Another teenager question-access to internet

If you tell the kids not to do this work, he will do it hidingly so do not bound to stop doing any specific work with computer, rather make him understanding why computer bought for him, start that just to develop his skill, his merit in study to high his rank in class etc.

I disagre for this 15 y.o. to go to the internet without your control, You can use software like NetNanny and etc. from protecting him from not suitable content site, but software can't replace You.He can play games all the time and without that You know.So the best would be for You to have control about his activities on the internet and also on the computer locally.He must to learn not to play games. Many children at this age playing games all day especially when they don't have school that day.

well, i dont have kids yet, but i think what you are doing is right, although your bf's kid wont agree... the best thing you can do is to get a software or computer expert and get him to set some settings in the computer that would restrict the kid upto some level from accessing the wrong sites or doing things, he aint supposed to do... the computer lab in my college is restricted like this and even the best brains in student community cant do anything about it... as long as this kid isnt too brilliant to reverse these settings, you are safe.... with such settings, you can safely let him have the computer in his room... is he the only kid? if not, then its unfair to place the computer in his room.... if he has siblings, then place the computer in the main room so that everyone can access it!!

you cant stop them things like netnanny can easily be bypassed the best and only way is supervision

The internet is such a tool which can be immensely helpful as well as a curse in itself. the point is certainly valid whether to provide direct access to children is gonna really help their cause. The answer is a plain no. Well internet can bring infromation on a platter when asked for but this was available previously also. Regarding Programs to safeguard Norton Parental control can be used and the sites u feel are not suitable can be registered for blocking.

you and the childs father have the right idea.you've already expressed concern over his study habits so no I wouldn't allow him to put the computer in his room.I do think some kids can do that and not have a problem,but when in doubt do the right thing for the child and protect him from himself and if his mom doesn't like it tell her he can do whatever when he's there but he will follow house rules when he there with the two of yoy.

I think since your boyfriend's son is already not doing too well in studies having computer with internet connection will only compund problems. Because it is easy to get distracted on net as one can waste one' time chattin on net, just surfing adult, gambling sites. I feel you should allow the boy to only use computer to study by usig Microsoft office and other software programs. As you will find it difficult to monitor him all the time. Besides it migth harm his studies. But if his mother persists, you and your bf have to convince her that it is for boy's own good. But if that doesn't work then only boy to use internet after he's finished studies and in free time and when you are present. I don't know of any software that controls or monitors what the boy is upto. But find one which is best and is reliable and is anti virus. And talk to your internet service provider too so that the adult sites could be blocked and he won't be able to view it. but he best thing would be to educate boy about it so that he knows what is good for him and works on it. good luck.

I agree with you totally. I have two teenagers, both age 13 years (one is my step son). There is no way I would allow complete control of internet use to either of them. Our computer is in the corner of our lounge room, so it is easier to see what they are doing from time to time. Of course, a computer and the internet is useful for homwork. But all teenagers also want to chat and play games online. I don't mind this either to a certain extent. But it depends on the child. My daughter is responsible with her homework, always asks to if she can use the internet for neopets or whatever. My stepson? That is a different matter. He is obsessed with computer games. When he is staying with us, we put a limit on it, and closely monitor what he is doing. You know your boyfriends son, and would best know how responsible he is. From what you have written, he needs closer supervision that having it in his own room with free and unrestricted access to the internet.

usage of netnanny or something like that can prevent the goin to sites u donot want him to go...

I think that you can maybe give him a test run having with him having it in his room and if there is no change in his marks within a certain time spam. If he does not abide by rules and if his marks do not improve than this means that it can be moved to the dining room and only used for homework use period. Let him know that you two mean it and that it will be taken away besides for homework use regardless of anyone elses opinion!

no i think it is not a good plan to provide net for 15 age boy . as u said he is not gud in studies den it sud b provided to him under PG

He can have his own computer, but with supervision- by installing special browsers for kids or children. I will ask you to check out these sites and decide which ones will be suitable for him: (1.) http://www.buddybrowser.com (2.) http://kidrocket.org (3.) http://www.devicode.com/kidsplorer/ While the first two are great and free, my favorite is the third one-kidsplorer. This is because with it the child is unable to use other browser that will enable him/her to have access to the net in general. The parents can also determine which sites to explore, how many hours to spend on the net at once,etc. There is a trial version before buying. Try them all first and good luck. O. Kenny Adeleke

i do not have children yet, but my uncle has 2 daughters 14 and 17 years old. they have internet but they are not allowed to use it only after they finished their studies for that day and around 3 hours each during weekend, because ha thinks that too much internet is not healthy for children. i agree with my uncle and i think this would work for you too. the computer is in their room but they would never cross their father word ...so this is not a problem for them...it depends on both you and the child how listening can be. good luck!

Hi, yes unfortunelly the exwifes let you do the work and they just order, what the girlfriend need to do! I'm almost the same situation. What I did, I stay out of all this problem, I build good friendship with the kids and that worked very well. We was using NetNanny years and years, and the internet acces was blokked after 10:00 pm. It was hard that time, but today the son is in the navy turn out a great guy, the girl growed out all this problems. I just wish you good luck and just like my Mom told me when I was so sad about my life, love is a winner passed on! God bless you! I love your black lab with you on your profile, I use to have one, just I moved, so I find a nice home for her, I called her Crystal! I had a hart time give her away, I got her when she was 2 months old. She use to sleep on me, even when she was older. Well she 's with a good family and they love her very much, she's 6-7 years old today!

I don't think he should have the computer in his room. I feel a teenager should have access to computers, okay fine but supervise it. Most kids don't realise the dangers of the internet, nor the stuff they can put on the computer from the internet like viruses spyware etc.

I dont allow my kids to keep computer in his bed room see it may cause bad to any extent so its safe to keep the computer outside the bed room of the child.

teenage boys tend to use the net for things other than studies, if you know what i mean. having the computer with internet access in his room mioght lead to him using the net at odd hours of the night for the wrong purposes. i think it would be a good idea to keep it in the dining room or maybe have a computer room where he can work without being disturbed but also u can keep an eye on him.

Yes... it is their freedom to do whatever they want to do!! so don't interfere.. they must be responsible for their actions!!!

Hi this is a Universal Problem. My Opinion is Children should not be denied of Internet access as the sites could be very useful for them and would give Value Addition to their education and their personality. However Parents should have full control of what the children are accessing on the net.

computers are not for a show piece so it he would be allowed to do anythng its his growing age and as he is 15 he most probably would be knowing all the thigs that u want him to off of.........