would you still forgive a person if he/she does the same thing to hurt you...

@maryannemax (12174)
Sweden
December 11, 2006 9:50pm CST
would you keep on forgiving someone when he/she does the same thing to hurt you over and over again? some say we should always forgive and forget.. i say, forgive but don't forget... let the memories stay in you because it's through those painful experiences where you learn the lessons in life.
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12 responses
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
i have been like this, however - I have learned that when and if the behaviour keeps repeating it is better to not forgive and just move on. Noone needs people in their lives that just keeps hurting them over and over again, and to some people it is a behaviour that might not stop until someone NOT forgives them!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
2 Feb 07
learning to move on even when being hurt many times is necessary.
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
I will forgive someone if he or she has been doing the same thing to hurt me,but he or she shouldnt expect that i would go back on how i treated her before..I forgive but i never forget.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
2 Feb 07
i do forgive, too and never forget. people say i am rude. but that's true. why forget when i need to learn from it, right?
• United States
12 Dec 06
If someone keeps doing something hurtful to you over and over again then that person really isn't your friend at all, and i would stop talking to them and go on with my life. Life is too short to waste time on people like that.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
well, sometimes, we want to keep them no matter what. but as you've said, if they are not worth of our time and effort, then they are not real friends.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
If someone commit a sin or mistake on me I think, I can stil forgive him or her but it is still depend on what kind of sin he or she make but if I forgive them at the first time and they did it again on the second time I think it will take time before I can forgive them again. I agree that we learn from our mistake so its okay to forgive them but don't forget what happend. Happy Mylotting
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
5 May 07
i think we all have to learn from our mistakes, if we have already forgiven a person and gave him a second chance, for him to do the same thng is another thing and i feel that he must be taught a lesson.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
4 May 07
I will positively tell him/her not to do the same thing to me once again otherwise there will be no friendship between us in order to have him/her realize what I think of his/her hurting behaviour to me.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 May 07
I forgive but I never forget as I have been hurt to often in my Life Sometimes it is even hard to forgive I am still working on trying to forgive my Ex Husband but I just can't seem to get there yet and we have been divorced 5 years now It is very unusal for me not to be able to forgive but this is a tough one
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
2 May 07
No I could not forgive someone who did the same thing to hurt me over and over again of course unless it was a child of mine, well then I guess my view would be different as a mother's love is unconditional.
@natalie1981 (2000)
• Singapore
27 Apr 07
I don't know, I guess it depends on how sorry they are but I think that if the same person does the same thing over and over again even if they know that it would hurt you then I'll think twice about associating with that person because they may not care about me and my feelings so I would forgive them but would probably stay as far away from them as possible to save myself from all the hurt.
@yanjiaren (9050)
27 Apr 07
I can forgive but you don't forget because like you say, you learn something from that. But now in my life I try to avoid getting into similar situations. I never want to hurt any one, but I don't want to be a mug either if you know what I mean lol. I will stand up to injustice but I am very patient with people at the same time.
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I ahve forgiven numerous times but refuse to forget. I think if you forget the person feels that they have gotten away with it.
• United States
31 Jan 07
It really depends on what type of hurt that person has caused you. Life is too short to live everyday wondering when the next time will be that this person impales your heart. I too can forgive. But, once is a mistake, twice is a habit. I do not support bad habits.