Help me convert!

Education is always the best way to start. Take classes, it doesn't have to be full-time at first, just broaden your horizons and interests. 32 means maybe only a third of your life is over, so you sure have a lot more road to travel down. Make the most of it :)

Oh I dont think its that hard myself..mind you I ALWAYS kept my work and personal life seperate to the best of my ability...I also worked in Canada (Ontario) so if you have always worked in the U.S I really dont know what the environment is like here....plus I've been retired for 7 yrs after working far too many in the adult industry (stripping for 12 and various things for a few yrs before that)....Its not that hard really...I mean you are you bottomline and trying to fit into that whole "society says be this way" life you'll be miserable....Just be yourself really...its not that hard...dont concern yourself too much with how others view you...the important thing is how you view yourself....make sense?

Welcome to the "normie" world, well almost, but you'll get here soon.. How many months do you still need to complete your degree? You could probably try to get a part-time job as a waitress, receptionist or cashier, you could get a lot of social interaction in those jobs, or you could try hanging out in a mall once in a while and observe how "normies" behave. Oh by the way, I'd love to learn pole dancing, I bet you are so fit..

In my opinion, Education is the key to success and a medicine for better tomorrow. You should take a decent education and it doesn't have to be any academic or scientific education, you can learn art forms and can step in artistic fields like dancing, acting, film production or singing. You just have to have courage and strong determination.

Just be yourself. I'd imagine that after years of working as an escort, you've gotten quite good at putting on "the mask". being the person your clients want you to be seems like it would come with the territory. Feel free to be you, at parties, dinner engagements social situations. Get in touch with what really makes you tick, and don't be afraid to experess it.

education is the best way 4 begining

I agree with the first post: go back to school. Start part time. Get a degree. As a college student, you will be able to observe "normie" behavior, pick and choose what you desire to emulate, throw the rest away! By the way, you can go to community college (2 year) without a high school diploma; and concurrent earn an AA/HS diploma and work on your transfer units as well. You are obviously articulate. Don't bother with anyone who tells you to get a GED. That's the lesser way. Earn your credits, you'll meet people from around the world, all backgrounds. You can even go to school with your daughter!

Congrats for having the desire to turn your life around as that is very tough. I admire you for that. But I have to agree with the other posters, go back to school. Take a business course or something... that will help you get back on track. Best of luck to you.

Continue to pursue your education & read, read, read non-stop. Maybe even join a bookclub or something. Just surrounding yourself with academic minded people can be a rewarding experience.

I agree with others about taking some classes. I sometimes teach at the Learning Annex in New York City and there are a lot of different classes and people who take the classes if you don't want to go back to "school" per se. The other thing that I teach in my classes is the power of OBSERVATION, both yourself and others. Hang back and watch how it goes and take what you like and leave the rest. There are a lot of not-nice people in society so if you see people who have what you want, follow them and leave the rest alone. Good luck.

Yes. Education would be a great start. And start with small time jobs, it will establish you socially. Start interacting with more and more people, that'll help.

I've never thought of changing your lifestyle as "converting" before. :) I think you might need to learn a little bit about yourself - who you are and what is important to you. I'm only hypothesizing here as I've never worked in the adult industry, but is it possible that you've spent so many years acting out what other people wanted that you're not sure what your desires are? If you're only 32 and you've been working for 15 years, you started so incredibly young that your own personality and sense of self might not have even been shaped. Again, I could be totally off base, and please tell me if I am! Take as much time as you need to get to know yourself! Taking those online courses is a great idea (an congrats on your marks!!) as is trying new hobbies, going new place, meeting new people, etc. What kind of social group are you in now? What kinds of things does your fiance do? All these people can give you ideas of what to try. But the most important thing is to listen to YOURSELF and what you want. :) ~Wyrdsister

In my experience norms aren't all that different. Be yourself. And if you can laugh at yourself as well you'll find that most people will accept you just fine. Good luck!

Never judge a book by it's cover, try to be nice to everyone you meet and remember they're name. It's all about networking. I think you will find that over time, if a lot of people know you as a genuine person, and not the people that know you as the "La vita loca" girl, your social life will become more mainstream. Just some thoughts.

sorry to disaapoint u but to be honest..i just don't know what social dance is..and though I am younger the advice I would like to give u is that stop worrying about others and try and keep urself happy..sometime we care too much about people around us and in efforts to keep them happy we forget that the first one to smile should be "ME" and thats the only way u can spread smiles all around..hope it makes sense..

I also agree with the first post that you should go back and study about the things you want to learn then you will be successful.

i think u should change ur career to some thing else

You can start taking diploma classes or something like that as a part time student first. You can continue your current job, while you are studying. then after you think you are ready, start looking for other jobs. Good luck!!

cm`n sharone(its ur name i suppose),u dnt need 2change urself 4nebdy,juz b urslf.......u r unique in ur own way........acceptin ur lif lik this realy requires sum guts nd dis puts u above all dat `normie` stuff u call.......if u wanna change ur occupn its well n gud bt dnt change urslf.........njoy evry bit of ur lif,alwyz listen 2ur heart........dats wat lif is all abt!!!!!!!!!

New location..... New friends..... New interests..... Reinvent yourself! If you take the chance and start all over somewhere new you are given the opporunity to be whoever you want to be!