When Love Hurts
By Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
Anniston, Alabama
September 18, 2017 7:26pm CST
A few days ago I was listening to someone talk about their daughter and how her life had been going these past few years. Its not that great as far as relationships but she did have several beautiful children.
I remembered the first man she got involved with and seems that ended when he beat her up.
Next she married an army man, had three kids and right before they split, he beat her up.
Now to the latest man, something went wrong early on in this relationship, he beat her up and bad enough to knock her teeth loose.
Seems her husband took her back, so they are okay right now but something is not right.
While the father is blaming the men, I am looking in from outside and I cannot see every man being abusive and beating women, I think its her. The reason is because I have seen this same behavior before but it was because of drinking. The woman always wanted to beat up the man she was with when she was drunk.
Some may not agree with me but I have seen men take it and take it till he gets enough, blows up and just lets a woman have it and walks off, ending it for good. Is it the right things to do? No but a man can only take so many beatings himself. I have seen the most humble men have to knock a woman off of him only for her to jump right back on him beating him with her fists.
Ever seen this type of abuse?
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@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
19 Sep 17
@andriaperry The children suffer the most in any abusive relationship, how many children does she have?
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Sep 17
It is an unusual situation that everyone she ends up with is physically abusive. Is she just making repeated bad choices? Even if she is a problem, why don't the men just leave without doing a number on her?
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Sep 17
@andriaperry Relationships seem more complicated these days.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
That is what I was thinking.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58290)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Sep 17
It must be something she is doing or maybe she starts the fight and they are defending themselves. Dad situation either way.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
Yes it is, the one that used to get drunk and fight, she is straight now and in the same relationship since 2009.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58290)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Sep 17
@andriaperry hmm I hope things improve for her
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@gauti2483 (587)
• India
19 Sep 17
It's not good to beat any one, and she beat again an again
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
I agree, not a good situation.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
19 Sep 17
I personally think it is bad choices. My one daughter makes bad choices with all the men she has been with.. This last one being abusive and such. She just left, but waiting to see if she stays away or goes back. I hate it but the more I talk to her it is like the more she will do the opposite, kinda like a teen, except she isn't anymore and has 4 kids and another on the way with this jerk.
But I do think it is the choices, now why they do I don't know. That said I was raised with a very abusive father, even being shot at. Very abusive to my mom, he just reminds me of evil, My mom finally got the courage to leave and never looked back.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
20 Sep 17
@andriaperry I accept it, I think it made me the person who I am today and I honestly like me. I think it also made me stronger and being able to deal with all I have been thru. Thank you thou, I think we all have skeletons in our closets. Mine just made me stronger and wiser. 
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
I am sorry all that happened to you.
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@Letranknight2015 (51539)
• Philippines
19 Sep 17
For the moment there I thought this was just a sad situation of her history until you told me there that she's provoking it for a long time. Yeah, love really hurts. But that's not a healthy relationship. I hope she improves.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
Yes maybe she will, I will check on and ask about here from time to time.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
19 Sep 17
@andriaperry It could have been. I was glad we weren't there to long to see too much. I wasn't fun and it was a mess.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
I agree, it has to be something simple!
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
I have not seen this in many years.
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@kobesbuddy (74926)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Sep 17
I knew a lady, she was physically abused by every man she ever dated! She was as wild as they came:(
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
They pick drunks because they are drunks and that is usually what happens, well as I have watched and seen.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
@kobesbuddy Ya know maybe it did come down from their mom. I know that its not always drinking because I was never drunk, not was he when I got knocked around.
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@kobesbuddy (74926)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Sep 17
@andriaperry You are right! Birds of a feather, flocking together. Yet, some women are only wives, with a violent situation. Many of those men are wonderful people, in public. These men are manipulative controllers, from their relationship with an extremely, domineering mother.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Sep 17
Its one of the reasons I wont have a bar, I cannot stand drunks.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Sep 17
@andriaperry With a bar you would have to put up with drunks. They're not my cup of tea either.
