The Horse is fired from his job for a strange reason

@TheHorse (52723)
Pleasant Hill, California
June 14, 2017 1:02pm CST
I got fired yesterday, and it was for a reason that I find to be rather silly, though I do understand. I was out with a 12-year-old kid client who wanted me to buy him Mortal Kombat X. He is homeless, and suffers from depression and anxiety. I told him that Mortal Kombat X cost's $20, and my budget for him is about $7 an outing. I suggested that we save and just buy smoothies for the next three outings, and then I could get it for him if it was OK with his mom. He said, "I don't want to see you any more. I'm going to find a better Mentor." I gave him my Supervisor's name and told him I'm miss him. He said "I don't care." When we got back to his house, I told his mom that I'd been fired, and commenced to play with my client's five-year-old sister and seven-year-old brother, both of whom adore me (and me, them). I'd been their older brother's Mentor before, so they've known me "since they were little." After about twenty minutes, my (former) client emerged from his room (they just scored some Section 8 housing--I hope they can keep it) and apologized for his behavior on our outing. He said he looked forward to seeing me after my vacation. I told him I was glad that he'd rehired me. He felt better and even let me play with his fidget spinner. My real reason for playing with his sibs (aside from the fact that it was fun) was to give my client time time to change his mind about firing me. I didn't want him to feel anxious while I'm on vacation, thinking he'd really fired me. There's teachable moment here. He told me he didn't know that X was the roman numeral for 10. I'm going to print out a sheet of roman numerals so he can know which version of his violent games he's looking at.
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@MALUSE (32662)
• Denmark
14 Jun
What are you doing in the photo? Are you a hunter?
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Jun
Target practice in the hills near here. I shot a skunk in Montana when I was 14, felt terrible, and vowed never to shoot another animal in my life. I have stayed true to that vow. I am not a hunter.
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@dragon54u (31340)
• United States
14 Jun
@TheHorse I went hunting with my dad once and shot a rabbit. I will never shoot another animal. I wish it had never happened. It's an awful thing for a child to take a life but maybe it's a defining experience that shapes us for the better. I hate remembering it.
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@Corbin5 (81315)
• United States
14 Jun
@TheHorse My grandfather was a hunter, and he did hunt for food way down in Southern Illinois, as did his parents back in the day in the woods of Charleston, IL. He would take us "hunting," but he would never shoot an animal of any kind if we were tagging along. We just walked and enjoyed nature, with a wonderful Beagle pup along for the adventure, with a grandpa who had his rifle slung over his shoulder that remained untouched in our presence. I thank him for that.
@HazySue (16978)
• United States
14 Jun
That was an excellent e=way to handle that. So many people don't understand the mind of a troubled child.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Jun
I really adore this kid, and I think he knows it. He feels safe when he's with me, and that's important. He's one I'll try to keep in touch with after our (second) run together is over. I get to see him for about four more months.
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@HazySue (16978)
• United States
15 Jun
@TheHorse They know when you care about them. They have a good guy radar built in. I now you will miss him. When I had a self-contained class I had the kids for 6, 7, and 8th grade. After 3 years you become pretty attached.
@LadyDuck (121361)
• Switzerland
15 Jun
I do not think that this game is appropriate for this kid. I hope he will forget about it.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
I'm not going to buy it for him. I'm glad his mom agrees with me.
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@LadyDuck (121361)
• Switzerland
19 Jun
@TheHorse I hope his Mom will listen to you.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
@LadyDuck She's busy with four children and no way to take care of them. But she has some sense of what's appropriate and what's not.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
14 Jun
haha cute. Glad you got your job back.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Jun
I was relieved!
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• Lakewood, Colorado
14 Jun
@TheHorse As they would say in England..what a cheek he has lol
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Jun
@TiarasOceanView He's a cheeky kid (Did I say that right?). I adore him.
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• United States
16 Jun
perhaps he 'twas actin' 'out a bit, knowin' that'cha were gonna be gone fer a much deserved vacation? i'm glad ya stuck 'round 'n let 'im figure out his feelin's a bit. many teachable moments from what i read here 'n ya did well, my friend!
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Thanks, crazyhorse. I think so too. I didn't think about the "gone for a couple of weeks" aspect. That could have contributed.
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• United States
19 Jun
@TheHorse yer welcome. i 'twas jest thinkin' how this young fella's come to rely'n yer smilin' face, charmin' wit 'n the fun y'all've together. big hugs!
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
@crazyhorseladycx I think he can sense that I care deeply about him as well. Hugs back atcha.
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@responsiveme (14417)
• India
15 Jun
You are good with your children.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
I think patience is my best virtue. Ultimately, we all need someone who cares about us and is willing to listen to us.
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• India
16 Jun
@TheHorse and somebody who doesn't react ....And also it can't be family especially moms
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
16 Jun
@responsiveme Often that is the case.
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@DaddyEvil (22314)
• United States
18 Jun
It was bound to happen, pony... I am glad you handled it the way you did. I know that many people would have just gone on vacation and let the kid worry about it while they were gone. (I've never understood the attitude of "Let that be a lesson to him." when it involves unnecessary anxiety.)
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Yeah, this kid has anxiety and depression issues as it is. The main lesson he has to learn is that he's worthy of love and kindness.
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@DaddyEvil (22314)
• United States
22 Jun
@TheHorse You did great, pony! If only human kindness was a required course in schools, the world might be a tad better off... And pigs will fly one day, too. SMH!
@nanette64 (13660)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun
Kids!! What-r-ya-gonna-do. I'm so glad he came around @TheHorse . I love that pic. Kinda looks like my place except for the grass being nice and short.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Those hills are in the foothills of Mt. Diablo. It's pretty up there in very early Spring. Now it's yellow.
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@nanette64 (13660)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Jun
@TheHorse Gorgeous, peaceful place.
@Jessicalynnt (48191)
• Centralia, Missouri
15 Jun
That's...a pretty funny thing there.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
It is kind of cute when I get "fired." It's happened before.
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• Centralia, Missouri
19 Jun
@TheHorse Well I suppose it's also a good thing, they feel comfortable to let you know when they arent happy with something, even if it's necc the correct response (is this a big problem or a little problem?)
@andriaperry (32926)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jun
"His Violent Games?!" I am glad you did not let him manipulate you into buying that game, he sure tried! Firing you like he did.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
I had a hunch his mom wouldn't be OK with that game. Turns out I was right.
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@andriaperry (32926)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jun
@TheHorse Little ones are smart, they know how to work us, sometimes.
@blitzfrick (2996)
• United States
14 Jun
Not predicting this kid will be one, but I've known wife-beaters who go through the cycle of abuse, remorse, apology, maintaining, repeat. Why give an at-risk child a game of violence?
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
I'm glad his mother agreed that the game was not appropriate. But this kid has been playing Grand Theft Auto since he was eight.
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• United States
15 Jun
@TheHorse isn't it time to wean him off? not my biz, though.
@pgntwo (21696)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
14 Jun
When people where I work get fired, they are typically escorted off the premises. Now I think I know why - it's to stop them changing their mind. Wow. PS. Good one, BTW, and congrats on being reappointed
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
Heh heh. Yep, glad I got my job back.
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@pgntwo (21696)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
15 Jun
@TheHorse I'll bet. As is your young employer ;)
@Nawsheen (22862)
• Mauritius
14 Jun
A happy ending to this story you did the right thing by giving him time to decide. Sometimes people take on the spot decisions are only regret later
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Jun
I really like this kid. He's impulsive. But he's also really smart.
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@Nawsheen (22862)
• Mauritius
15 Jun
@Fleurnight true indeed
@FourWalls (9889)
• United States
16 Jun
Did you ask for a raise when he re-hired you?
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Rats, I forgot about that part!
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@dodo19 (28068)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Jun
That was definitely a good way of handling the situation. Sometimes, we get upset and say/do things that we regret later. I'm glad that he got the chance to calm down and he was able to apologize. Sticking around for a while was definitely a good idea on your part.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
Yeah, I figured he didn't want to see our relationship in limbo. I really do care about that kid, and he knows it.
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@DWDavis (11146)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
15 Jun
You were wise to give the boy time to think about what he'd done. I find many middle school kids, especially those from single-parent households in economic distress, only want what they can get now, and if you don't provide, they lash out, but given time they come around and realize they were wrong.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Agreed. And I think the "appropriate boundaries" ultimately make them feel "safe."
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@djbrat13 (163)
• Phoenix, Arizona
15 Jun
I'm glad that he had some time to rethink his decision. You are a good mentor (((hugs)))
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
Thanks for the hugs!
@snowy22315 (34132)
• United States
15 Jun
So glad you were "rehired"
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
Me too. I think he benefits from my services.
@thelme55 (11777)
• Germany
15 Jun
I am glad you are hired again. I am sure you are a good mentor.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Jun
I am glad he rehired me too. I didn't want him to have to worry for a whole week or more that he'd really fired me.
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@KrauseHome (33368)
• United States
15 Jun
Glad that this worked out for you, and I am sure in time he will come to understand more just what a blessing it is to have someone like you in his life to help him.
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@TheHorse (52723)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Jun
I think he already knows it. It's just hard for a 12-year-old boy to express. He also knows that I really care about him.