I'm an introvert

@shrekk (561)
Pakistan
December 21, 2006 4:54am CST
I'm not that outgoing and I talk much less than I speak. Can such a person be successful in his life?, because what my family says about me makes me feel really depressed. They say I dont have any speaking power, confidence or sharpness even though I'm good at studies.They insist on me to choose Doctor as a profession cuz I'm not brilliant enough to be in business or anywhere else. I don't feel the same way. I think with a little practice I can polish up my features... Tell me, are introvert-type people always stupid? Can they ever be successful? how many introverts os we have here?
36 responses
@TKDSquid (56)
• United States
21 Dec 06
Introverted peope are not stupid. My wife is vey introverted, the opposite of me, and she is very intelligent. She does not like or trust strangers. It takes her awhile to warm up to anyone. Funny thing is she has a customer service job, she works at a casino. Introverted or not, you have the ability to do whatever you want. Do what your heart wants, disregard the rest.
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@shrekk (561)
• Pakistan
22 Dec 06
Shy - A shy penguin
Thanks Squid. This is just what I wanted to know, that whether those who do no open up so quickly can still take up a job which involves communication and interaction or not. I see now they certainly can, even though they might remain mostly reserved at home and other places.
• India
22 Dec 06
i think whether you can do something worthwhile even if you're an introvert really depends on why you are an introvert.. if you're someone who just keeps thinking about how wrong everything is and are constantly bordering on depression irrationally, then there's a lot of work that needs to go into making things work for you, cos it's your attitude that needs to change.. however, if you're one of those who actually thinks and ponders objectively, and are basically an introvert because you're thinking about solutions, analysing deep thoughts, the neture of life, etc., then you're definitely someone who can progress well.. i think it's cool that you cam out wiht what you were feeling.. and remember, once you start taking first steps online.. meeting new people, getting into discussions, etc., you'll find yourself striking a healthy balance between introversion and an outgoing nature.. that's what's important.. about careers, though, you might want to take up tickle.com's personality tests.. they have great suggestions for how to shape a career based on your personality type.. as far as letting parents make your decision is concerned, harsh as it may sound, it's important that you take charge of your life and put your foot down on what you want to do.. in the end, you are the one who's going to have to live with the choices..rather do something that you want to, test it out, find yourself, than be forced into anything... all the best!!
• India
22 Dec 06
forgot to tell you.. i myself am not a too outgoing person, but the whole idea is.. i am comfortable with myself.. rock the world, dude
@clover (104)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 06
who says introvert can't be succesful? who says introvert is not intelligent? your family might say so. but be assured. it doesn't necessarily be like that. you can even see extrovert people fails at life so does introverts. you can see both of them successful. my teacher once told me, to gain confidence is to believe in yourself. you migh not speak much but what is the important thing is to be able to express yourself even with short or simple sentence. we don't need to have powerful vocabulary and all to make our voice reach others. so what important is your voice reach people. you doesn't need to be so fiery in your speech to be recognized as long what you say makes sense and a quality speech. I rather hear a quality speech than a fiery seems-like-interesting-speech with absolutely NOTHING in it. they have good speaking ability, so what? if they can just speak but not with thoughts, they don't eaarn much respect in me. as you said you're good in studies. make use of that. even if you go to business doesn't mean that you can't be succesful. it's the contents in your brain that matters most. I as client wouldt want people who only has confidence, speak well but don't really know how to work. I rather have business with intelligent people who don't talk much. of course, having the confidence and ability to communicate well is a plus when incorporated with intelligence, but that doesn't mean that introvert people can't be succesful.
@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
22 Dec 06
Introverts are sometimes very interesting...It's that "still waters run deep" thing. I can't stand people who talk just to hear themselves. They're bores.
@banta78 (4334)
• India
22 Dec 06
I myself am more of an introvert but it doesn't make me supid. On the contrary i know likeminded people who are so called introverts but are very bright, intelligent and have excelled in various fields from academics, to arts to business. I think one's personality trait is no criteria to judge how successful the person will be. Your success is entirely in your own hands. it depends the hunger you have, grit, determination, skills you have, training you have got, strving for perfection, interst you take and so on. i think every person is unique in his own way and is capable of achieving success provided he makes use of right opportunity at right time. i don't think you should feel depressed by foolish talk of others including your family. your success lies only in your hands. so cheer up.
• China
22 Dec 06
I'm sorry u think like this. first of all, introverts can be successful in every field including business.Even though introverts are less positive than others when they are in public, but they have their exclusive characteristics. I think if u choose the right orientation to develop urself, u will succeed before long. Say some technology or skill field. Be confident and just endeavor. U will get a brilliant future for sure.
@Nazo75 (56)
• Pakistan
22 Dec 06
No problem man. Everyone is different in nature. God has made the world so. Some introverts and some extroverts and this makes a good combination. If all are alike, we cannot survive. Now regarding being stupid, I dont think this is the case. The role what others are playing in development of this world in a loud manner, you can do the same silently. Cheer up!
@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
22 Dec 06
the internet is the best place for people like this (including me)
@rave883 (140)
• India
22 Dec 06
hey u r making me nervous!!because im also an introvert :-) but dude been an introvert is not bad ,but in some ways it is helpful ....seee introverts are motre intellectual and they can proof themselves whaen get oppuriunity only problem is whn it comes to talking with girls i just become dumb in front of girls!!! but it doesn't matter much to me
@anup12 (4180)
• India
22 Dec 06
Many people are introvert but that does not stop them from being successfull I think success and fame is nothing to do with introvertness it is just the attitude which is right for anyone
• United States
22 Dec 06
First of all you may be gradually becoming an introvert because you feel that what other says is true about you and you have not began to challenge yourself to become what it is YOU would like to be. One of the biggest mistakes people often make is allowing others to choose what they should or should not be and people do not take the time to discover themselves and so they often HIDE and deal with everything including people from a distance. Introverts are people who choose to live their lives only within a certain proximity and do not consider outward appearances as an important part of life. If you want to change and refute the idea that you are becoming introverted, do what makes you happy. As for as your profession do not become a doctor if that is NOT what you desire to become. You know what you want to be and quite possibly you may become the next Bill Gates or Donald Trump even.. Whatever you do, do it for you.. And by the way, you also meet your future spouse while at the library - so get out there! Go to the college of your choice! Again get out there and challenge yourself.. But remember to be yourself in the process and everything will go as God plans. Best wishes!
@jen20619 (1302)
• Ireland
22 Dec 06
i enjoyued reading this.thanks
@rye_ter (257)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
I disagree that introvert people are stupid, all people are mean't to succeed whatever he is as long as he is eager for it. I am too, is an introvert type because I limit myself being on the crowd. I love to be alone, I hate someone criticizes at me that is why. One thing that I am sure of myself is that I am driven to follow my dreams and it is to be successful in the near future. One thing that introvert people have in common is pride. And it is one thing that prevail us from being successful. But it is just a matter of adjustments. I do love to write... And it is my passion to compose a song.
@shob2201 (620)
• India
22 Dec 06
Well, being an introvert is just a personality type. It does not mean that you can't be successful.
@zstone (58)
• China
22 Dec 06
Introvertity is not a good character. most sucessful people is not introvert. However, Introverts may be good at studies, but when you go into society, you would find communicating is important, if you don't communicat with other people initiatively, they will fell you is a lonely perpon.
@sklodhi (10)
• Pakistan
22 Dec 06
Introvert people are not stupid. Infact they are more genius and just themselves. thatsit but they are not meant for business. They cant explain themselves and thats the biggest issue. Geniusness is not related to it. Its just psychology. For you its best to choose a profession thats more technical or research. You can do best with it
• India
22 Dec 06
Confidence comes with recognition and success. When you feel good about yourself, you feel confident. First of all you start loving yourself. Then people will love and respect you. If you are good at studies, then you can get into any profession you want.
• India
22 Dec 06
every body can be successful.. just b patience and trust urself and believe that u can be successful
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
I have worked with an introvert person already. He was very intelligent and he was considered as the best programmer in our company. He talks less and he does not usually mingle with people. He does not even know how to play basketball but he his successful. He earns a lot and respected by a lot of people. Althought sometime we cannot do away the fact that he being bullied by stupid guys. I hope it helps you!
@geevee (888)
• India
22 Dec 06
even me also..............
22 Dec 06
Well I think you sometimes can't find people to speak to and then you just don't talk as much. A success in a specific career doesn't have to mean that you need to speak to them about your life and what is on your mind. Some careers do require you to be outspoken but then again if you really want to do something you can work towards it. When there is a will there is a way.