Oh I Can Laugh!
By Catherine
@bluesa (15023)
Johannesburg, South Africa
September 17, 2017 5:42am CST
Haha, I can laugh, I don't get how people don't understand that not everybody wants to be in a relationship. I love being single and having my friends in my life but it is amazing how we can complicate things that should not be complicated at all.
I have a large group of friends and sometimes we'll message each other in a group chat, but what I really enjoy is when we send personal messages, asking each other how the day went, or just saying a personal hi, maybe even sharing a funny image and quote. It just shows true care and true friendship to my mind.
Yes it is simpler to group chat, but that one on one greeting shows that extra care is part of the friendship. Note, I say "friendship" not "relationship."
A new friend to our group freaked out when another friend of mine sent him a personal message, he said she was "interested" in him because she told him she liked his personality and thought he was a great guy and well, he doesn't see her that way. Now, I don't understand when a lady telling a guy that she likes his personality and thinks he is a great guy to talk to became, "Oh, I think you're the one and I hear wedding bells!" Really? How does that figure?
So, imagine my delight when I was able to inform him that she will soon be marrying her very lovely girlfriend, so he could please just relax already! Then I added that though I am single and I think he is nice to chat to that he need not freak out, because I don't see him "that way!" Just in case I ended up freaking his obviously sensitive self out too!
I am so not on the hunt, I am not looking for the one, doesn't mean if someone comes along I am not open to it, but I am 40 and should I see someone as more than just a friend, I will tell them straight! Right? There should be a time in our lives where we don't need to beat around the bush anymore? And anyway, I am kind of old school and believe that if a man is interested in a woman, he should do the hunting! So, yeah, no pursuing from me! Oh, I say again, I can laugh at how we can complicate things that should not be complicated at all!
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19 responses
@DeborahDiane (40092)
• Laguna Woods, California
22 Sep 17
@DianneN - I agree that the male should do the hunting. It's good to keep them on their toes!
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@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
18 Sep 17
That is what it should be. Man should be the hunter not the hunted. I always believe in that. In fact, I am still the hunter I used to when I was in my 20's . . . 
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
17 Sep 17
I have been on hunting trips and been hunted. I can say that it is much more fun to be hunted. LOL.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
17 Sep 17
@bluesa put the bait out there and see what comes along.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
17 Sep 17
@ElusiveButterfly , Lol! Like I am too busy to hunt, I am too busy to put the bait out too!
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@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
18 Sep 17
O, life begins at 40 . . that is what they say. So, soon you will be hunted. 
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
19 Sep 17
@antonbunot , 
but I am the type of prey that gets to have a choice! Should I ever decide I am willing to be hunted, that hunter is going to have to work! 
but I am the type of prey that gets to have a choice! Should I ever decide I am willing to be hunted, that hunter is going to have to work! 1 person likes this
@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Sep 17
@bluesa Ha!? A hunter knows that a prey is not willing to be hunted . . . That is what hunting (chasing ladies) very exciting. . . . . and when the hunted is caught after so many obstacles and sacrifices - - it is so sweet!
. . and when the hunted is caught after so many obstacles and sacrifices - - it is so sweet!1 person likes this
@DeborahDiane (40092)
• Laguna Woods, California
17 Sep 17
@bluesa - You seem very wise. I think that women are becoming more comfortable with being single. Some of the women I admire most were married when they were young, had children and then have lived a very successful, happy life later on, whether they became widowed or divorced. People are happiest when they can enjoy their own company, as well as the company of others.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
19 Sep 17
Thank you. I have seen so many of my friends lied to by smooth talking men and going through divorce. I always had a different focus in life, if a man that does not flirt or lie comes along, I will give him a chance. Otherwise being on my own is safest and happiest. And having a big group of friends is best.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
20 Sep 17
@DeborahDiane , so true. I really can't abide men that are smooth talkers and flirts and believe their own lies. It will have to be a very good guy for me to even consider no longer being single.
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@DeborahDiane (40092)
• Laguna Woods, California
20 Sep 17
@bluesa - I think that is a smart attitude. Gone are the days when young women needed to be linked to a man in order to survive. Women can support themselves now, so men have to step up and be good guys if they expect women to stick around.
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
17 Sep 17
We're the same way if that. Gogo girl power, and most important is laughter is the best medicine hehe
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Sep 17
What a complicated web some weave! Have a nice day!
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Sep 17
@bluesa I agree! If we are interested in a relationship with a person, we should say something and not just assume and then get surprised because we misunderstood. If the other person doesn't feel as we do, it's ok. We move on.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
i too belong to the old school. i like women to be courted by men. i still believe in courtship
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
20 Sep 17
@ridingbet , yes, sadly, many men can't be taken at face value. They just love to flirt.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Sep 17
@bluesa but there are some men who court, and yet are American gigolos.
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@petatonicsca (7070)
• Japan
17 Sep 17
Me too. So not interested in "that kind" of relationships.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Makes me glad I have been happily Married for over 18 yrs now. Not sure I would want to be single the way a lot of Men are these days. Hope they will continue to accept the want of you just wanting to be friends and nothing more
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Well I am very glad I am in a long-term relationship so that I have neither to hunt or be hunted lol
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
18 Sep 17
Oh yes, that does sound like a great big mix up after all. You're right? Why do people complicate things. I'm with you there - I think that if a man is interested he will make the first move. Of course I have been interested in many of the years, but they don't make the first move... so... it goes nowhere. :/ Which I'm.... mostly.... alright with. I'm happy single.
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