Now I Remember Why I Hate People
By StacyB
@Srbageldog (7716)
United States
June 10, 2018 6:00am CST
Yesterday I ventured out to the mall for a short outing with my sister. It still hurts when I walk and I limp pretty bad, but I want to be as mobile as possible without overdoing it. We didn't walk nearly as much as we usually do, since I still have to take it easy with my injured ankle.
Anyway, we were in Ross looking at dresses. Our brother's wedding is coming up in August and we both need to find something to wear. It's a casual wedding on the beach, so nothing too fancy. We were standing on a narrow aisle flipping through the dress wrack when this elderly foreign lady came pushing her cart down the aisle and tried to push it right into me to force me to move! My sister was blocking me in so I nearly got rammed in the back. I had to ask her to move so I could limp out of the way.
No, the woman was not trying to move past me. She just wanted to be in the spot I was at so she could look at the dresses I was looking at! I was livid. I'm passive aggressive, though, so I limped off to the next aisle and ranted loudly about how rude some people are. I know she heard me, but I don't know if she understood what I was saying. I don't care if she's an immigrant or what, shoving your cart at people to move them out of the way is just plain RUDE. It soured my mood and reminded me why I hate going out and dealing with people. So many people act entitled these days, and have no regard or courtesy for others.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
10 Jun 18
Sorry for you bad experience, Yes, there are people like that and then there are kind and courteous people.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
10 Jun 18
@kepweng No, I hate no one because bad people can become good people. I was pretty bad myself and have been making changes for decades.
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
10 Jun 18
I prefer the kind and courteous people. I always try to be kind to others, but it seems like some people go out of their way to be rude and inconsiderate.
@sabtraversa (13005)
• Italy
10 Jun 18
I would have started a bad stares contest, and I would have won. 
It happens to be elderly people most of the time. I understand the seniors should be respected, but the feeling of entitlement sometimes goes too far.
It happens to be elderly people most of the time. I understand the seniors should be respected, but the feeling of entitlement sometimes goes too far.2 people like this
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
10 Jun 18
YES! I have noticed the elderly are often very poorly behaved in public. I have seen my own father ram his shopping cart into other people at the store! 
I will be respectful and courteous to people who extend respect and courtesy to me. I don't care what age they are! But maybe since she was from a different culture, she thinks differently.
I will be respectful and courteous to people who extend respect and courtesy to me. I don't care what age they are! But maybe since she was from a different culture, she thinks differently.1 person likes this
@sabtraversa (13005)
• Italy
10 Jun 18
@kepweng Some pride and honor, I don't know.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
10 Jun 18
If she didn’t understand I’d do the shoo sign with my hands 
I’m sorry you had to encounter that especially with your injuried ankle. There are lots of rude people.
I’m sorry you had to encounter that especially with your injuried ankle. There are lots of rude people.1 person likes this
@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
11 Jun 18
@Srbageldog Next time if someone pretends to not understand do the hand signals. :)
Yep people are rude nowadays! I get pissed when I hold the door for someone and no one can even bother saying thank you anymore
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
@infatuatedbby When I hold the door and the person doesn't say thank you, I will loudly holler after them, "You're Welcome!" 
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
Oh, I should have done that! I honestly don't know if she understood or not. Yes, seems like half the population (possibly more than that!) is rude anymore.
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@Anaeu92 (138)
• Castlebar, Ireland
10 Jun 18
That was plain evil, I feel the same and people say I am a drama queen, although I like to see the best in people. Things like that scare me practically and I hate confrontation. Was pushed to the edge to the point where I am looking for a homebased job, so I won't have to deal with people face to face.
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@Anaeu92 (138)
• Castlebar, Ireland
11 Jun 18
@Srbageldog oh so great for you, I hope I will get there soon too. Still searching.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I hate direct confrontation (which was why I am passive aggressive about it, I guess.) I work from home and it's so nice not having to deal with people on a regular basis. I hope you're able to make the move to a homebased job. People in general are just awful anymore.
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@LadyDuck (459122)
• Switzerland
11 Jun 18
@Srbageldog I also do not remember people being so rude when I was young. I cannot understand why everything is changing for the worst.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I guess rudeness is everywhere. Were people always this bad? I don't remember people (at l east adults) being so horrible when I was a kid, but maybe I just wasn't paying close attention.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
29 Jun 18
I get reminded why I hate people, every single day. But especially when I go out, as things like this happens often. And even if it doesn't happen to me, i will say something, like you did if i see it happen.
Congrats on your brothers wedding, and hope you had gotten to pick a dress before leaving..
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
13 Jun 18
I have noticed this, unfortunately. There is an overwhelming number of people from one culture in particular where I live who think they are entitled to cut in line...like they can't comprehend how a line works, or they just want you to think they don't understand how it works.
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
11 Jun 18
we have those here too.10 to 1 she did understand you.they just act like they don't.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
Maybe that's why she kept glaring at me. Of course she was glaring at me before I even said anything.
Of course she was glaring at me before I even said anything.1 person likes this
@snowy22315 (170464)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I hope she heard and understood. I would have said loudly EXCUSE ME! There are some great people in the world, but in general, less and less of a fan of the human race.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I wish I had done that. I agree, there are some great people but more and more are downright horrible.
@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
10 Jun 18
Possibly she heard and understood you, chances are not an immigrant. We all look so different and impossible to know who understands.
Sorry it happened to you, but I would have mentioned it to her, couldn’t hurt to mention.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
You're right, I don't know if she understood or not. I assumed she was an immigrant based on how she was dressed and how she was acting. My assumption was she was from somewhere in the Middle East. But for all I know she could have been born and raised here.
I am terrible at direct confrontation, especially when someone is behaving aggressively toward me. So I usually react in a passive aggressive manner, and then get mad at myself for it later.
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I am becoming that way also. I hate leaving my house anymore.
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@Hannihar (129534)
• Israel
10 Jun 18
@Srbageldog
That was very rude and I take it she did not apologize at all and did she see you limping?
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
Nope, she didn't apologize. She had to have seen me limping. She kept circling around the dressing wracks, glaring at me!
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@Hannihar (129534)
• Israel
11 Jun 18
@Srbageldog
I always hate those that cause us trouble playing like they are the victims when they are the ones causing the problems to begin with.
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
10 Jun 18
There are rude people everywhere you look out, sorry for you for going this.
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@GardenGerty (157665)
• United States
10 Jun 18
I would probably be the distant ranter on most days, although I will admit I have also stayed in place and yelled like I was being murdered and made a scene. It depends on the day and the audience. Are you okay?
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
10 Jun 18
Yes, I am okay. Thank you for asking! I considered confronting the lady, but I didn't want to make a scene.
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
11 Jun 18
You're right, there are many people who are regardless for others. It happens everywhere and at any moment, especially when we don't wait for such a behavior. The matter is that we can't be patient all the time, although is the best we can try to be.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
10 Jun 18
I am sorry to hear about your experience - I am also an immigrant and I have to agree with you that some immigrants do act entitled here (speaking from my own experience). I do not know why common courtesy is no longer so common these days. Even if she did not understand you, she should know that pushing people around, directly or indirectly, is rude. I guess she should also know when to say "excuse me", or I'm sorry".
This is also one of the reasons why I try to avoid malls and stores during sales. Most of the time I just end up ordering something online if I really need it.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I am not sure if it's a cultural difference that has people coming across as entitled, or if it's something else. Maybe it's just elderly people in general. I have seen old white people behave horribly in public (sometimes they are the worst -- my own father included!) I do most of my shopping online as well, but occasionally I like to get out and walk around. I don't like being around so many entitled, rude people, though!
@jobelbojel (34730)
• Philippines
10 Jun 18
That was completely rude to push people away and not asking if they can take turn. And it was rude not to say sorry.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
10 Jun 18
I thought so too. She kept glaring at me so I don't think she was sorry.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
10 Jun 18
I have seen this type of people. I plant myself like a tree and push their cart back and I have said, I will only be a few more minutes and then I will be finished here.
I hate when people have a meeting in the middle of the isle and you are expected to wait or find another way around. So, I will say excuse me and if I am ignored I get loud with EXCUSE ME! so everyone looks at them. I had to teach my sister to do this one.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
11 Jun 18
I wish I had done that. She was ready to plow me down though and I thought hell, I better get out of her way before I get reinjured. Then I was mad at myself for caving to her aggressive behavior, and mad at her for being so rude.
Oh, I hate that too. I know I've been guilty of socializing when I run into someone I know in the store, but I always move out of the way so I don't block the aisle. I hate when people plant themselves in your path and refuse to move. It's different when someone is planted there because they are actually shopping and looking for something on the shelves, though! No need to run them over with the cart in that instance, like that lady tried to do yesterday.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
10 Jun 18
Hi Stacey. I agree with you. When people are being rude to me, I call them off. I do not allow people to be so entitled. Trust me, I can really be mean as hell. 
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