Just Say No!

Usually it's a 1 hour 15 minute drive unless there is traffic, and there is always traffic. We don't see them as much as we'd like, because the kids are always busy with school, sports, birthday parties, homework, sleepovers with friends, etc. We are going in on Thursday to show our son and daughter-in-law the two one bedroom co-ops and have dinner. The kids are still in camp.

@DianneN as they get older you will see less of them.T

@amadeo I'm afraid of that.

@DianneN I know it's a huge step in buying another home but somewhere in my mind having a place in Manhattan sounds wonderful. I lived there for a year when I was 18 and it was the best year of my life. Guess you brought me back to all those fond memories.

@Marilynda1225 I would get claustrophobic. I feel the same way when I'm in San Francisco.

Yes, easy for you to say! .

@DianneN

Awww, she is my little cupid. She made me fall in love with her the second she was born. I could gobble her up. That's a small part of my crazy life. Don't tell my husband, but it's not going to happen.

@DianneN I know on your other post you commented that he put in a bid . . . oh gosh, I'm with you and I hope you do not get it too (you know what I mean, I'm on your side!!). I'm sure the Ice Princess skated so lovely that day - I am proud of her! Ah, does her foot/ankle still bother her? Gosh, 10 - and 5th grade already !

@much2say Thank you! I saw your comment and responded. Luck was with me and no co-op. Everything works out for the best, and right now, that couldn't be more true. She skated her routine without jumps - not allowed to jump, but did another routine with two other girls for the parents which did include jumps. Not smart! However, when her ankle hurts, she wears an elastic sock. She goes for a checkup this week with her orthopedic surgeon.

I'd rather give the money to the kids or pay for graduate school for the grandkids. (College is already paid for by the other grandparents). We have more than enough investments, but my husband wants our lawyer son to look at the two one bedroom places we both like on Thursday. We are going to NYC again, and will take our son and DIL out to dinner afterwards. I still say NO. We do not need it. I do not want another thing to worry about. I do not want to pay for parking. You and I are very much alike in that respect. My word is final, but I will let the kids see the places on Thursday, even though I will still say NO! That's the Ice Princess! Her coach showcased her skating on Parents Visiting Day. You would have been proud of her! She still wears a tight bandage on her ankle at times. She went through her entire routine without jumps, but did a show for the parents with two other girls which included jumps on her better foot. I can't believe she is 10 and going into 5th grade! I taught 5th graders!!!!!

@DianneN Yeah I know but I really like buying properties..

@toniganzon sis in law has a condo in Florida, a gorgeous place in Manhattan, and a country house in the mountains in New York. She has to keep lots of lists.

. As enticing as it is, I have to say NO! It will sit empty for more than it should and put us a foot closer to the poor house.

@DianneN We now have a lien on our present house and a loan to pay thanks to dear daughter. Just so long as our old car keeps on putting along, we'll make it through to retirement. You are generous.

We gifted our son with moolah to help lower his mortgage on his new house. His closing is tomorrow. We will also gift him moolah to furnish the house or use for what he wants to change. We do what we can for our kids out of love. I'm sure your daughter appreciates it as much as our son does.

@sallypup I hope you car continues to putt along. Hopefully, you will not incur more expenses. My father helped us buy our first house, and we helped our older son with his first co-op in NYC. It's only fair to help our younger son. He bought his first house all on his own.

It is!

@DianneN I agree.

That's so true, but the resale investment is beyond belief. I'd rather stay at our son's place than waste the money.

I couldn't see the target, let alone aim. He put in a bid on a one bedroom. There is now a huge bidding war going on and we should hear soon. I doubt we will get it and I hope we don't. We really don't need it. I would never let a stranger sleep in our bed. Not even in Florida. That grosses me out.

That sounds wonderful. We still love NYC for our kids and theater, etc.....

I agree and we snuck in to New York and stayed at a hotel for a weekend a few years ago without telling our son. I felt so guilty. Lol!

Yes, there are.

It is a small fortune, but I'm just as happy driving home at night and sleeping in my own bed - in Connecticut. Lol! If not, we can stay for the cost of dinner at our son's co-op. Trust me, NYC is off my husband's wish list.

@DianneN I agree but my hubs is a house kind of guy. He never wanted a condo, he hates HOA.

@BelleStarr My hubby grew up in the Bronx in an apartment, so he's happy with anything. lol The HOA does have its benefits and perks when one isn't around to take care of the lawn, trash, upkeep, etc. Our condo in FL was totally renovated while we were away, although we were there for most of the painting. It looks so much better and not as embarrassing for guests to see.

Too late. He put in a bid, but I doubt very much it will be accepted. There is a big bidding war going on as I write this. Actually, a co-op and condo are much easier to care for than a house.

@DianneN When my husband wanted a one bedroom apartment in Italy, I refused. My mother had 3 empty bedrooms and I saw no reason to have a problem with an apartment in Italy. I am glad I convinced him.

@LadyDuck We are still waiting to hear the outcome of the bids. I truly don't want another place. However, if I did want one, I would prefer at least a 2 bedroom for the kids or grandkids. It's not ever going to happen, because of the cost factor for a nice place. Just ridiculous what they cost.

Of course I'm right, but my husband still placed a bid on a one bedroom. I am almost positive we won't get the place, because there is a huge bidding war going on. He made one offer, and won't budge.

That's my feeling, too. He's still thinking about it, but my NO means NO.

I should have marked the NO down, but now it's too late. Hubs made a bid, but I feel in my bones it won't be accepted. There is a huge bidding war going on right now. Thanks so much! She is still tiny. Lol! Due to her broken ankle, her doctor wanted her to take quiet things at camp. She is allowed to skate without jumping, but I've seen her in videos doing some jumps. The stinker! She's always been athletic. I remember her throwing a ball back and forth at her 1st birthday and doing gymnastics as a baby. She's pretty good in anything she sets her mind to providing she enjoys it. Thanks again. I'm going to gobble her up when I see her and her brother!!!!!

@just4him Her brother is very athletic, too. We have no idea where it comes from. Definitely not from their parents! She will see her doctor, the best orthopedic surgeon in NYC, as soon as she returns from camp. I wasn’t too sure about the Olympics before, and still don’t think she has what it takes. Her coach is planning on moving her up another level when she returns. We have to see how her ankle is then. She broke 6 bones, not two. Yikes!

@DianneN I've found athletic kids are into a lot of different sports, so it shouldn't surprise me she's taken up archery. I hope she's being careful. I'd hate to see her risk her Olympic hopefuls with a permanent injury.

Thanks, but he put in a bid on the co-op.

@arunima25 I’m sure we won’t get it. There’s a huge bidding war going on. And I would prefer a two bedroom IF I wanted a third place, which I don’t.

@DianneN Now You have to be happy about his decision because maybe you will enjoy it down the lane.

Thanks so much for agreeing with me. He went ahead and put in a bid anyway. I'm almost positive we won't get the place, because there is a bidding war going on for it. I really don't want a one bedroom, anyway. LOL!

@Kasjnak I hope it isn't accepted. We are still waiting to hear. I really don't want to spend the money on another home. Besides, if anything, I would want at least a 2 bedroom. lol

@DianneN no problem! But still, he put a bid? Huh, whatever the result, I hope that on the long term it'll prove to be the best .