***Administrative Advisement*** Re: "censorship"

United States
March 27, 2018 12:45pm CST
Please read this entire post before replying I generally handle issues like removed discussions privately. But since this perception of censorship seems to be a very public issue here lately, I will address this here. First, let me state that whether it was my moderator who removed a post, or I have done so personally, it ultimately falls on me. The first amendment prohibits the government from censoring free speech, even very controversial speech. But it does not prevent private entities from doing so in their respective places. Mylot is not the government. We have the right to regulate speech how ever we see fit, for the purposes of our business. With in these parameters, I try to preserve the spirit of free speech here. I will not remove certain topics simply because they are controversial, unless they violate the guidelines. I was recently accused of "censoring the truth". Implying that posts are removed because I am trying to further a particular agenda or trying to bury other agendas. I am not a political person, though I consider myself very well informed. But to be honest, I stay away from discussing it or being an activist. In short, I really don't care. I am not part of some cabal or conspiracy. I am the admin for a social network site,which itself has no interest in political agenda. Mylot exists as a business, to make money and give people a platform for discussion and socialization while offering the members an opportunity to make a little money themselves. In this endeavor, I have no problem with even extremely controversial topics, whether or not I agree with the view point being presented, or even if it is a very minority view point. But when it is done so in a manner that reads out like nothing more than a sensational, tabloid sort of post, it comes across as nothing more than trolling for attention, and is absolutely not the sort of behavior I am going to stand for. Either your subject matter is enough to draw traffic to it, or it is not. Do not create sensationalism for it's own sake. Not only is it something that degrades content, it is just a poor strategy for earning here, as I am sure some of the more veteran members can attest to. This sort of behavior will serve to do nothing but drive others away from the site, not to mention from any valid point you think you may have. By the same token, I understand that some topics can be very personal to people of various back grounds, religions, locations, etc. That in itself is not enough to have a discussion removed, provided that it is presented as a matter of discussion. If you find a topic too controversial for your personal tastes, simply scroll past it and move on to the next post. Or if you wish, present a counter argument to it. I think most members here are mature enough to disagree with out being disagreeable. All of that having been said, I am going to start cracking down on certain behaviors. Posts that present themselves as nothing more than an attempt to get a rise out of others, with out attempting to actually discuss the topic at hand are going to be viewed as trolling and will result in a 5 day suspension. Subsequent violations will result in permanent removal. I have seen some very touchy subjects handled in a very productive manner here. If you are unsure whether or not a post will be seen in this way, feel free to contact me and ask before hand. I will be glad to discuss how to go about it with you. Or if you are not comfortable doing so with me, there are a number of very experienced members who would also be glad to guide you. Message one of them, or for that matter, post a post about it seeking some guidance. I'm sure you receive no shortage of advice. This post may be subject to editing as the discussion continues and clarification is required. Such edits will be noted and marked as edits
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85 responses
@Kandae11 (38424)
27 Mar
A five day suspension and a warning should most certainly get the message across.
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@bagarad (12291)
• Paso Robles, California
27 Mar
I haven't read too many offensive posts, so I must not be following the people who make them. I'm all for people having different opinions. How could we have interesting discussions if everyone thought the same way? The trick is to avoid attacking a person's character and simply give the reasons why one disagrees or agrees. And if you are hoping to change another person's opinion, you will never do it by a personal attack or an insult. I want myLot to continue to be the one place on the internet where people can agree to disagree and remain friends with those who believe differently than they do.
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@pgntwo (21734)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
27 Mar
I would expect no less... But I would expect anyone suspended for such an offence to be told of their transgression and perhaps given a chance to make amends, be that by falling on their own blade or by retracting their inflammatory post. The line has to be drawn somewhere... And you've just drawn it.
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@TheHorse (67111)
• Pleasant Hill, California
28 Mar
Good point.
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@vandana7 (66001)
• India
28 Mar
I make too many inflammatory ones. LOL. Most of them start gender wars.
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@akalinus (17213)
• United States
28 Mar
@vandana7 You are okay @vandana.
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@sharon6345 (130419)
• United States
27 Mar
This is wonderful and I am so happy to have come on today.Thank you.
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@OneOfMany (12421)
• United States
27 Mar
I think any representative from an opposing opinion can approach the discussion with appropriate and respectful position if they simply disregard extremely potent emotions involved. I admit to stirring the pot at times, but never to attack someone. It's always interesting to see how and why others feel the way they do. There have clearly been hard feelings reached with some topics, while others even opposing opinions have reached common ground. I feel that in itself is the hallmark of a successful topic. In light of the post, I have indeed seen the others that would fall under the tabloid approach. I generally ignore them.
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@EddieHands (37839)
• United States
27 Mar
I also love stirring the pot.. but now I'll have to just write on my blog.. because ill get banned on here here. oh well lol..
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@OneOfMany (12421)
• United States
27 Mar
@EddieHands You can still stir the pot, just approach it in another way. :)
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@EddieHands (37839)
• United States
27 Mar
@OneOfMany Yes I realize.. ive gotten pretty insane on some posts on here.. i need to behave..
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@just4him (120001)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Mar
I am very happy to read this.
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@tammys85 (10516)
• United States
27 Mar
Same here! I don't come on here to read trolling; I can read that on social media (unfortunately).
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@just4him (120001)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Mar
@tammys85 I agree, and I don't spend too much time on FB and almost none on Twitter.
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@tammys85 (10516)
• United States
3 Apr
@just4him Right. Any social site we come on for fun, we don't wanna see drama or whatnot.
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@allknowing (66415)
• India
27 Mar
If you find a topic too controversial for your personal tastes, simply scroll past it and move on to the next post This is exactly what I do
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@thelme55 (14749)
• Germany
29 Mar
That is what I always do, too.
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@SIMPLYD (80388)
• Philippines
31 Mar
Me too, that's what I do.
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@silvermist (20097)
• India
27 Mar
Read the discussion and Understood.Thanks.
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@1hopefulman (29965)
• Canada
27 Mar
Thank you for clarifying this matter so that we are all informed. Keep up the good work!
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@BelleStarr (38917)
• United States
27 Mar
Thank you for keeping Mylot a friendly place to write and exchange views. I think you and your moderator have been very fair as far as I can tell and I never have any reason to complain about what you do. I am grateful for all you do.
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@TheHorse (67111)
• Pleasant Hill, California
28 Mar
I haven't had any reason to complain either.
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@akalinus (17213)
• United States
27 Mar
I read it and understand.
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@bunnybon7 (36883)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Mar
i total understand and have discussed such things in private before with you. this is your site and you are the owner and our boss so to speak and i thank you for this opportunity to be here with so many fun folks.
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• United States
27 Mar
I'm not the owner, just the lead administrator.
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@bunnybon7 (36883)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Mar
@GoAskAlice just the same this site deserves applause
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@Corbin5 (109261)
• United States
27 Mar
Thank you. The guidelines stated will benefit all.
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@Icydoll (22087)
• India
27 Mar
Thank you for the clarification...Very good work
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@andriaperry (52948)
• United States
28 Mar
YAY! oh wait, I have not seen any of those discussions
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@TheHorse (67111)
• Pleasant Hill, California
28 Mar
I don't think I've seen anything that I consider "over the top."
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@EddieHands (37839)
• United States
28 Mar
@TheHorse mine are the posts they are talking about.. but Ive talked with the admin.. and I can still post crazy things. i just have to be nicer about it..
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@sugartoes (41154)
• Greencastle, Indiana
4 Apr
@EddieHands I thought that was the case with the things I've seen you post that's why I don't visit them.
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
28 Mar
Thank you for drawing the line. Maybe this time they'll actually listen ... I mean, read.
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@vandana7 (66001)
• India
28 Mar
Blink...you mean me? Blink...thanks for calling my attention to this post. LOL.
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@DaddyEvil (25061)
• Aurora, Missouri
28 Mar
Thank you for calling me to this post, Ann. You know I appreciate this!
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Mar
You are welcome @vandana7 I always suggest important posts like this one.
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@LeaPea2417 (21016)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Mar
Thanks for the information. It is good and fair.
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@Tampa_girl7 (25897)
• United States
27 Mar
I fully support you
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@DianneN (79878)
• United States
27 Mar
Thank you for this! I only hope the offenders read it, too.
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@LadyDuck (162735)
• Switzerland
28 Mar
I have fully read and well understand your message, that I in full approve and appreciate. Let's hope that also the offenders read and understand.
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Mar
We can hope they do but I doubt they will.
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@LadyDuck (162735)
• Switzerland
29 Mar
@rebelann I also doubt they will, those users only write and read nothing.
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Mar
Exactly @LadyDuck hopefully they will mess up enough so that Admin has a good excuse to exile them.
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