Marsha's Log: Dishonest People

@marsha32 (6631)
United States
May 15, 2017 4:58pm CST
Some weeks ago my daughter asked if her friend could stay in our basement room. He lost his job then lost his apartment. We said that would be fine, and in return for a place to stay he was to do yard work and things around the house. That was all going well....he was keeping the lawn mowed and keeping the trash and recycle items taken out and other things such as that. Then one day my daughter discovered that $80 was missing out of her pouch where she was saving to eventually get enough to get a place of her own. That day this friend had gone to eat at Pizza Ranch, and on the way home he had stopped at Game Stop and bought a video game. He quickly convinced us that it wasn't him that had taken it and offered to cell his tattoo equipment to get her $80 back. Then later she came up missing $20. I didn't know about that until today. Yesterday I found a nickel in the trunk of my car. I have (or had) a cardboard piggy bank from church. We are to save change in it until close to the end of the year and the money goes to "Global Barnyard" to buy goats, pigs, chicks and such for other countries. Anyway, my piggy is gone. Then Jasmine tells me that all the silver change is also gone out of her change bank in her room. This morning something, or someone, told me to check Jasmine's state quarter folder. Sure enough, it's empty of it's $13 worth of state quarters. He is the only one that could have taken them as he's the only one that even knew it was there. Last week or so I was commenting about not knowing what was in this drawer down by my desk. I opened it and seen her quarters. I took the folder out to show him. I told him how I saved state quarters all year long back then to make folders for all 4 of my kids. And, at Christmas time how I had to go to the coin shop and pay 50 or 75 cents and some $1 to buy the missing quarters so that they got full folders. Do you think I am right to accuse him now of all the missing money?? Jasmine sent him a message telling him that he needs to get out of our house today and how you don't take advantage of people who are helping you out. We've given him a place to live, food to eat, and I always roll him cigarettes when he is out. It's not like he's not had money of his own as he's been doing lots of work for my sister-in-law and she pays him more than fairly for the work---just yesterday he got $50 for mowing! It's not been a good day here. He is off with my sister-in-law now doing more work and I'm not looking forward to when he will be back....unless he really does come to get his totes and go somewhere else.
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@GardenGerty (157596)
• United States
15 May 17
I would put the totes on the curb and tell Starla to lock up her valuables, oh, and lock the doors.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
No word from either. Starla brought a drivers book over for Jasmine but we weren't home and she didn't say anything to Steve on the phone about Jeff.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
15 May 17
Some people do not appreciate the kindness of other people. Sorry to hear that!
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
He put on a very good front of being a good person.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
19 May 17
@1hopefulman Yes, and I feel so stupid now as I was actually pushing my daughter to get together with him....
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 May 17
@marsha32 Some people are good actors!
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• United States
15 May 17
I pray this turns out peaceful and he will just leave. Of course you are doing the right thing. You were not missing money before he got there.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
He didn't say a word to me or my daughter when he came to get his stuff....he did, however, convince my husband of his innocence so I can't even bring it up with him as he defends him.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
19 May 17
@TiarasOceanView Well not happy with my husband for doubting me....or seeming to take his side in the matter.
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• United States
18 May 17
@marsha32 Oh now, see, that is how cunning he is Marsha, they always rope someone in to have their backs.
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@LadyDuck (458412)
• Switzerland
16 May 17
He surely is the one who got the money and he has to leave your house immediately. I am very sorry, I cannot stand people like him.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
It's just still sad to me that he would do such when we were giving him a place to live and feeding him too.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
19 May 17
@LadyDuck He could have just asked if he really needed the money. He was notorious for waiting until I went to bed then raiding the kitchen fixing all kinds of stuff to eat too.
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@LadyDuck (458412)
• Switzerland
19 May 17
@marsha32 I agree, this is the saddest part of the story.
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@sallypup (57966)
• Centralia, Washington
15 May 17
I hope this all turns out peaceable. This could go off like a powder keg on you. It sure sounds like he has not been a good guy with you, considering how fantastic you were to save his rump.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
At first he was doing all the yard work, making sure the trash was out and other household chores......that stopped though when he found out my daughter had no intention of being in a relationship with him. Now I'm thinking he took the money out of spite.
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@Happy2BeMe (99392)
• Canada
15 May 17
It is a terrible feeling when somebody you try to help steals from you. I hope he leaves peacefully.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
I was a bit concerned to wake up to flattened tires or something like that, but thankfully nothing has happened. We are locking the doors though when not at home though.
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@Happy2BeMe (99392)
• Canada
21 May 17
@marsha32 did he leave without incident?
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 May 17
That is awful. Who else would have taken the monies? You have never had that problem until he moved in so I think it's a safe bet to say he's a low down thief. I hope you're rid of him today. Kick him out no matter what time he returns. If he doesn't have a place to stay that's not your problem. If he won't leave, call the police.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
Hubby's sister took him to her house. More power to her...she's lonely.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
26 May 17
That sucks. Sadly, I know how this feels as I recently had my own cousin steal money out of my wallet. I had just taken that money out of the bank a couple hours before to pay her and her sister for helping me with housework. (her sister has been helping me for months.. no incidents) This was the first time she came over to help. I went in my wallet to get the money for them and it was gone. she took $20. That is the last time she was asked to help me. Her sister still comes over. You try and help people. she wanted spending cash. I needed help.. but she couldn't just wait. she had to steal it.. so I didn't give her anymore. I told her I knew it was her. I don't understand how these people think.. do they think you will just assume you forgot where you put your money or how much you had. or assume you lost it.. Oh dear. and not get pissed off?!
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
24 May 17
This is horrible and will not stop until you have nothing left for someone to steal. Seems this might be a good time for him to head to the Salvation Army or another place that has room.
• Midland, Michigan
20 May 17
I hope that he's not stolen anything from your sil too. When nothing goes missing and then all of a sudden it does and there's someone new living there, it's a pretty good guess that they are the culprit unless you have a lot of other people in and out all day long, but if nothing was ever missing before, then...That's pretty dumb of him that he took what you showed him. He probably assumed that a lot of people knew it was hidden there.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
15 May 17
What a very sad story. You must do whatever you all decide is the right thing. I don't think I could advise you.
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
I was already feeling uncomfortable with him still being here, especially since he started dating a girl that is only 16.
@Essjayd (1568)
15 May 17
That's a horrible thing to do to people who have given him a roof over his head and looked after him. I hope he just leaves and that's the last you ever see of him
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@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
18 May 17
In some ways I can't help but be curious as to what's going on but I know that's just a waste of my time wondering.
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