Feeling exhausted

@Happy2BeMe (99390)
Canada
November 6, 2017 12:39pm CST
Work is crazy busy and the boss just keeps piling work on since he figures that I do nothing anyway. He even has me doing work that was part of a coworkers job. This is my first break since I got here at 8 am and it is now 2:30. He wouldn't be happy if he knew I was taking a break but I just can't do anymore. My back is killing me and my chest is so sore. I know am overdoing it I can feel it. My blood pressure has been quite high for the past few weeks. He asked me the other day how I was feeling. That was on Friday and I told him I didn't feel so good. That I was exhausted and having discomfort in my chest and his reply was "we all feel that way. It's all a part of getting old." I feel I am ready for a major breakdown. Since I got back he has been really pushing me. The doctor told me to ease back into the job but he doesn't care. Sure he offered to buy my dress for my daughter's wedding but he is going to make sure he gets the extra work out of me. It comes at a cost. At this rate I am scared I won't even be around to see my daughter get married. Sad when I put 30 years into a company that doesn't appreciate all that I do or even care. I feel like I wasted so many years here. Anyway just needed to vent..back to work I go!
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
6 Nov 17
It isn't either a part of getting old. Discomfort in the chest he thought was part of getting old? When you just got back from heart surgery?That's crazy. I don't know your exact situation, but it sounds like you really have to find a way to decrease your stress. I know, easy to say. Someone else here mentioned early retirement. I wonder if you could check into that and perhaps find a way to swing it. Wishing you some relief from all this stress. Your boss does not sound compassionate at all, too many people running around with zero empathy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
Early retirement is not an option because I don't have any type of pension. I need to work to survive. I am hoping things will clam down soon or I will have to talk to him.
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@NJChicaa (116100)
• United States
6 Nov 17
You are doing too much and it can't continue. Not when it is physically taking a toll on you. You just survived a major heart attack and open heart surgery!
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
I know it.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
6 Nov 17
Can't you cut back your work hours? You'd earn less but live longer!
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
I couldn't afford to live if I cut back my hours, I don't make a lot of money.
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@sallypup (58060)
• Centralia, Washington
6 Nov 17
Your boss is an emotional abuser. I wish you well and wish you could get out of that job, sooner than later.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
Thanks. He is.
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• Eugene, Oregon
6 Nov 17
Well, he does not sound like such a good guy after all. Any chance for early retirement? You could get something from your doc maybe that limits you to 4 to 6 hours. Working that long with no break is probably against employment laws too.
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• Eugene, Oregon
6 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe That is a shame. It is too bad that some did not see a lawyer.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
No i can't retire because I do think have a pension, I need to work to survive. Oh he breaks all kinds of employment laws and gets away with it. He has been reported by a few former employees but nothing ever gets done.
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@Kandae11 (53677)
6 Nov 17
That man is really cold- hearted. He should know without being told that your work load should be lighter. I mean you had serious surgery not too long ago - what is he thinking?
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
I don't know. He is just not very compassionate.
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@GardenGerty (157648)
• United States
7 Nov 17
Is it possible he is pushing you to quit ? Rather than have a sick employee who has thirty years tenure he would like to find some young thing that he can get at a cheaper rate who will not be ill? Or was he always this way, before your heart problems? Or did he help CAUSE the heart problems?
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@AmbiePam (85660)
• United States
7 Nov 17
He better watch out. You could file a complaint and he could get into trouble for ignoring your health problems when you bring them up to him. Is there someone you could, not complain to exactly, but voice your concern?
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@AmbiePam (85660)
• United States
7 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Oh, that just plain 'ol stinks.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
Not really he is the owner and boss.
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Nov 17
Oh gosh, I was surprised to hear this - I thought he had been cool about things. Yah, it does sound you are definitely overworked right now. You had some major surgery - and really that is still fairly recent . . . he needs to be more understanding and reasonable than this. Please listen to your body - YOU are more important. Do you have HR at your company?
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Ah, that's how it was for me at the last place where I worked - the owner and his wife were the only ones "upstairs". Sadly, the Mr. was so controlling that even his wife couldn't really complain to him. I wonder if you could get a doctor's note telling your boss that you need to ease up the job load, or only work a certain number of hours?
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
@much2say I gave him a note when I came back that said I was on light duty but it made no difference. The wife here is even worse then the boss.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
No he is the owner and boss.
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
From the description here, I don't like your boss at all.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
He is all about how much money he can make to maintain his lifestyle and he cares little about his employees.
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@RasmaSandra (73642)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 Nov 17
Hope you can get it all straightened out. Perhaps it's time to face up to the boss and tell him to start treating you like a human not a robot. What kind of job are you doing? I wish the best for you.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
I may have to talk to him. I work in the shop of a printing and sign company.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Nov 17
Yikes that doesn't sound good. Seems he offered you the dress and now feels like he can push extra hard. Doesn't sound good for your health.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
9 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Yup I think so, we are talking about your heart here.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
8 Nov 17
No it is not. I will have to have a talk with him.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
9 Nov 17
@fishtiger58 Yes and if I ever have another heart attack I may not be lucky enough to make it through it.
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Nov 17
That is why you can never give devotion or dedication to a company.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
You are so right
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@Hannihar (129516)
• Israel
7 Nov 17
That is so so sad. I am so so sorry. I sell at a place and I have two injured shoulders and before I found a solution for my suitcases I had to lug them back and forth and so I was trying to find a place so did not have to bring my suitcase or suitcases back and forth. So, I found a place and this guy had to try and stop me from leaving my suitcase. He had never to say that everyone has problems. I am not suppose to lug heavy things around and yet he did not care. The guy is a jerk.
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@Hannihar (129516)
• Israel
8 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe He still is a jerk when I see him. When I am not selling at the place I am happy if I do not see him on the street. I have given his children free things and he never really thanked or appreciated it knowing I have to make a living.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
8 Nov 17
@Hannihar that is really sad. Some people are just like that. they are not nice people at all
@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
8 Nov 17
What a jerk. They are everywhere it seems.
@snowy22315 (170326)
• United States
7 Nov 17
Maybe you could bring in a doctor's note. Stress and overwork on the job probably contributed to your problem. Your boss sounds like a jerk..I know he is nice to you guys sometimes..but he should show more concern for your well being.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
8 Nov 17
He is not very compassionate when it comes to his employees health.
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@snowy22315 (170326)
• United States
8 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Apparently not
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@LeaPea2417 (36493)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Nov 17
You need to remind your boss all that you went through with your surgery and tell him what your doctor advises about easing back into the job. Also, this something I just thought, "is there a way you can quit your job and go on some kind of disability"?
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
8 Nov 17
I checked that out but mart disease is not considered a disability.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
7 Nov 17
Can you possibly get a doctor's note to put you on "light duty"? You can't keep going like this. You need to take care of your health and all this stress is not good for you.
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• United States
7 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe Maybe he needs reminding that you are under doctor's orders not to overdo it. If he causes you to have more health problems from disregarding your doctor's note, he could have a lawsuit on his hands.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
I do have a doctors note that I gave him when I returned.
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@DianneN (247147)
• United States
7 Nov 17
That's just awful, Laurel. Perhaps you can speak to him privately or cut back to part time. Is retirement an option?
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@DianneN (247147)
• United States
7 Nov 17
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
I can't afford to do that and retirement is not an option because I have no pension plan here.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
6 Nov 17
I was hoping there wasn't a catch to him getting the dress.. but seems like there was. HOW RUDE. I would take a sick day and rest. Or is there someone above him
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
6 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe i wouls definitely take one depending on tomorrow. I hope all goes well though.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
No he is the owner and boss. I will see how tomorrow goes but if things don't improve I will need to take a sick day.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
6 Nov 17
@Courtlynn thank you
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@madhv22 (23)
7 Nov 17
one should take leave and go for some trip outside as it will relax your mind you can do meditation and yoga for 5 to 10 minutes i assure you it will relax your mind. boss is always a boss but one should take care of oneself first rest is aside remember healthy body healthy mind.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
7 Nov 17
thanks
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