Upsetting News

@CarolDM (203449)
Nashville, Tennessee
July 28, 2019 6:11pm CST
I usually don't vent here. But here goes. I am so upset. My 90 y/o uncle I have talked about recently, he had a birthday just this month. His wife passed three days after his birthday. I just found out today. This means he has been alone for two weeks and I did not know one thing about it. I live in another state. But the phone lines do carry over the state line. A little sarcastic words there. I am so upset I can hardly type. Now I wonder if I will be contacted when my uncle passes in time for his funeral. I will catch up tomorrow with you guys. Have been on the phone the last couple of hours trying to find out what is going on. Have a good evening everyone. Stay close to your family and never take them for granted.
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
29 Jul 19
I am really sorry and I understand how you feel. Can you imagine that when my mother had a stroke my brother waited a full day before letting me know? Friends are a lot better than family.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@LadyDuck That is also horrible to hear a day later. No excuses allowed in these situations. I have many friends I consider family. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@profree2019 All families are different with different problems.
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• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
29 Jul 19
In part I agree with you Ann, but in the sentence where you say " Friends are a lot better than family"you should put that sometimes, not always. This is because there are families or family members, that if they are interested and always communicate. Then it is wrong to label them all. Although as I told you before I agree with you because many times the help comes first or more effectively when it is from a friend or a stranger even, rather than from the same family. In my country there is a saying that "there is no worse wedge, than that of the same stick"
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jul 19
He must be very sad.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM Is there someone who accompany him there?
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@JustBhem I called in home health nurses for him.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Indeed and then some.
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@rebelann (111416)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Jul 19
That's aweful, why didn't their children try to contact you? I hope you get everything resolved.
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@rebelann (111416)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Jul 19
That is such a shame @CarolDM are they taking care of your uncle? Ok, what I mean is, do they visit him and stuff?
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
My uncle has no living children. Her children "forgot" to call.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Jul 19
@rebelann They both work but are telling me he is being taken care of. He now has someone staying with him (a nephew of theirs). I am relieved finally today. Still concerned about him of course. Thank you!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
29 Jul 19
I am so sorry to hear this. I can’t believe no one contacted you! I’d be upset, too. Our family is extremely close and always in touch with both good and bad news. Take care!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM That's the attitude, and there is NO excuse.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@DianneN Thank you my friend.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Appreciate your words Dianne. There is no excuse. Today is another day.
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@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Jul 19
I am so sorry. I don't blame you for being upset. That's shameful of your family not to tell you.
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@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM You're welcome. I hope you'll get everything sorted.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Agreed Valerie and that you for your kind words.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@just4him Thank you.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
29 Jul 19
This was hurtful, for you. And why they chose to do things this way, there's no excuse good enough. My family is this way. When my Aunt&Uncle passed away, we were not contacted. I have never been on bad terms with their kids.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM I'm sure she did this on purpose, just to be mean. My sisters do things like this, quite often. Then say, that I need to get some tough skin! We just stay away, so our life remains peaceful.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Hurtful is the word Kharla. Today is less stressful day. I am seeing to that. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@kobesbuddy Crazy and disrespectful.
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@patgalca (18195)
• Orangeville, Ontario
29 Jul 19
That's crazy. There is no reason for people not to contact you and everyone else. That makes no sense. Sorry for your loss.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you. No excuse I agree.
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@snowy22315 (171153)
• United States
29 Jul 19
That is upsetting. Even my mother wouldn't do that, and I found out after the fact one time, that my dad was in the hospital.., However, maybe in all the tumult, they just didn't think of you. I doubt it was personal.
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@snowy22315 (171153)
• United States
29 Jul 19
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
A bad day but I got through it, thank you.
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@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
28 Jul 19
It really doesn't seem right that no one contacted you. Someone definitely should have. I'm sorry that you find yourself in this situation.
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@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM No worries. Sending you hugs.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Jul 19
I am so sorry no one told you and for your loss. =(
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
31 Jul 19
Thank you Jennifer. No excuse.
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• United States
29 Jul 19
Yes I believe this..I have the same with a mean person that would not let me know this important news. And I am sorry to hear it RIP the lady.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you and sorry for your situation.
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• United States
29 Jul 19
That is mind boggling Carol that your uncle (nor anyone else) let you know about his wifes passing.
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• United States
1 Aug 19
@CarolDM your uncle is very lucky to have such a loving and caring niece. Not everyone cares about older relatives these days.
@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
31 Jul 19
Yes it is and anything else is an excuse I cannot accept. Now I call my uncle every dat to check on him.
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@paigea (35824)
• Canada
29 Jul 19
I am very sorry for your loss. Take care.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you.
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• Rupert, Idaho
29 Jul 19
I am so sorry to hear about that, somebody should have contacted you!
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you very much Courtney for your support.
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• Rupert, Idaho
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM Anytime, that is what I am here for
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@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
28 Jul 19
I am very sorry, families need to learn to lean on each other not disclude each other.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Much appreciated. It upset be terribly but today is a new day.
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@akalinus (40789)
• United States
29 Jul 19
I'm so sorry. That is so wrong. We have phones, email, social media, and message. They should have private messaged you right away. It looks like they kept you out of the loop.
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@akalinus (40789)
• United States
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM Family can be your best friend or your worst enemy, some of each in every family.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@akalinus You are correct Jo Ann.
@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
I agree and thank you.
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@JudyEv (326601)
• Rockingham, Australia
29 Jul 19
That is very sad. And just awful that no-one bothered to let you know.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Sad indeed. Thank you Judy.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 Jul 19
I am so sorry for your loss, someone should have called you.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
His wife's daughters dropped the ball. Today is a better day. Moving on. Thank you.
@NJChicaa (116280)
• United States
28 Jul 19
I'm sorry to hear it
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
Thank you.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
29 Jul 19
Take a breath, breathe and calmly you can look for all possible solutions, you don't have to be so negative, everything will be better at the pace of thinking with a cold head and an open mind, I hope you improve your mood, greetings!
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• Maracaibo, Venezuela
29 Jul 19
@CarolDM I am not affirming that you are negative, quite the opposite, I am recommending never to become negative, it is a generic advice, greetings!
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
I am not being negative.. my day is going good today.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Jul 19
@YuleimaVzla Thank you for your advice.