Mother and Younger Brother - when collide!
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
October 16, 2017 11:42pm CST
For some of you know, I have a Mother who has an attitude problem. And I don't want to go on to details anymore. Go figure.
And I have a younger Brother who has a Transgender girlfriend or whatever you called it. Which is giving me a lot of headaches lately. The problem is his very manipulative and clingy Transgender girlfriend. At first, I thought she is concerned in my younger Brother's school thing. She told me I should let my Brother always go to school. But lately, I observe that she doesn't want my Brother to sleep early because she cannot sleep. By the way, this Transgender is in Germany now.
She wants my Brother always on his tablet watch her doing her thing like cooking, studying or even making her makeups. One time, I heard my Brother pleading he wants to go to sleep because he is very sleepy but this Transgender doesn't want to.
And there is this instances that my Brother will have to sleep at 2 am then wakes up at 4 am to talk to the Transgender until the morning, and until he cannot attend his first and second subject.
Do you think this kind of relationship is healthy anymore? 
Please, I need some advice.
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22 responses
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
17 Oct 17
Does not seem healthy at all. But only he can change things. All you can do is sit back and watch.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
17 Oct 17
@JustBhem theres nothing you can do though. Its your brothers life and he needs to do something about it.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct 17
@Courtlynn
I think I have, I need to talk to that Transgender.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct 17
I tried one time but Mother is okay with the setup because she believes she can get money from that Transgender girlfriend of my Brother.
At first, I really don't like the relationship and Mother was the one who is okay with that.
She let my younger Brother have a relationship with her.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
18 Oct 17
That isn't healthy at all. Your brother should set boundaries.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
21 Oct 17
@JustBhem you should talk to your brother and convince him to stand up to his girlfriend.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Oct 17
@allen0187
I think his so-called Transgender girlfriend is the one who manipulates the situation, he likes to make my Brother suffer. Sometimes I heard him sobbing because my Brother did not like her post on Facebook. Think about it.
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@magallon (19280)
• Philippines
17 Oct 17
That is not a healthy relationship. That transgender is so bossy and one sided.
She is manipulating your brother. She is not giving considerations to your brother and not thinking for his good.
I hope your brother will realize whats that transgender is doing to his life.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct 17
@magallon
Yeah, that is why he is the puppy for always doing what he was told.
But that doesn't give her (transgender) all the rights to own my younger Brother.
I told her that I can take care of his schooling. But she refuses. What do you think about this?
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 17
His gf is very selfish, should stop him
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct 17
@peachpurple
That is what I'm thinking.
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 17
@JustBhem wonder how you are going to tell him
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
17 Oct 17
That person is a bad influence but your brother must also do his part, it takes 2 to tango.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
17 Oct 17
@JustBhem then there is not much you can do if he is no longer a minor, how old is he?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct 17
@louievill
He is 21 and the Transgender I think is 26.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
17 Oct 17
It seems a good thing that she's so far away. But, of course, with the time difference, she can always disturb his sleep. Is it possible that she's so uninformed (or stupid) that she doesn't know about the different time zones? If you can contact her, tell her that she should look at the clock before communicating with your brother. Tell her that she's ruining his school career. Ask her if she wants to have a school drop out and loser as a boyfriend.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Oct 17
your brother definitely has an over-manipulative GF. anyway the GF is in Germany, wouldn't it be nicer that your BF splits up with the GF?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
21 Oct 17
@JustBhem hhahaha! my mistake. yes, what i meant was, your brother should split up with his GF. but i wonder why your brother won't do that, when he knows that his GF is not a pure-female at that.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Oct 17
@ridingbet
At first maybe because he can get what he wants like money and some things. And now I observe he love that trans already and for me it's sick.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 Oct 17
Nope, she is to bossy and is for sur to get him in a early grave, no sleep is dangerous.
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@Behindtheguitarbar (2831)
• Guangdong, China
17 Oct 17
at least your younger brother doesn't like her anymore, then this unhealthy relationship will end.
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@Behindtheguitarbar (2831)
• Guangdong, China
17 Oct 17
@JustBhem if he does so, you could do nothing.
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@mikaelajuliet (638)
• Boston, Massachusetts
21 Oct 17
wow, that's a complicated situation. your poor brother needs some sleep!
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@snowy22315 (169976)
• United States
17 Oct 17
It sounds kind of weird. If your brother is an adult not sure what you can do though, other than lend a listening ear.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
17 Oct 17
Ohh.. so sorry. But your brother should realize how bad it is for his health.. hope this relation ends soon
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@sabtraversa (12941)
• Italy
17 Oct 17
That's a very manipulative girlfriend. 
She will try her best to convince him her orders aren't bad, that it's normal to live that life and so forth.
Your brother needs to grow a backbone and stop obeying to her all the time, eventually break up, she sounds like a dangerous person, I feel sorry for saying that but... 
She will try her best to convince him her orders aren't bad, that it's normal to live that life and so forth.
Your brother needs to grow a backbone and stop obeying to her all the time, eventually break up, she sounds like a dangerous person, I feel sorry for saying that but... 1 person likes this
@Eyesclosed (162)
•
17 Oct 17
Woah! That's so not healthy! And his studies will suffer.. nope that thing aint good for the body and mind.
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