Help me with my girlfirend and her menstraul period!
By elijahpaul
@elijahpaul (65)
Philippines
December 13, 2006 8:57am CST
I need advice from you guys because I can't seem to understand my girlfriend lately whenever she's having her menstrual period. Whenever she has it, her mood is gonna change from good to bad and its gonna spark a fight and it makes me crazy! I love my girlfriend and I don't want to get into a fight whenever she is having her period. All I do is understand, understand, understand and I don't think I'll be able to handle it pretty much longer. Any suggestions please?
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@tiibbaamm (613)
• Indonesia
13 Dec 06
hahaha..
your one of our victims? lol
just do what i tell my boyfriend to do, whenever i get menstrual period, we never meet each other until it's done, or he just called about 5 minutes..never more, 'cause then anything that you say, would be a boomerang for yourself.
keep trying! goodluck!
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@lilmissy (481)
• United States
14 Dec 06
yea if you cant handle the stress stay away during her periods , you obviously know when tey are so find a reason to be busy for a few days , study for a exam , jjob gets busy , family problems i am sure you can come up with enough excuse to keep away fom her for 3-5 days dureing her peak irritable time so that you only have to spend one bad week every 6 monthes with her. i have periods evey 2 weeks since i am very irregular thats aroud 22 periods a year and i am in pain the whole time......maybe thats why i dont have a boyfriend around all the time???lol
@elijahpaul (65)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
haha! funny but true.. well, thanks for the advice. i'll try and talk to her about this "strategy". lol
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@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
I know that a lot of women experience this kind of mood whenever we have our period. You have to talk to her after her period and explain your feeling about that everytime she has her period. I have different kind of mood, I used to crave for food out of this world.
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@elijahpaul (65)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
My girlfriend craves for food whenever she's got it too. But the thing is, when I'm with her, I dunno what to do because I'm afraid I might make her mad.
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
24 May 07
...and so trying not to make her mad is making her mad...then don't try. Just say without saying...Im here to do whatever you need from me, even if that's leave you alone. I love you, and I will see you later. If you don't live together, maybe you could just call her over the phone. Casually ask what's up. Ask if she feels like just talking a bit. Tell her you lover her, miss her, can't wait to see her, and ask what she needs. LISTEN, if you don't understand. Don't just stay baffled and then say she is confused and don't know what she wants. Open your mouth and just ask what she means. Your the guy...I though you were supposed to be the more "level-head, calm/colleted, rational" spieces, huh? Well, it's basic kindegarten knowlegde that if someone says something you don't understand....ASK..speak..waist your time to talk. If she want's you to leave her alone, do it and say you love her and to call you if she needs you. Don't do things that you already know she has a problem with. Don't crowd her and have your hands all over her. Maybe those suggestions will help
@totomon78 (393)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
dude how many girlfriends u had? and how long u been with ur gf right now... u should know the answer to this :) ..... and ur doing the right thing...understand :)
@elijahpaul (65)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
I've had a lot but I didn't consider them as my girlfriend because I didn't feel very serious about them. The past relationships I had was like nothing at all for it only lasted a couple of months, even weeks. And for the record, I didn't have this problem with my past girlfriends.
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
13 Dec 06
Well, she only get moodswings once a month, which is better than everyday right? Well, it's quite common for people to have moodswings. There's nothing really you can do.. bring her out for a nice dinner or stuff. It's not nice to have cramps every month you know for like 30 years of your life.
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
13 Dec 06
I loved that video clip!
hunny you need to either tell her about it, and hopefully the two of you can work something out. when i am on my period i tend not to recognize when my mood changes, so you have to be vocal about it. if she gets mad at you, wait until she's off then bring it up. Women know as much as men know how bad a period can be, and most of us dont want to make it miserable to be around. so just talk to her.
@samwilliams06 (946)
• United States
13 Dec 06
sometimes women cant help it. we dont mean to be mean but we dont realize how badly we are doing it. Your best best is to just try to understand and spend time doing something to keep you busy. when I am on mine. my husband plays his video games and things like that. so i dont get upset with him, I try to sleep though the pain when I dont have to work.
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@elijahpaul (65)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
whenever I play video games when she's got it only makes her mad. I try to avoid contacting her when she's got it but it only makes her worse.
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@my2boysMandB (51)
• United States
13 Dec 06
I would say then, if video games make her upset, she wants you to help her more. Try and do things for her. Pamper her, and make her feel special. Let her know you love her. Do things like give her a back rub or start a bath for her... get take out for dinner... do some household chores, etc. Good luck. ... we arent easy to deal with during that time!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
13 Dec 06
How about advise from an older woman? Hormones suck. Women can't control them. If you love your girlfriend you will just have to "understand". She doesn't intentionally turn into a psycho biach just to make your life miserable. Hormones suck.
@mtgrlz_zerocool (708)
• Romania
13 Dec 06
well, it is a difficult period for a girl...and girls tend to get angry all the time, i think the only thing that you can do that period is compliment her and do it her way :) and the rest of the time you'll do it your way :P
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@arunk7319 (1281)
• India
13 Dec 06
Be patient and thank god that men doesn't undergo such pains. This is not new, all married men in the world know it very well and they behave accordingly. This is time where you have to help your girl-friend to make her feel that you take care of her very much.
@linusv2006 (209)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
find out her menstrual sked & avoid her during those periods =) honestly speaking,i dont think it's a good reason to snap at people eventhough u have a period.for me,it's not reasonable!
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@lauczi (962)
• Poland
13 Dec 06
haha well that's a surprise, im girl myself but i never during period am moody nervous or any different from other days. and i have never heard or notice about it from my female friends. i thought it is just rumour made by men to laugh at girls! are u suree it is the reason? if so the i think it is some desease, becuz it isnt normal to behave like this. anyway it is funny what u say.
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@bluuyze (67)
• United States
13 Dec 06
She needs to talk to her doctor. The doctor might be able to prescribe something from her. I get the same way, so I want to say I understand, but she could also be using this as an excuse to treat you whatever way she wants at that time of the month. You shouldn't have to be afraid of her. Tell her to get checked out.
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@bluuyze (67)
• United States
13 Dec 06
She needs to talk to her doctor. The doctor might be able to prescribe something from her. I get the same way, so I want to say I understand, but she could also be using this as an excuse to treat you whatever way she wants at that time of the month. You shouldn't have to be afraid of her. Tell her to get checked out.
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@jhunfiers (67)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
That is not really a problem! just go with the flow! and that's it! don't make her screamed to you! just do the things that makes him happy! hehehehehhe
@vinney_143 (662)
• India
13 Dec 06
first of all, i cant understand what do you mean by mood? anyway, just adjust with her.... that is the best thing one could do, if you have a girl friend
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@musicmasters (73)
• India
13 Dec 06
Hi dude,
What you are saying is true. It happens in case of most girls. The reason s that it is these 3-5 day sthat they are going through a lot of pain. It is important for us as their better halves to help them to bear the pain that they are going through during their periods. How many of us actually know how it feels to go through that kind of pain. NONE! Hats off to girls who suffer but still donot complain about it. It is just a suggestion to you though I would not know how you would want to consider this. When you feel that things are getting bad(at least during your girl friend's periods) you would better get off the topic of discussion that is heating up the environment and talk about something else so your attention gets diverted and you have a little bit of peace flow back amongst you both. As I said it is a suggestion, you can always disregard it or accept it. All the best for your future with your girl friend.
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@jagdishrajan (189)
• India
14 Dec 06
Try teaching her accupressure care for normalizing her menstrual cycle. Itis very easy. She just has to massage her left wrist(just below the palm) in clock-wise and anti-clock wise direction 15 to 20 times twice a day, once before going to bed and once after getting up. Within 90 days she will observe the change and within 180 days her problem will be solved.
@lilabytes (33)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Well, all girls go through that. I myself am guilty of this. When I have my period I end up crying for no good reason or really mad at petty stuff. It's hard to make guys understand but hormonal changes during menstruation leads to our moodswings. If you love your girlfriend, you really have no choice but to understand though having her period does not give her the chance to be mean. She can be angry all she wants but she can't be mean or hurtful.
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