up next year... sadly. i wish there was a way to fix it and make it affordable for everyone...
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
6 Mar 17
That is what I hope for! She does normal stuff like throwing tantrums and all and can be a real brat sometimes but I think she's getting a pretty good start. 
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@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Mar 17
Wow...so sweet and so mature. You should be proud of her. that is really good parental upbringing. Somebody did a lovely job with this child.
I am so sorry you are so sick. Do you have a lung problem?
Crying is good. I don't know what else to say. 'Uninsured and can't afford a specialist'. Isn't there a free hospital that can treat you?
Also, when everything else fail, the Master in Heaven is always there. I will hold you in my prayers and send you my healing energies tonight. Where in the United States are you from? I need a focal point to send my energies to you.
I recently got healed myself.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
10 Mar 17
Yes, I have a lung problem from smoking for 40 years. I was fine till I quit then suddenly I can barely breathe. No free hospitals here for people like me, my income is too high for that but they don't take into account that I'm helping support my DIL and granddaughter. Oh well..
I'm in Phoenix, Arizona and I really appreciate your prayers and energy. God will take care of me, I know, he is a great comfort to me and is the reason I was able to quit smoking cold turkey and the desire to smoke was taken away. Thank you so much for your help!
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
1 Mar 17
It is wonderful to see empathy in a child so young, I wonder if she will be in the healthcare field when she grows up!! She sounds like a delightful child.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Mar 17
She likes to pretend she is a doctor and treats all her dolls and stuffed animals, mostly giving them kisses to cure them.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
1 Mar 17
Isn't that sweet. It is wonderful that she is so empathetic and caring. I do know what you mean about being tired of not being about to breathe well and struggling to get through a day. Every now and then I let myself feel sick and tired of being sick and tired and then pick myself up and move on. I do hope you are able to find some help for yourself.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
1 Mar 17
She is a very compassionate little girl and is obviously being raised good. She is kind hearted and caring and that will take her far in life. I am so glad she was there for you. What a smart little girl.
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