A Mistake I Might Be Making in Prayer?

What, are you saying I should just 'message some person (maybe one of http://www.classmates.com/yearbooks/Putnam-City-High-School/4182709122 my old classmates)' and just tell them "I choose you. Accept my situation, give-up whatever you're doing & come be my slave!"? If you think that's possibly the right thing to do, you're probably not familiar with the culture of America. We all know the "mythical" idea of 'immigrating here & slowly building a huge fortune from "pulling yourself up by your own bootstraps" (which is literally impossible to do ... an idiom illustrating something else that's 'impossible to do'---improving your situation using nothing but your own efforts). But we uphold it anyway---maybe with the slight change James Joyce used when he mentioned that the successful people in his book Ulysses "climbed up the ladder of success" making use of 'their own bootstraps.' American children (metaphorically) 'hang onto their parents' bootstraps' until they're strong enough to 'climb the ladder' themselves and climb up to a steady place on the ladder---where they keep steady until their children are strong enough to climb ... an-so-on. If someone is not busy 'climbing the ladder of success,' they are not seen as "worthy of being a spouse" (as God said when planning to make Eve for Adam, "I will create a helper for him, a mate most-suitable for him").