Its Hard To Play In A Big Group
By Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
Anniston, Alabama
September 3, 2018 4:18pm CST
The past couple of months I have noticed that its hard to play/interact in large groups of people. Jealous and hate shows up, words hurt feelings and breaks that trust and friendship.
Its like being in a "I like you better contest." The truth is its not, it is supposed to be about enjoying the company and the lives of each other. And many of us do enjoy learning and hearing about each others lives and viewpoints, children and their accomplishment.
People that have the guts to get up and make a new web page, a new company, another way to earn an income, those who go into debt for that new car or nice big house, those who jump in the car and move to another state, those who go on nice vacations seem to be the most hated.
The hate is so strong that it does make a person want to quit the place and walk away, I now understand why so many have done just that, let someone else be the center of their hate.
Before showing jealousy you should live a few years in that persons life, then see what it takes to be successful. I would bet money not a soul would have lived through the hell I did to get where I am now.
Please stop using me as am example.
I am human and I have feelings.
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18 responses
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
4 Sep 18
Wow who the heck is this person? They are more than ridiculous and low down to be doing whatever they are doing to you my friend. I am sorry to read this. And sorry this may have hurt you.
Is there anything I can do? You have been more than kind to me and a decent human being which some would not understand. Thank you too.
I also experienced something like this recently..they are very spiteful, hateful, and disturbed in the head. I am glad eventually they saw I was not going to play their sick game. They tried to hurt me at a very bad time too ..wicked is what they are, dont you worry Angie, I gotchoo. God sees. Karma too
I understand this sort of person, they are mad with the jealousy because they will never amount to anything in life. Things and money are their life, not goodness and true friendship.
I understand this sort of person, they are mad with the jealousy because they will never amount to anything in life. Things and money are their life, not goodness and true friendship.2 people like this
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
Thank for for the kind comment. No names will be mentioned because I am just disappointed in the behavior, I thought she was a bigger person.
I understand you because I feel we have lived the same type of lives, or maybe we are still living them, you know what I am talking about.
She did apologize but did not change what she wrote so I have to think about that.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
4 Sep 18
@andriaperry Yes I have seen some apologies around with no change in behavior too.
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@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
4 Sep 18
One of the reasons I wasn't as active here for a while is because I've seen people being mean to each other, talking about others, etc., and I see enough of that on Twitter, I don't need to see it here too. It does get to be too much on here, so I don't blame others when they take a break or leave altogether.
I'll never understand the hate (on any site, not just here), but if you can find another way to earn, go on vacations, etc., I say go for it. If you go into debt, I hope you can get out of it. No hate from me.
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@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
4 Sep 18
@andriaperry My freelance writing needs to come first, so I put most of my focus on that, and then the constant drama I'd see around here also drove me away. I usually like being here but sometimes you need a break. Glad to see you again too. :)
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
I wondered what happened to you, I know sometimes I am on late and I see you post. I am not here for the money, really just for the people, sharing stories and learning.
I am glad to see you again.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
I wanted to say this so I did, if it gets reported then it just does.
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@Juliaacv (48447)
• Canada
3 Sep 18
@andriaperry And if not, then hopefully it will get the message across.
And I hope for the later.
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@wolfgirl569 (95226)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Sep 18
So sorry something like that happened to you. Dont let it get too you, we all love you and I at least enjoy reading how things are going for you and many others here.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
Awww, thank you. You know I love you back. I enjoy reading yours too, since bubble days and George was a little fellow.
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@wolfgirl569 (95226)
• Marion, Ohio
4 Sep 18
@andriaperry I miss the little guy he used to be. He is an adult now that I need to get trained soon.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
3 Sep 18
I am sorry to hear this. Jealousy ruin relationship. I hate people being jealous to other's lives where those person or people they were jealous with in the first place went through a lot in their lives but they are not there to witness those.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
Life is never easy, anything worth having takes hard work.
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Sep 18
That's why I avoid groups.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
4 Sep 18
This is something you are noticing here at mylot? I do like you but I enjoy many members here. I am happy for their successes and sad for their loses. I do not feel jealousy toward anyone. Even in person that's how I am. I didn't always feel this way but I learned to be more kind and understanding as the years have gone by and I have been through things.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
I like everyone and I enjoy all the people on mylot. I am not a jealous person and I would never stop anyone`s progress but cheer them on. And those who fail and talk about it I tell them to get up and go at it again.
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@rebelann (111189)
• El Paso, Texas
4 Sep 18
I'm sorry those stinky people made you feel this way but do remember that Karma has a way of kicking us in the butt, if we've been decent folk then we'll get that silver lining if not we'll end up face down in a pile of chicken chit.
I pity those kinds of idiot bozos.
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@rebelann (111189)
• El Paso, Texas
5 Sep 18
That's cuz your a people person @andriaperry but I'm bettin you have more good friends than those kinds that are so mean.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
Thanks for you kind words. Like I have said, it was a disappointment because I truly liked this person.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
Yes I know, I am just disappointed in people because I was so proud of the progress those ladie were making in their lives.
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@1creekgirl (40523)
• United States
3 Sep 18
I haven't read that, but I'm sure sorry if some people are unkind on here. I love getting to know different people on myLot. We're not all going to agree about everything, but we can be happy for each other at times.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
No one ever agrees on everything and that is was is so wonderful, we are different and we do get along, most everyone.
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@anya12adwi (6037)
• India
4 Sep 18
Jealousy is natural feeling or emotion... But one has to reason it out and accept that.. And the problem is we don't..
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
Think before we speak no matter the situation.
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@anya12adwi (6037)
• India
5 Sep 18
@andriaperry Yes, noone thinks or puts oneself into other situation.. All are in the race of "I AM BETTER THAN OTHERS
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
I don`t try to do either, I just share parts of my life. Maybe I should add, "As I was doing this I was suffering with cancer and did not know about it yet but I kept going."
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@Nickzter1331 (4229)
• Philippines
4 Sep 18
,,,good point.. be strong my friend...
Mind their own business...
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
LOL, we kind of tell our business on mylot. I am learning to keep my own business to myself.
youre right... but we can share..
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
4 Sep 18
I am sorry these things are happening to you. I kinda feel like we are sisters in a way. I do not envy you your life, and I am sure you do not envy mine. I hope this is not happening on other sites as well.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
Nope, I am not on any other sites , except blog sites.
@snowy22315 (169993)
• United States
4 Sep 18
That is not good at all! I hope you don't leave. People sometimes say thoughtless things but most are not truly malicious.
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@nonersays (3329)
• United States
3 Sep 18
I have a great deal of jealousy for people who are living MY dreams, but I try hard to not let it turn into hatred. That's just petty.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 18
How many times have I told you to just do it! Ignore all those "I can`t because" thoughts. Know why I say that? because there will never be the perfect time, there will never be enough money and you will never have the support you want, you just have to say f it and do it, take the beating after you get`er done.
We have been online friends for many years, I dont want you to be jealous of others, you have a wonderful family and children, many of us want what you have.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep 18
I don't know what occurred but personally I've found mylot to be a lot different than the old site and haven't seen many arguments.
If people annoy/upset you just ignore them or if you like confrontation have an argument
I used to love a good argument on here but they're a thing of the past now
I used to love a good argument on here but they're a thing of the past now1 person likes this
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Sep 18
LOL, No I am not into online arguing. A debate? Yes.
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