Having to start life without him

May 29, 2017 8:07am CST
Well it has been 21 days since my husband accident and 13 days since his funeral. Family has all went back home and back to their lives. I am left to figure out how to live life without him. I am so grateful and thankful for the friends I do have they have been by my side ever since. My neighbor and I started out as neighbors and through this have become very close friends. They have been my rock through all this. I've been thinking about what to do from here. Im waiting to hear back if the people that own the house the we are currently renting will sell it to. If they do then thats what I plan on doing and upating a few things and doing the yard up like my husband and I had often talked about. If for some reason it doesnt work out then I will start looking for something to buy. That was one of our goals and something he wanted for us more than anything. We had decided that we would stay for the lenght of lease and if it all worked out buy it if not starting shopping around. I have that much sorted out everything else Im just not sure yet. This week I guess I am going to try and get back into some sort of routine for the kids and I. It helps if I stay busy I am ok during the day but night time is when it's really hard. Thank you all so much for all your kinds words of support it really means a lot to me.
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@jstory07 (58373)
• Roseburg, Oregon
29 May
It helps to have the support of your family and friends.
4 people like this
29 May
Yes it does.
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@responsiveme (14417)
• India
29 May
You take care. You are getting the priorities right. how old are the kids?
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29 May
16,14,12 and 7
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• India
29 May
@AutumnSnow They are the reason for you to get back to routine. I am glad your neighbours are friends too. We are here for you too.
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• United States
29 May
Having support will help a great deal and having the kids to care for will also help you through the grief.
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@ramapo17 (19043)
• Melbourne, Florida
30 May
Just remember that he will always be looking down on you and the kids. When I was 20 I lost a boyfriend to leukemia and I was lucky to have a lot of friends to get me through it.
@spaceseed (2925)
• India
29 May
All the best. keep the wheel of life rolling. God bless you
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@Linda1234 (4783)
• Houston, Texas
29 May
I believe many friends and your family relationships can help you and stay with you . You are not alone . you are blessed .
@CoralLevang (40722)
• United States
29 May
Know that I am holding you and the children in my heart. It has not been long, so be kind to yourself. But I am glad to see you back here and looking forward. There are many here who care for you. Never be afraid to reach out. Hugs.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
29 May
We are here for you also. I hope that all will work out fine for you whatever happens and whatever you decide to do. It is a very hard time you face now, but with some support, I know you can make it. Thank you for coming here to let us now how you are.
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@Happy2BeMe (70161)
• Canada
29 May
Just take one day at a time. It is not going to be easy but you and your kids will find a routine that works for all of you. I think it is good that you are planning on buying a home for all of you to live in. He would be so proud of you and how you are dealing with things. You are in my thoughts and prayers every day. We are always here for you and to support you and help you in anyway that we can.
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@silvermist (15823)
• India
29 May
You have got your priorities right The kids and then buying a house.It is good to know you have supportive friends.
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• Australia
20 Jul
Hi, @WinterRea . Just dropping by to see how you're going. I reviewed some of my recent response posts. And yours is one that I'd love to pursue knowing about after the passing of your husband. Which reminds me of giving my widowed Mom a call soon. Lots of hugs and love to you, Rea.
• Jacksonville, Florida
1 Jun
I'm so sorry, we are all here whenever you need to talk. I hope you can find a home to buy. I hope your doing as okay as possible right now.
30 May
I am sorry, you have to be strong for your kids,take care your kids and yourself also
@Nana2016 (263)
• United States
30 May
Prayers
@SIMPLYD (75326)
• Philippines
30 May
It is good to hear that your neighbors has been your rock through this phase of your life. They help you go through it easier at the least. I pray that you will get what you wish to do.
@allknowing (55733)
• India
30 May
One needs to thank time that diffuses situations enabling people to get on with their life.
@celticeagle (115084)
• Boise, Idaho
30 May
So nice to know that you have these people in your life. I hope this works out and you can get this house. How nice to have great neighbors. Good luck to you!
@magnumopus (1685)
• Singapore
30 May
Time heal the greatest of wounds. Take care.
@Essjayd (1168)
30 May
I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm glad you have some good friends by your side. I
@sishy7 (27285)
• Australia
29 May
I can't imagine the pain and grief that you're going through... the kids need you... stay strong.
@snowy22315 (34177)
• United States
29 May
It will take time..but eventually things will start to fall into place. Again, so sorry for your loss,
@ranan1989 (399)
29 May
yes that's life and though it's hard to negate the effect of his memory from your mind I know within few days You would be able to get back in your normal life... don't try to look back to the past and move with the present to build an excellent future... best of luck