August 16, 2017 8:41pm CST
Today I read that Aleksy Shapalov's gave his wife a ten million dollar ring. The thing (see above picture), in my opinion, is gaudy. I get that's she's rich and she probably doesn't "do" much in the way of chores but I can't help but wonder...how does she heft that thing around? Surely it would impede her in some physical way, wouldn't you think? And then, a short time later, I read about a woman who was complaining because the $1600 wedding ring her fiance bought her was too small. What. In. The. World! See, I grew up believing that it's the marriage that matters--not the ring. And yet, so many women seem to be more enamored with a piece of jewelry than the human being that they claim to love. Why? As for me, I love the little ring my husband gave me. It was an heirloom passed down from his great grandmother and one day, I hope to pass it down to one of my grand-sons (should I be so blessed). Hopefully my future grand-daughter in law will appreciate the small gem as much as I do and not be as petty as these women in the news. What say you? Do you prefer a large diamond (or other "rock") or something small and simple? **Disclaimer** I'm not saying a big diamond is wrong or a small diamond is wrong...it's the attitude behind it.
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Yes people would do well to focus on the marriage rather than all the fixing that wedding planners tell us we need to have. And more fool Mr Shapalov - being slapped by a hand with that rock on it would hurt. He'd better behave himself.
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• United States
@marguicha About an hour ago I saw the headlines of an article where a ring, that had been missing for 11 years, turned up in a carrot. Maybe one day your ring will be restored to you. As this story shows, stranger things have happened!
They searched high and low, and over a decade later they found it.
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
When I married, we were poor and in the military. We went to the base exchange jewelry counter and bought a simple ring with a star design on it. It cost all of $42. Simple was good enough. If I get married again, simple will still be good enough.
I saw that picture and thought it looked way too big for her skinny fingers... She marries some Russian billionaire or something, right? Everything about the wedding was extravagance and way over the top - the dress, the floating 8-tier cake, etc...
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
Mine is itty bitty, and is not even my original engagement ring...but that's a another story. Along the same lines I've tried to keep my daughters from going gaga about over the top weddings. Too many people put too much effort and money into the wedding and don't put the same effort into making the marriage work.
• United States
Yes! My husband and I had a super small wedding (we didn't even have a cake or reception!) and it was the best thing ever! We've invested more in our marriage than the wedding party. My grandma told me about some friends of hers who, when their daughters got married, had a choice. Their dad said he'd pay for either a big wedding or they could have a small wedding and keep the extra money for their honeymoon. Two of the daughters went for the wedding while the third chose the honeymoon. Guess which one is still married...!
• United States
I have a silver band in a Celtic Knot weave. Since hubby wore his out, he wears a titanium plain silver band. Sure, I would love a diamond, but there are other things I love more, such as my husband, and going places with him. It is the person not the jewelry that counts.
I completely agree witih what you wrote. I just read about the woman who complained that her 1800 (euro? pound?) ring was too small. The ring that you posted above may be expensive but definitely not something I'd like to wear. I know every woman dreams of a perfect proposal. I dreamt of that too... and you know where my husband proposed to me? - in a parking lot. hahaha! my ring was small but I loved it to bits. It kind of looked like the one the woman who complained that her ring was too small. I guess it all boils down with how much you appreciate the person who has done that for you. I used to tease my husband before that if we ever reached our 20th or 30th year, he should propose to me with a bit more flare and give me a bigger ring. We've since separated though but remain friends. Still, I cherish anything given because I know it was given to me for a beautiful reason. Heck, someone could give me a silver ring and I'd still love it to bits. I'm pretty sentimental when it comes to gifts.