Unrelated conversations in the response thread

@lovebuglena (43080)
Staten Island, New York
August 17, 2020 2:22pm CST
I have seen discussions where people start having back and forth conversations in the response thread that have nothing to do with the actual response or the discussion. It's basically like messaging but done in the response thread as opposed to a private/direct message. Seems to me that's done for the purpose of earning pennies. I would think that is not allowed here. Am I wrong? I don't think that's wrong to slightly veer off the content of the initial response but to switch to a totally unrelated topic in the comments is a no-no.
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@nonersays (3329)
• United States
17 Aug 20
I think it is just like real life conversation. In person you don't talk strictly about Subject A. You start off talking about A which reminds you of B which leads into C. It is how friendships are formed.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
That is a bit different than just starting a whole new topic in the response thread that is completely unrelated.
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@nonersays (3329)
• United States
17 Aug 20
@lovebuglena Oh, imisunderstood. I have seen comment threads turn into something different but never had (on my own posts at least) a whole new topic started without that transition.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
@edisondanila I think it's not good to start a totally unrelated conversation/discussion in a response thread that has nothing to do with the topic of the discussion or the initial response. Do you not agree with that?
@porwest (78759)
• United States
17 Aug 20
I don't think that is the case at all, being against the rules, that is. In fact, I think that is EXACTLY how a real discussion in real life works, and that is how they should work here. You write a post about banana bread. I respond, "Ooh, I like banana bread. Really good with butter." You respond back, "I prefer margarine." I respond back, "But margarine is one molecule away from being plastic, and I just can't eat it." You say, "I can't eat plastic either, but so long as what I am eating tastes like butter, I am okay with it." I say back, "Tupperware on bread sounds fantastic." And suddenly the conversation in the thread becomes about how you sold Tupperware and made no money on it. That's just how real conversations or 'discussions' work. I still stand by my thought that this is not a writing site and that we are supposed to have conversations that wander here just like they do in real life. I also do not think it is about making the pennies. I think it is simply engaging a 'discussion' that just so happens to earn pennies when we actually treat the post as a discussion.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
In your example, the topic is gradually changed from the initial topic. Nothing wrong with that. That's not what I was talking about. I was saying having a discussion in a response thread totally unrelated to the discussion or the initial response. Sticking to your example... if I write about banana bread and you respond with "Ooh, I like banana bread. Really good with butter." and then I respond with "How was your day?" and then you respond with "It was great and yours?"... "It was good. I was watching this movie..." ... You get the drift. That shouldn't be done in a discussion. It should be done in messages.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
@porwest I've seen that kinda thing before. Or people just catching up on each others' lives in someone else's response thread. Or asking how they are feeling, etc. That's more for messaging, texting, and the like.
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@porwest (78759)
• United States
17 Aug 20
@lovebuglena Yeah, in YOUR example, I would think that is stretching things a bit.
@LadyDuck (458486)
• Switzerland
18 Aug 20
Discussing is not against the rules and some of those conversations are hilarious. I have re-read the guidelines and this practice does not seem to violate the rules.
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@LadyDuck (458486)
• Switzerland
18 Aug 20
@lovebuglena It is clearly stated that "personal celebrations" like birthdays should remain "private", but I see so many birthday posts that are not deleted.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
@LadyDuck Yeah, I've seen those too. Perhaps admin can't catch everything that shouldn't be posted.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
Good to know that is allowed. I had a feeling it was not but could not find that when looked over the guidelines and such yesterday. But even if that is allowed two people shouldn't really have a conversation with each other in someone's response thread where they are catching up on each others' lives, etc. That's for messaging.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
17 Aug 20
You have a point considering the payment system the myLot owner has chosen. I started my online writing career on a site on which one earned money only by writing posts. This was when the internet was still young and people were overenthusiastic. The comment threads could go on endlessly. I remember one which had more than 11.000 (eleven thousand) entries! People forgot to go to bed but went on writing. It didn't take long and nobody remembered what the initial post was about.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
17 Aug 20
@lovebuglena I've seen loads of comments in my online life which were only written to keep a conversation going.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
@MALUSE Me too. I think there were plenty of those in Bubblews.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
Having so many back and forth comments it will be next to impossible to even remember what the heck the conversation was about in the first place. Sometimes it is best to end the conversation rather than keep it going but some don't do that. And then the conversation can just end up being a banter rather than being something of value or worth discussing.
@akalinus (40493)
• United States
17 Aug 20
Some of the most interesting and hilarious discussions happen when the subject gradually changes. A response is a response.
@akalinus (40493)
• United States
17 Aug 20
@lovebuglena Yes, and it is fun when it happens.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
@akalinus I don't mind that in one bit. And it can be quite enjoyable.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Aug 20
Gradually changing the topic is totally different than starting a totally unrelated discussion.
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@jassmine (1460)
• Morocco
18 Aug 20
I am new here, sometimes when I post something, some responses are like: "How are you doing"!!!!!
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
Yeah. In my opinion those should be done in messages unless the topic of the discussion warrants it.
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@jassmine (1460)
• Morocco
18 Aug 20
@lovebuglena I agree with you!
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@snowy22315 (170140)
• United States
18 Aug 20
That seems to happen frequently, and sometimes people are talking to each other, and it isn't really related to the thread.Theyt all count as responses though, so I guess it's all good!
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
Sometimes people discuss in the response thread what should be in messages.Or catch up with each other in someone's thread. That should be in messages as well.
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@paigea (35713)
• Canada
18 Aug 20
I guess it is up to myLot's owner to decide the rule. My thinking is that it's a discussion site. My favourite way to spend time here is to be in a discussion that meanders all over the place, just like a real discussion with a friend. The discussion ends up with nothing to do with the opening.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
19 Aug 20
For some reason I thought it is not allowed to have a conversation in a response thread that has totally nothing to do with the discussion or the response...
@LindaOHio (156488)
• United States
18 Aug 20
There's nothing against that in the rules as far as I know; and I have been guilty of it myself.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
I tried to look for that yesterday but I could not find it.
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@lazydaizee (6738)
• United Kingdom
18 Aug 20
I always find these sort of conversations interesting because you never know where the discussion is leading. It starts with one subject and turns into some completely different.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
18 Aug 20
When topics gradually shift it becomes a more interesting conversation.