my effeminate friend wants to get onto harmones

@rms2727 (815)
India
December 16, 2006 9:03am CST
i have a friend he is not a gay but is very effeminate, mostly because of the way he was brought up in a secluded environment with just his sisters around. people make fun of him and he gets depressed. now he wants to get onto male harmones to overcome this without consulting the doctor.. do you think this can help.. or do you know some other ways in which he can get rid of this problem. psychatrists are too costly here and he cannot afford them..
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18 responses
• United States
17 Dec 06
He could look into counseling...which is generally less expensive than a psychartrist. Hormones most likely would hurt more than help. Knowing which hormones, how much, how to deliver into the system all take learning and skill. He may want to check into homeopathy...often there are things in this field which are less expensive and just as effective as chemical or hormonal intervention.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
18 Dec 06
hey thanks for the homeopathy option
@madonna143 (1737)
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
I don't think taking male hormones is a n option. If he is really decided in pursuing it, you guys better consult a doctor first. But it would be better to just ignore those people that tease him. Look at it more as a challenge and try not to show people that you are affected by it. Besides he shold know himself better. If he is really not gay then he should be comfortable with himself because he knows himself better. Better yet ask him to date someone so that he can prove that he likes girls instead of guys. Good luck and more power to you. Give my regards to your friend.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
18 Dec 06
the problem is he is too sensitive to ignore things
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Maybe he could try getting into body building, martial arts or something like that. Even if he remains effeminate people may stop making fun of him. Also it might be a good idea to get his hormones checked too. I know women's hormones can get out of balance so a man's may too. There are many things he can do to appear more masculine but I hope he doesn't change what's inside. I like sweet sensitive guys.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
18 Dec 06
i guess i should give this a shot
@dip_cool (411)
• India
16 Dec 06
well please tell your friend not to try any hormonal treatment without consulting a ny doctor.they can be very dangerous and have side effects when not done properly.so consult a doctor before donig anyhting.and apart from this you can try to make him spend more time among guys and do guyish things.that may help too.
• United States
16 Dec 06
Being brought up around girls will not make a guy effeminate. I know guys that were brought up with nothing but sisters and a mother around. And they are very masculine. It is the way he was born. Putting in "macho" work will do nothing. Encourage him to speak to a doctor before he starts any kind of hormone therapy. How old is he? The only other thing you do is be very supportive of him.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
17 Dec 06
cant sayt much about its.. but seems fine
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
16 Dec 06
Get him into a gym and start him weight-lifting. It will naturally increase his testostreone. And if anybody gives him a hard time about being feminine he can kick their butts!
@rms2727 (815)
• India
18 Dec 06
i hope he gets that brave to kick other peoples butts,, right now i only have to do this for him
• United States
16 Dec 06
never get onto male harmones without consulting a doctor, he could get altered into a freak and REALLY get depressed, the only why I can think of overcoming it without a doctor would be with healthy hoobies or crafts. Take up gardening, or lift weights, go jogging or cycling, do anything to get the body and mind moving... physical activity whether alone or with friends is the best way to keep off the negatives in life and focus on the positives.
• United States
17 Dec 06
it won't work
• United States
17 Dec 06
no,i do not think that will solve his problem that could be very dangerous he should talk to a doctor and see what he thinks dont worry doctors have to keep this confidential its the law.
• United States
16 Dec 06
tell your friend not to take any hormones except after consulting endocrinologist because his male hormones might be normal from your description i think its psycological and needs specialist
@iAlicia (758)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I really think you... oops I mean he should not consider this. It is very unhealthy. I think it's something he will grow out of... my brother is 16 and was rather secluded too with me and our two other sisters. He's finally growing out of it... you I mean he will too. :)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Tell him not to do that. He just needs to probably hang around more men. This will probably make him more manly.
@postbusf (120)
• Netherlands
16 Dec 06
I now, a psychatrist is expensive, he needs one right now. he shoud exept him self for wat he is!
@Smolaru (842)
• Romania
16 Dec 06
make him consult a doctor if you are a true friend god knows what can happen to him if his taking a experimental or unproved hormones
@scorpius (1792)
• India
16 Dec 06
please advice your friend not to try any hormones without consulting a doctor.they are risky and quite dangerous.so as him to approach a good doctor.there has to be a free clinic or some sort like that.anyway ask him to approach this doctor adn try it out there.once again do not tell him to try out these hormones on his own!they are risky and there may be severe complications.the problem your friend has can be easily overcome and he just needs to have a little bit of patience!
• India
16 Dec 06
try to make him work between men. and let him his timemore with guys so that there may be a change..
@tsprabhu (705)
• India
16 Dec 06
He must be left to be with men in his working place.. That would be enough, for him if he spends a lot of time with other men everyday and he would get the tendancy of men. Its also not so harmful as others would fear for trying hormones.. but generally not advisable!
@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
16 Dec 06
Your "friend" shouldn't take hormones. He should perhaps join a gym and get all "buff". I've known of scrawny guys who have done that and it worked for them.