Life & Death

@MsTickle (24752)
Australia
February 3, 2007 11:37pm CST
Recently, I posted a topic saying I was in my fifties and a response by an Indian was that I was running out of time and would soon be dead and only had about 5-10 years left. I was stunned. I since read a similar statement also made by an Indian. Please don't kill me off before my time lol. My dad is still living at 93. That gives me maybe 40 more years...I see me being around for at least twenty more years. (We have a saying...only the good die young...lol) Is this a general perception of Indian people?
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
I'm not sure what Indian people think about how long they should live, but my nanny is nearly 90 and smoked all her life! She is still in very good health, only thing wrong with her is she doesn't hear as well as she used to but doesn't want to admit it lol. she refuses to wear a hearing aid. she says we talk low.LOL. I guess she is just stubburn. I think you have a long life a head of you. fifty is still young :) Dont worry about what a few people say, listen to the old saying, your only as old as you feel! So feel Young! :)
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
4 Feb 07
Then I'll be ok sissy cos I sometimes think like I'm still 16 or 26. I smile wryly to myself when young people disrespect me for my years. When it happens to them they are the ones who will be miserable. LOL
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4 Feb 07
I think it is important to remember that there are different life expectancy rates in different countries. In the west (usa/europe, etc) then we can expect to live 70+ but in some countries it can be as low as 30+ so from the comment made and knowing that some parts of India is still developing, etc - I should think their life expectancy is 50 and that is how the comment came to be made.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
You're right. When people come from a country in which diseases are more prevalent and health care is more limited than in developed countries, it's realistic to have low expectations for longevity.
@manong05 (5030)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
I am in my early fifties and I feel I'm just beginning to live. I have understood life better and have a wonderful world view than before. I think it's unfair to say that people like us are running out of time. lol I feel sorry for whoever is that who posted that response. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe his use of the language is limited and just couldn't express himself that well.
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
4 Feb 07
I don't believe he was trying to make a derogatory comment. But it was certainly thoughtless....I'm with you. I feel more in control now and like you see things better. I'm wiser but know I know very little in the great scheme of things. Strangely enough therein lies my power. Cheers.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
4 Feb 07
LOL, I'm nearly 52 and I would guess these responses were not so much of an "Indian" nature as they were "yougsters". My youngest is 15 and he figures I'm going to "kick the bucket" anytime because I'm soooo old. I can understand though, when I was 15 my step-mother who raised me turned 30 and I remember thinking "I will never be that old" when she turned 50 I thought "she's doing pretty good for her age" now she's 66 and I think "I am so blessed to have her in my life".
@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
4 Feb 07
You are correct Faith, I just checked and he is a 21 year old. Now where did I put my walking stick...lol?
@navaneeth (132)
• India
4 Feb 07
youll die when you have to die. theres nothing you can do about it. youre dads alive at 93 ,good. but is he able to take care of himself?. our deaths are deceided by god.when we die, we die.
• Canada
4 Feb 07
I can't believe anyone would say that. It's wrong to do so. It makes no sense either. No one knows for sure when they will die, and statistics can be proven wrong. The nerve of some people.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Really we certainly do not know how long we will live,usually if your parents and grand parents lived to a ripe old age then you probably will too, but you never know when you can get sick or be in car wreck or a big rock fall on you or a big storm happens on top of you , many things ,so just enjoy everyday like it could be your last :)
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
4 Feb 07
If idid that sern I'd be maxing out my credit card and coming to visit you!! LOL. I just take each day as it comes. Some days are good some days are great. A great day is when I am at peace and can give thanks for the bounty that has been given to me. That includes my dear friends mate. ;)
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• Malta
7 Feb 07
Yes there are certain countries that have a very short life span. I was watching a documentary the other day where people of 45years old were considered to be very very old. I will not mention the country, just in case I might get people mixed up because I do not remember which place it was. I was stunned! Good job that here in malta the female normal life span is 86 while the male is 83!
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@clod0327 (817)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
I'm really not aware if Indians have this kind of perception. But what I do know is, if you're living a perfectly healthy life - you exercise, you watch what you eat, you refrain from the bad habits of drinking & smoking - then there's nothing for you to worry about. My dad is almost in his 50's now but he is still healthy and strong. My grand mother is already 82, but she is still as strong as a teenager. It all realy depends on the kind of life you have. So don't worry.
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• Netherlands
5 Feb 07
Well I am sure that is quite a wonderful thing to hear. Like "Hi, you're old. You will die soon." Even if it were true, no one needs to hear that sheesh. Besides now adays 50s isn't near the end. I wonder what planet he came from?
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• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Im not indian,but I dont know if indians have a record for folks who lived to a 100..i really dont know..but you should have given him a negative rating.LOL..My grandmother is 72 and she is healthier than me,im 30 and has hypertension..I think sometimes its in the genes..My ancestors always die of old age so i think I'll die that way too..
• India
4 Feb 07
Yes, the average Indian living in the cities live only upto a max of around 65. Given the lifestyle and high pollution levels, the life expectancy falls short well below the 80-90 yr mark.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
It was kind of thoughtless, but it was probably also based on Indian longevity statistics. People generally form judgements on the basis of their own society or country. I'm 70 and still kicking. Well, not exactly kicking, but I'm pretty functional, thank you, and plan to be so for a while longer.
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@Fluplup (556)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Very sad story, my age around you, and yes make you wonder if this is a genereal perception of indian people! I hope not, I have a lot's of good friends from India.
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@bluewings (3857)
16 Mar 07
I am sorry that someone could make such a ludicrous comment.I don't know what might have made him/her say that ,but it definitely is shocking and unwarranted.The Indian perception of life isn't like his/her's. I have read a couple of your posts and I find them full of life and zest! If Mylot stays,I am sure we could be having a discussion when you have already seen 100 springs.I Love that smile.:-)
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
What a lovely response bluewings...it's a beaut start to my day. 100 springs eh? 'Fraid I'll need to invest in some spare parts then...bits of me are worn out. lol. Love your penguin as well.
@weemam (13389)
16 Mar 07
OMG ms tickle , I got no chance then I will be 65 next month lol , My Mam and Dad are 89 and 88 so I am planning to be around a LOT LONGER , as my son says I will be able to do a lot more damage yet lol xx
@candygurl24 (1884)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
That is absurd..lol. Maybe the average age is 60 - 65 around them, but here in Canada you're still a young chick! Age is something of beauty..embrace it.
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@GardenGerty (87574)
• Marion, Kansas
15 Mar 07
I noticed that in one of your discussions. I started to say something, but did not. Here in the US, we have at least a 70 year life expectancy. It was weird that two of them said that, and they both were from India. I wonder if they were in their early twenties, where fifty sounds like old age. I am in my 50's by the way, and I am sure your sense of humor contributes to your youthfulness.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 07
Wow Tickle that would have actually really upset me and as far as I am concerned old is not till you are about 80 and it is always as old as you feel not the age you are. Goodness I wonder if they die that early in India. But that was a bit tough to write as a response.
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@buenavida (7421)
• Sweden
7 Feb 07
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