Asking for money for wedding shower gift

It;s never ok to request money as a any form of gift. People should be able to bring or supply whatever they want. If a person decided that they want to supply money that should be their own choice.

It is inappropriate to ask for money. Maybe the word is Greedy

Very poor, disrespectful attitude, I wouldn't go

A person should never ask for money. If I got an invitation like that I would be offended and wouldn't even go. It is greedy.

i personally think it is ok that way she is not stuck with a gift that she doesn't want or like.

It is inappropriate to ask for cash in general. Instead, tell them to get a registry at a bank (for their mortgage), a honeymoon registry through a travel agency, or sign up for registries wherever they need stuff like Target and Walmart.

I personally wouldn't do it. I wouldn't want to know what the people receiving the invitation would think of me. What ever happened to it's the thought that counts? I personally think it is crude and presumptuous. What if people don't have cash and they were going to buy a gift on a credit card? As honest as it may be, it is still greedy and wouldn't be in good taste.

it's practical these days, still the guests should be given an option, not force it out on them.

It is a litle tacky but the could wite in really small writing "in lieu of gifts the bride and groom request a monetary donation", or something like that. I wouldnt be offended I would love to not have to shop for a goft!

You are never supposed to request money as a gift. If someone one wants to give money or a gift card then they will. They should never feel pressured into it though.

Oh boy... LOL I used to work in a weddings forum years ago and this is one of THE big questions (along with "What on earth can I do for original favors?!") ... and, of course, everyone has a slightly different take on the answer. But, according to "rules of etiquette" laurie, you are right. This is what I've always been "taught"... The invitation is for the person's presence at the event ONLY. We are never to presume that we will receive a gift and no gift of any kind should be mentioned on the invitation itself. It's nice that the couple "wants" money... but that's not their choice to make. Of course, having said all that, I've never been at a shower yet where people didn't bring gifts. Have you? I've been asked to contribute to a group gift and the amount has been specified. I wasn't offended ... it saved me having to figure out what to buy. But it's tricky. Others have said to spread it by word of mouth and that's a great idea. Some people will always give money anyway because that's their preference. These days, gift cards are getting really popular. I think it's because it's like giving money but, because it's not actually cash or a check in an envelope, it still feels more like a gift. A majority of people I know will ask a family member of the bride or groom what they might need... I think this is a perfect opportunity to politely explain why they might be grateful to receive cash but be prepared that some will still be offended. The problem with giving cash is that everyone knows EXACTLY what a person contributed. With a gift, you might get a really great item on sale that was originally $100 but you only spent $50 and no one's the wiser. By the way... congratulations and all good wishes to the family on the wedding! :)

it's really practical these days on the money issues. i think it's not inappropriate if you just say it in a nice way in the card that the couple may " not be staying in a new place & they don't need any material gifts to start a home " or " couple may be moving to other place & they need financial support for them to start " - just be honest in a way that guest may not be having headaches looking for a present then aside for CASH.

sociaty changes people has to meet their needs in the morden sociaty

I think that it is in poor taste to ask for money. There is definately a more tactful way to get the same meaning across. For instance, if they want cash because they want to go to Vegas then you can state this in the invite and you can have a Vegas style party. People can give them things that they can use on the vacation like a camera or cash. We did this for a friend when she wanted to buy a house. She got lots of cash but she also got lots of gift cards to Sears, Bed Bath & Beyond, and Linens -n- Things. I think that this is a much better approach and it says kind of hints at the same thing with out being rude and coming right out and saying "CASH ONLY!!"

It's bad etiquette to put it into the invitations. Much more appropriate to put the request out by word of mouth as it's less likely to offend.