MOTHER SUES SON FOR BREACH OF CONTRACT TO PAY HER 60% OF HIS SALARY.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
January 2, 2018 9:51am CST
Should children be committed to taking care of the financial needs of their elderly parents?
I was reading a BBC report this morning where a mother in Taiwan had her 20-year old son sign a contract to pay her 60% of his salary when he qualified as a dentist.
According to the report , the son qualified and was making quite a bit of money, but for years he refused to honor the contract. His mother finally sued him.
I have one son, and I made sure he received an education so that he can live a good life and start a family when he is ready. I do not see him as my old age insurance. However I know that if I ever happened to be in need he would never let me down. What are your thoughts on this matter?
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
10 Jan 18
I'm sure that if I was in need my children would help me. However, I like to look after myself and would prefer to be the one that gives to them instead of the other way around. I am thankful to be self-sufficient!
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
3 Jan 18
I find the whole idea of signing a contract perplexing ..there may be a little more to it than what has been revealed. However, I feel that the bond that exists between mother and children is above such things and the less expectations you have from one another the better it is ..
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
3 Jan 18
That is not fair to extract a commitment form children. Love is spontaneous. Also parents should plan for their retirement and not empty their coffers on their children.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
3 Jan 18
@Kandae11 When parents depend on their children it creates a rather unpleasant atmosphere as children never remember what their parents have done for them.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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3 Jan 18
@allknowing Especially the mother - who bears the burden of child bearing.
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@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
6 Jan 18
Haha. Is she a real mother? I don't think its a valid contract if that happened in our country. It's an obligation of the parents to send the child to school and it is right of the child also.
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@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
7 Jan 18
@Kandae11 Maybe the law in their country allow such kind of arrangement.
@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
2 Jan 18
seems a harsh contract especially if he isn't living with her and paying rent
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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2 Jan 18
@arthurchappell She says she took care of him single handedly and paid all of his tuition fees. The judge reduced the payments but the son must repay the tuition costs. I think 60% of his salary was much too much.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
3 Jan 18
As a sign of respect, children can give back but not this kind of asking. The son has his own life to support. 60% is too much.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
3 Jan 18
I find it horrible that the mother sued her son for not paying of what is said in their contract. It is a custom and tradition in the Philippines that older children help their parents financially when they are old but it is a freedom of each individual to do it. Besides, adult children are proud to take care of their elderly parents. Well, that is in my home country.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
3 Jan 18
I think that's a little harsh of her.
If son agreed to it - then maybe he should do it, on the other hand think it depends on the individuals involved too.
Some parents wouldn't mind raking a child over the coals, and same with some children.
I think it's healthiest like you say. You desire for their freedoms -- however you know that they would be there if you were in a pinch
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
3 Jan 18
@Kandae11 Ah, that's a point too. Either she is somewhat cold/heartless or she knew that the son wouldn't willingly offer help.... :/
@YrNemo (20261)
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6 Jan 18
I read a few your replies to others. What was the outcome of the court case? I don't believe or supports parents who try to make money out of their children. From what you said to others, she must have known her son very well hence the written and binding contract when he was 20. My guess is, the guy came to the mother, asking for some sort of a loan for something else which she was reluctant to give at the time due to situations which we don't know. They then haggled and came up with that binding contract perhaps (maybe because the mother had to sell something very valuable to her?)?
For all we know, that guy at 20, might have asked for a giant amount of money for a luxurious apartment for him and his expensive GF or mates as well as car etc.
Do tell us what you had found out from the case please.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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7 Jan 18
The mother is a divorcee and she raised two sons on her own - an elder and a younger son. She promised to put them through dentistry school, but insisted that both sign the contract. The elder son made an arrangement with the mother and paid her back, however the younger son decided that at 20 (when the contract was signed) he wasn't thinking clearly and his mother shouldn't ask for repayment for raising him and paying his tuition. The judge agreed with the mother, and he has to pay a reduced sum.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49010)
• United States
7 Jan 18
I would think that loving children would help their parents out if they could afford too, but it is wrong of the mother to have done this.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
3 Jan 18
Where is the goodness of human character?
The son might loss the battle but is it moral?
I don't know the story about this mother and son but that is not civilize behavior.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jan 18
We don't have it here too.
I mean, as an adult it is our choice to give some for our parents if you are still living with them.
But if you have your own Family, of course, it is your choice again if you still want to give something to your parents. But in any case, your parents ask for something that is badly needed for them then it is up to you as well.
What I mean is, it's not all the time that you need to take a full responsibility to give something to your parents.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58140)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
2 Jan 18
Well if the son was stupid enough to sign the contract he has to be smart enough to honor it.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58140)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
2 Jan 18
@Kandae11 He still signed the contract, therefor he has no reason to be upset
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