Is there something wrong with me?

United States
March 24, 2017 5:28pm CST
Why cant I find a "real" nice guy? Even when they are nice, it doesn't take long before they're cursing me out or being really sarcastic and inconsiderate. Is it just me or are they just playing nice up to a certain point? Am I the problem?
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@cupkitties (7585)
• United States
25 Mar 17
If you want to find a truly good man, observe how he treats his mother and sister(s). If he is disrespectful to the women in his family, he will eventually treat you the same way. Don't be fooled thinking "But he treats me so well" because that will change once the new relationship buzz wears off and his true colors come to light.
@megatron777 (3773)
• Guam
25 Mar 17
You need to analyze yourself and everything connected with your self.
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
24 Mar 17
In a way, you're the problem but not really. There is something in your personality that attracts them and makes you seek them out subconsciously. There is something in them that makes them seek out women that they can abuse. I have the same problem, I always attracted domineering men who could not love me yet I thought I loved them. After the last one I decided that I don't want any more relationships--I'm 62 and quite happy on my own. Have you ever seen a counselor or therapist? A few session addressing this problem might give you some insight into what you need to change in order to attract the type of person you deserve.
@pumpkinjam (5800)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 17
Not knowing you, I can't say for certain that it isn't you. Up to a point, we should look within ourselves and see where improvements can be made. BUT, we should focus on bettering ourselves for ourselves, not to impress other people. Also, we shouldn't go too far in this. Sometimes we choose people who are not good for us. Perhaps that is our own fault for making that choice but it's not our fault that the other person is the way they are. We shouldn't, however, end up questioning ourselves so much that we lose confidence. One thing I will say is this: IF you are questioning whether the problem lies with you, it probably doesn't. It is hard to tell. It may be there is something (which may not even be anything bad) which means you attract rotters or something that men like but then get to know you and find something they don't like. It could simply be a matter of luck. You know, I was in a horrible relationship for 10 years. I got out and found a wonderful man when I wasn't looking.