Am I crazy?

Love matters most.
@cacay1 (83237)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
January 9, 2020 3:28am CST
I do not know how to start. But since you do not like to read long discussions, so I have to make it short. LOL. Last year I went to Social Security System ( SSS) to check my brother's monthly contributions. My brother works in Saudi Arabia and he only has contributions that won't entitle him to receive a pension. He was so shocked for he always sends money monthly. His wife left him and his three children for another man. The money sent to her for his his children were spent for her happiness with her adulterous man. My brother and his co-workers no longer receive salary from their employer for 19 months, so no money for his SSS payment.In fact, I keep on sending him money in Saudi for his foods. This day, I went to SSS and talked to the branch manager if my brother could continue paying his SSS for my brother turns 60 on Monday, January 13. . I told him that my brother is broke in Saudi and plans to retire at age 65. The manager smiled at me and told me that my brother could continue paying up to age 65. I thanked the Lord. I processed everything until I reached to the paying department. You may call me crazy for I paid the SSS premiums of my brother good for three years advance at 600 pesos per month in the amount of P21, 600 peso ( more or less $400 US dollar). When I reached home from almost whole day transaction in SSS, I told my sisters at home I paid our brother's SSS. They told me " I am crazy" . I and my sisters have different feelings of pity and understanding. What is money for when my brother retires very poor. I have to help him by all means for I love my brother and I love God. Am I crazy guys? It is all up to you. It is for the sake of love.
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@pumpkinjam (8546)
• United Kingdom
9 Jan 20
Not crazy at all. As long as you are in a position to help, it is a very kind and thoughtful thing to do.
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• United Kingdom
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 If you are doing what is right and good, you shouldn't worry about the people who look down on you for that. Your brother is lucky to have someone like you, especially as it seems your other siblings don't want to help him.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@pumplinjam, thank you so much for inspiring me. Now I have to stop crying and worrying on what the people at home were saying to me. I love my brother. I know his sufferings that is why I never hesitate to help him. He turns 60 on Monday, January 13 and broke. The next year I pay, I won't tell people at home.
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@thelme55 (76479)
• Germany
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 I think they are just envious of your brother. Yes, don´t tell them. It is your money and you can do what you want for your money.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
It's your money and you can do what you want with it. There's nothing wrong with helping so long as it won't hurt our own finances.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@louievill,you're right my friend. It's my money and the intention to spend it for my brother is to help him secure his old age with at least a pension though small but life time. My salary is bigger enough to secure my future too. I paid good for three years because brother lacks good for 9 years to update his sss premiums and he will be 60 years old on Monday
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Jan 20
You are definitely far from being crazy, just a caring sister that I wish I also had been your loving brother, waheehee.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 you are welcome but that's not a joke, waheehee.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@Alexandoy, actually you make me happy this moment with your nice joke. Thank you, Alex.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@Alexandoy thank you , Alex.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
9 Jan 20
You are not crazy. You are a loving sister. I’m so glad you we’re able to help your brother in that way.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@DianneN, thank you Dianne. I feel relieved. I hope my family won't get angry at me anymore for it's not their money I used in paying, but mine.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@DianneN there are truly haters in the world. I wonder why they did not appreciate my help. I imagine ahead the kind of life my brother would have without a pension . Despite small, but it could help him at least for some foods and medicine .
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 That’s right. It’s your hard earned money. You only did what was best for your brother and yourself. It’s none of their business anyway.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
No, you are not crazy Ms. Erly... You have done that because you love your brother. You are so kind...
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@brokenbee, thank you my friend for consoling my heartaches when sisters at home called me crazy. I told them it's my money not theirs. There's a good karma.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@brokenbee , maybe but I gifted my sister Y6 cellular phone last Christmas plus cash gift hehehe.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 yes... maybe they are just a bit jealous hihi... Just ignore their comments...
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
9 Jan 20
I would give you all the likes, you have been such a sweetheart..... Appreciate your decision....
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@Aansh13,thank you my dear. I am so relieved here.Only in Mylot where we can find comfort from nice Mylotters from our restless moments like what I am feeling this time.
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 Very rightly said....
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@Aansh13 thank you so much .
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
9 Jan 20
No, you are a good caring woman, not at all crazy. It is your money and you can use your money as you like.
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 Family is important and I think we should do our best to help a family member who is in need.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@LadyDuck , you are right. We will be restless if cannot extend our help especially if there is reason to help. My brother is broke and he is 60 on Monday, January 13 and broke. He's the one I told here before struggling for a living in Saudi and sent him money almost four times already. I'm going to send him small money next week for his foods. I'm truly sad of the fate of my brother.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@LadyDuck, thank you Anna. Yes, true it's my money I spent in saving the security of my brother during his old / retirement age . I feel relieved this time from your kind and strong words.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
You're a good girl and sister, that is for sure. At least you are sure now that he will have a pension when he is 65
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 true.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@rakski, thank you so much. I'm happy now for at age 65 my brother will have pension from sss.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@rakski , the more life is getting harder at the start of the retirement age unless retirement pension is big.
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@just4him (308498)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Jan 20
You're not crazy. You love your brother and you don't want to see him without money when he retires. Your sisters have no empathy for your brother and his needs. I'm sorry his job isn't paying him and he is in the situation he's in, in Saudi Arabia. I hope things improve for him and he starts getting paid.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@just4him, thank you so much for your kind words my friend.I hope he and his Co workers will be paid after the court hearings .
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@just4him (308498)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Jan 20
@cacay1 I hope so too.
@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
9 Jan 20
I think I would probably do the same thing for someone I love. I believe that as long as you are in the position to help then you should. You brother is a lucky man to have you for a sister.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@HazySue, thank you Susan for the inspiring words. I'm relieved now. I'm so thankful to all of you nice people in Mylot. That was also what my brother told me , that he is lucky.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
13 Jan 20
@cacay1 I will never understand anyone thinking that it is a good thing to not help someone, especially a family member.
@thelme55 (76479)
• Germany
9 Jan 20
No, you are not crazy. You are a loving responsible sister who is thinking of the future of your brother. As long as it is worth it to help your brother, it is okay.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@thelme55 , during college my brother supported some of my needs. Love begets love my friend.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@thelme55 , I'm so sure of that for you're also so concerned to your family.
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@thelme55 (76479)
• Germany
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 I would do the same if I were you. Enjoy your weekend.
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• Agra, India
16 Jan 20
No...you aren't crazy.provided the one you care for so much understands and respects your decisions
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Jan 20
@amitkokiladitya, thanks my friend. It's family first.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Jan 20
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• Agra, India
16 Jan 20
@cacay1 yes....family is always first for sure
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
Yes you are my friend... And if I have a crazy sister like you are... I will be very grateful for having the best caring sister in the world... Ha ha...
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@simplfred , you bet my friend. I am crazy for being kind and generous to my siblings, but family is love.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@simplfred that is right. It is better that way crazy helping my brother than crazy for love without love in return.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 Love must shine always...
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
You have a very good heart that is why more blessings will come to you. I cannot believe there are women who behave like this in relationship. She makes me angry.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jan 20
@yoalldudes yes my friend . He helped me when I had none during my college days. I'd like him to feel my kindness and love too.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
9 Jan 20
@cacay1 That is a beautiful thing that you and your brother have each other in times of need.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
I think you are not crazy to do what you can do to help your brother have a pension when he reitres. I just hope that your brother would be able to fix to save for himself as well.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 That is sad that they are not paid for 19 mos there. How come they were not paid by their employers there. Is he still working there even though he is not being paid by their employers that is so unfair.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@arsa101, my brother could have lump sum money if their employer pays them good for 19 months missed paid salary and others. He said that he would received almost 2 million pesos. I hope the court in Saudi grants the OFW's . They struggled a lot.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@rsa101 , yes they were not paid for many months almost two years. There were only seven of them left in their company for they have better positions. Three of them Pinoys from Zamboanga city, their engineer in the company. My brother is in charge of the payroll. Though no work but they still log required by their court and part of the computations . They only lack two court hearings.
@RebeccasFarm (86976)
• United States
9 Jan 20
You are very good to you dear brother. God bless you Erly. No it is not crazy.
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• United States
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 Oh that is lovely I am happy you have each other so good love xo
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Jan 20
@RebeccasFarm , thanks, that is how it must be to a family member/s.Love you my friend.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@RebeccasFarm, thank you dear lady out there. My brother was also very good to me during my college days. He supported me in my college needs. Love begets love my friend.
@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
I would do the same. And I am oftentimes called "crazy" too. Having a BIG HEART is not craziness it's GODLINESS.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@AkoPinay, those who describe us crazy for being helpful and kind are the ones crazy in the real sense.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@AkoPinay I agree with you.
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 yeah and they have no heart therefore they have no God.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
I won’t call you crazy but a loving, thoughtful and generous sister. Your kindness won’t go unnoticed up there,Ms.Erly.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@sunrisefan, thank you my friend. It's God and love.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Jan 20
@sunrisefan that's right.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
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@YrNemo (20261)
10 Jan 20
I heard the people whom a relative of mine had helped, talking about her like this (a few different groups), 'if that woman has money to scatter around why shouldn't we take them? If we don't get the money, someone else would get it anyway.'
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Jan 20
@YrNemo, that is life my friend, mysterious and dramatic.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
10 Jan 20
Sounds like you were helping your brother, like a loving sister would do. You are not crazy.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jan 20
@CarolDM , Hi Carol? Thank you so much for inspiring me. My heart sings for the consolation.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Jan 20
@CarolDM thank you. Take care .
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
10 Jan 20
@cacay1 You are very welcome. I know the feeling.
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