No Kids! I Mean It!

Hear hear! I'm one that doesn't want kids and I'm so sick of hearing, "Oh, you'll change your mind." Um... NO! I won't! Or the "Oh, but it's different when they're your own." I don't care and I'm not about to have kids just to find out if it's really different. In fact, I'd probably be worse with my own kids. I don't understand why people can't just accept the fact that there are some people in the world who just don't want kids. Deal with it! Urgh! Sorry...

as far as i am concerned that is your choice just as it was my choice to have children.I cannot understand not wanting kids but i suppose for others it is not understanding why we want them.We should all be able to live our life how we want without pressures from others to live how they want us to live

i agree! i have had trouble with a couple of 'supposed life partners' because even though they understood my reasons, they themselves couldn't handle it, thinking they;d never have kids if they stayed with me. in my case, my reasons are numerous. one is that since i was a child i always dreamt of adopting...there are so many unwanted kids, why produce more when there are that many that already need homes/parents? another reason is my genetics...if i were to create a child that ended up being sick, etc, that would suck for the child and for me. i have a high potential of producing little freaks ;) so why do that when i could already adopt a sick child, or even, a healthy one if that were the case? another reason is medical, i am horrified of carrying and giving birth due to some physical problems i have...i might not survive the birthing process...i may not carry to term, i would have to be bed-ridden for most of the pregnancy etc....and then no guarantees that a child would be born, or born healthy. so, for me, it's not that i don't like kids, it would be nice to have some one day, but not created by ME :) adopting is hard and a long process, but if ever i decided i really DID want children, and that i could afford the expense and the wait to adopt...that's how i would do it. but until that point, none for me, thanks :)

Just one question though.. If your mom didn't want kids back then, would you be here in this world now? I understand why you don't want kids, they can be quite a handful when they want something, you will certainly lose time for yourself and the responsibility is never ending. But for me seeing our son grow up happy is worth all the sacrifices we made.

I really don't get it, either. Breeders make me sick. In my case, I actually do hate children. And with an ever-growing passion everytime someone tells me "You'll change your mind". Children p!ss me off, babies make me want to barf and pregnancy quite frankly, terrifies me. The whole thing just annoys me. What makes matters worse is that my fiance's family are TOTAL breeders. HIs 16 year-old brother got his rude, snarky, conniving, theiving, high school drop-out girlfriend knocked up last year and they were HAPPY about it! They're rediculous.

I don't like kids. Its not like I want to kill them, just that I'm not very fond of them. Yes, they're cute and nice to look at. But I don't want to have to deal with them, especially on an everyday basis.

You are entitled to your own opinion..if you dont want to have any children,good for you...everyone to it's own. Some people want kids,some don't.

i myself personally wanted kids wsince i could remember, i know have a beautiful 4 month old daughter....but i do understand hwy ppl wouldnt wat them...you dont have much of a life and they cost money and are a major hassel...to some ppl it isnt worth it and some ppl just shouldnt have kids....but it is totally thier dission....i support ppl either way but if someone i know says they want thme i dont try to talk thme out or anything but i do tell them the reality of it...it isnt always fun but to me in the end when she looks up at me and smiles it makes it worth it...some ppl dont waant that and i think that that is fine...the world is over populated anyways lol

People need to learn to let others live their lives. If they don't want kids, they don't. Ok, lets convince them to have kids that they don't want, then what? The kids are the ones who suffer in the end, because they are often neglected. It is fine not to want to have kids. At least you are responsible enough to know that you don't. Just tell them it's your choice and change the subject.

I applaud you making a decision like that and it is your business not anyone elses to judge you.. There are a lot of people that should never have had children, but do it for whatever reason. I have 3 and wouldn't not have them now. But that is my decision (although sometimes I do dream of a day without someone always saying mum,mum,mum!) They are very time consuming, expensive little darlings and not just a puppy that you can give away when it has grown out of the cute stage and is not wanted. Good on you.

I was just like that until I accidentally got pregnant with my husband. Now I have two kids and while I still hate children, I do love my own. But ya, I feel ya!

you or no one should have to justify why you dont want children. It's really no one elses business anyways. i have two kids i would never try to talk my friends or anybody into having them. it's not that you hate kids its just that some people dont want there own.

I absolutely agree. I don't want kids of my own, and even if I did, I would adopt (that's a different discussion though). I hate when people look at you like you're a lesser person because you don't want to be a mother. I love my nephews, and I think kids are cute, but that doesn't mean I would want to have kids.

*claps* You can say that again! My best friend, who's always wanted a kid but can't have them likes to tell me I'll change my mind about not wanting to have kids. Loads other people as well. I don't know why it's such a big deal. I mean the world is overpopulated anyway! There are millions of children in the world who have no parents. I'd rather adopt than try to have one myself. It just makes me queesy..the thought of me trying to have a kid. I'm tiny! It'd hurt me worse than the people (the vast majority of the population) who tower over me! Besides, my life's chaotic. I wouldn't wanna bring a child into that..it wouldn't be fair to the little dude or dudette. It's not that I don't like children..I love them, get along better with them than adults..I just have my reasons. Hopefully people'll deal with those facts you mentioned up there someday.

Yes, that is okay. What is good for one, may not be for another. Again I say to you, we are not suppose to judge one another. It is your life, and you do what you feel fit to do with it. You do not have to explain it to anyone.

I feel each couple feel different about kids. It depends upon the couple. There is no hard and fast rule and each and every couple must have kids. a personal question, will you both not get bored with each other as years pass? Children are a great responsibility, but they are a thing of joy.Each stage of growing up is a joy to watch. but as I said, it is all one's deep feelings.

Very well said!!! I have no interest at all in having children, or raising someone else's for that matter. People keep telling me I'll change my mind. Yah right!!! You're right that we shoudln't have to defend ourselves. The very people who accuse ME of "not listening" are the ones who themselves don't listen.

I wouldnt mind having them, Ive got 3 kids with girlfriends over in the past, and Ive done more diaper change than the average american male, but the biggest problem for me isnot financial or psychological, but the simple question. Do I really want tobring someone into this world? Wars, famine,pollution, etc... makes me scared to have a kid. Have a nice day!

I agree with you. I personally want kids (I want to be a stay-at-home mom) but I know that it's not for everyone! My aunt, who is now too old to have kids, never had any despite having married at a normal age. She and my uncle just weren't interested.

I think its perfectly fine not to want kids. I think that a lot of people who have kids shouldn't because they are horrid parents. I don't think anyone should feel pressured or obligated to have a child, expecially when they know in their hearts they don't want one. Kudos to you for standing your ground and knowing what you want and don't want in life.