Age differences between children?

@megs85 (3142)
Australia
December 5, 2006 10:00pm CST
I have a seven month old son, and it took me over a year and a half to conceive him. I am wondering whether to start trying for the next child within the next few months for fear that it will take that long to conceive again and I would like my children to all be not too far apart in age.
12 responses
@nhtpscd (1416)
• Australia
25 Dec 06
going off your other posts no don't do it. You are neither financially stable enough nor is your family solid enough.
@megs85 (3142)
• Australia
26 Dec 06
But to teh point, what do you think is an appropriate age gap between children? Aside from my personal circumastances I am interested in hearing more general opinions...
@nhtpscd (1416)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
between two and three years they are great mates
@megs85 (3142)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
Yeah i agree, three years seems ideal to me...
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
27 Dec 06
My children are 5 years apart. The benefits were that only one child at a time was an infant, toddler, preschooler. The draw backs were that each child was in kindergarden when the next sibling was born. It wasn't a draw back for my children, but for me! As soon as I had the freedom of a schoolage child I had another one! My older children adore their younger siblings and its reciprocated. They are now 20, 25, and 30 years of age. And I'm a grandma. My grandson is 2. Obstetricians say to wait at least 2 years between conceptions because risk factors due to a closer conception time (less time between pregnancies) increase.
@xXmeganxX (4421)
27 Dec 06
megs if you do have another child then your awful brave, LOL. i couldnt have another one just yet maybe a few years and that's if i do want another one there hard work, phew, it might not take that long to conceive again but then again i don't really know lol, good luck if you do plan to get pregnant again :)
• India
27 Dec 06
3 YEARS GAPE BETWEEN TWO CHILDREN IS GOOD ENOUGH. BEFORE THIS, MAY BE PROBLEMATIC FOR MOTHER. MAY BE DIFFICULT TO HANDLE BOTH THE TINY TOTS AT THE SAME TIME. SMALL CHILD BELOW 1 YEAR OF AGE REQUIRES MORE ATTENTION. SO IT IS BETTER YOU THINK FOR SECOND ONE AFTER THREE YEARS, IT THIS WAY YOUR FIRST ONE WIL BE ENOUGHT MATURED CHILD. YOU NEED NOT TO GIVE MUCH ATTENTION TO HIM/HER. YOU CAN DEVOTE FULLY TO SECOND ONE.
@bck_1409 (662)
• India
27 Dec 06
I think there should be 3 years gap between children
@re08dz (1941)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
It's a tough call and judging by some of the responses you'll get varying opinions. It's up to you and what you think you can handle. And of course just because it took a little while the first time may not necessarily mean it will take long this time. My son was around 2 and 1/2 when the twins were born and while it was hard at the time now that they're older for the most part they're pretty good mates (when they're not fighting :-) ) - but by the same token - there's a four year age gap between me and my sister and while growing up we were never that close once we hit our late teens we too became good mates and hung out a lot.
• United States
27 Dec 06
I would say that there is no set "appropriate age gap" for siblings. If you are ready to add to your family I would say go for it. I have two brothers and a sister and we are all four years apart. This age difference has worked wonderfully with us, but on the other hand, I know many families with children much closer in age. I really would say that the age gap will work itself out no matter how big or small it is.
@kids91911 (4363)
• United States
12 Dec 06
My kids are almost 2 years apart.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Well, I feel it is best to space Children about 2-3 yrs. apart. That way you have time to bond with your child and then he is pretty much potty trained, etc. when the next one comes along, so it will be a lot easier to handle.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
6 Dec 06
If you feel like it's necessary, go for it.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
8 Dec 06
It depends on you. If you don't want too much of an age gap, you can start soon. Just because it took you so long the first time doesn't necessarily mean that it will take as long this time too. You might not have to wait that long. But since you don't want too much of an age gap, you can go ahead and try.
@ricky1209 (1675)
• India
24 Dec 06
i think the age gape should be more than three years... coz a 3 yr or more older child is good to take care witha new baby....
@Danielu (599)
• Romania
24 Dec 06
I think that the perfect age between the kids is 1-2-3 years. and if there are girl/boy it is ok 4-5 .