Pumpkin's Rant of the Day: Sometimes, it's just you

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Hello to all of you lovely people. I'd like to mention a discussion by @TheSojourner, which I have linked. I mention this because it relates to my rant. My comment on the above discussion was that I'd prefer someone to tell me if they have a problem with me. Then, you see, I could work out whether it was a misunderstanding or if there is an issue that I need to address. As long as you're polite in your approach, I'll discuss the situation. If ever I have a problem with another person, it will be because of something (or many things) that they have done. I wouldn't fall out with someone for no reason. Depending on the person and the issue, I may or may not raise it. There are other people, however, who are simply not approachable. The example that inspired this discussion was one where a person (let's just call them Hairy) said to tell them to their face if you have a problem with them. Unfortunately, Hairy is the kind of person who doesn't listen and will respond to even the slightest criticism with a tirade - sometimes a tirade of abuse directed at the person confronting them, sometimes just a general rant about how everything that slightly inconveniences them is terrible. Yes, I have a problem with that person. Last time I tried talking to them, they spent about an hour raving on about something they didn't understand. Apparently, Hairy thinks that behaviour is normal. As such, I'd say it would be quite reasonable NOT to approach/confront them. When people have had a problem with me, I've tried to think about why that might be. I try to be honest, reasonable, and fair. But I do think there are people (like Hairy) who think everything that doesn't fit their ideals is wrong and they don't understand that it is their own behaviour that causes people to dislike them/have a problem with them/stop wanting to spend time with them. Have you come across anyone like Hairy? Do you check your own behaviour?